how can i forgive, when i'm not allowed to judge first?

Answer 1

really dont think most actually understand what you are saying-i am amused-lol-lots of love old hippie here

Answer 2

If you were hurt or offended by something someone has done to you, (intentionally or otherwise) you know the need for forgiveness exists in this situation. You do not need to judge the other person's intent or motives or anything else. Forgiveness isn't the same thing as excusing someone because you judge that her (or his) reason for doing something makes it understandable and ok. If you can truly excuse someone's action in this way (i.e., it was really alright for her to do it because...) then forgiveness isn't needed. Forgiveness is needed when you can't excuse the other person's actions. Forgiveness means I bear the penalty or the consequences for your sin. It doesn't mean I say it's ok that you sinned. (If so, I don't need to forgive you, after all.) If you offended me or hurt me, and I decide to forgive you, I bear the consequences of your actions without making you 'pay for it' in any way. I do not remind you of it, exact revenge, give you the cold shoulder, etc.

I know this sounds hard. I'm guessing you've tried all the easy answers. If they worked, you wouldn't still be asking.

Answer 3

What does judging and forgiveness have to do with each other?
Forgiving is the act of not holding a grudge against a person that has harmed you. Judging is the act of comdemning the person. Neither are even remotely the same. Give up your bitter disposition and smell the roses. Be a giver and go on with life.

Answer 4

You are not allowed to judge someone's soul but you are expected to judge their actions.
Example:
If you were raped.
That action is wrong and should be judged as such.
There will be consequences for those actions - but, if the rapist truly repents, the consequence will not be hell.
If the rapist says I am sorry - do you know if they are or are not?
No.
You can choose to forgive them or not, that is your choice.
Remember just because you forgive someone does not mean you must put yourself in a position of allowing that person to hurt you again (that is the consequence of the action).
Not forgiving causes anger and anger is like a piece of hot coal you hold in your hand.
You can point it at whomever you choose, but you are the only person being burned.

In the "Our Father" prayer is says
"forgive us our trespasses as we forgive others".
Do you know why?
Because our God is a loving God.
To not forgive someone puts us in a prison cell of pain.
We cannot move past the hurt.
It festers in us like a splinter under the skin.
Eventually this splinter of unforgiveness causes and infection (well I can do this bad thing because that person did this and that to me so I deserve to be able to do such and such).
This infection if not healed, can cause death (read eternity in hell).
Forgiveness is healing.
God commands us to forgive so that we may be forgiven.
Not by Him, he forgives us for whatever we may do (again as long as we are truly repentant), but when we choose not to forgive others, then we begin to wonder how we can be forgiven and we block the grace that God wants to pour into us.

Answer 5

Well you must understand the sense of both words forgiving and Judging.
You forgive because the person has clearly done a wrong to you and admits it and is sorry.

Sometimes you forgive to make peace even when the other person does not admit his or her wrong doing.

To Judge is almost like to condemn. In a way you could say to judge a person is to deny them your forgiveness.

A person may steal from you , but perhaps you forgive him because you find out he was poor and desparate and regrets his actions.

Another person steals from you but you deny him your forgiveness as you learn he is rich and selfish and has only one regret and that is the fact that he was caught in the action of stealling

Answer 6

I think that judgment implies some sort of condemnation, whether it's apparent on the outside or not. But forgiveness is just the opposite of that. You do not condemn someone for a transgression they have committed against you. Therefore, the two are not in conflict with one another.

Answer 7

You simply ask God to help you for give because your desire is to forgive and
as you allow the desire and God to work in you over time and even immediately the hatred or ill feelings will turnto love for that person and that hatred will no longer bind you down .You do not not need to judge that is Gods job

Answer 8

Jesus taught us that there are basically 2 reasons to forgive: 1) another believer (because he asked you to), and (2) a non-believer (because of ignorance).

The first one Jesus taught on when Peter was puffing himself up with the question "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother? Seven times?" and Jesus responded "No, seventy times seven times. And if your brother compels you to walk with him one mile, walk with him two. And if he asks for your tunic, offer him your cloak as well." The point was very simple - we are to demonstrate to one another the same love and heart of giving which God has shown us.

The second, Jesus showed us at the Cross. By forgiving those who wrong you in ignorance, you open the door to them to receive the Gospel.

Jesus' examples are not demonstrated with pre-requisite judging, but as a demonstration of how we as ambassadors of Christ should behave. Having an attitude lacking a heart of forgiveness put us in danger of being judged in the same manner. (Matthew 7)

Answer 9

people wrong you and you will feel against them but forgive them whether they continue to greive you or dont care for you. thats what is meant. ask Jesus into your life and be born again by the power of the Gospel (an actual real life event in your real life) if you do this in a prayer sincerely God will answer you!

Answer 10

On this site in reply to my posting on Pat Robertson apmresearch (i think) asks, "so I take it you judge all christians by the actions of one man" I told him, "Why not didn't god judge all men and throw us out of paradise by one man, Adam? If you believe that stuff!

http://www.total-knowledge.com/~willyblues/

Answer 11

It's judgmentally (condemning) that we cannot do, not judgment in the sense of discernment is a necessary part of life.

We can only forgive what we acknowledge. We can only acknowledge what we can discern.