I would really like to know what you think about how you should punish your child for doing something wrong. Can you tell me how you think it works and why you think the opposite of that punishment ( ex. time out to spanking ) is wrong.
2006-07-02 09:59:09 · 20 answers · asked by Salty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think when kids are young (between 1 and 8) smacking their hand seems quit effective. Swats on the bottom don't hurt either if they really need it. Children have to be taught that there are consequences. Otherwise when they get to be teenagers watch out!!! Too late to swat that bottom now. The important thing is to teach them out of love & be consistent. It's not love if you let your child get away with anything & you choose to disipline them ineffectively. People say...well i do the timeouts & it doesnt work but i wont hit my kid because hitting is wrong....excuse me...wouldn't you rather whip your kid now or wait & have them drunk & screaming in your face when they're 16 & getting killed in a car wreck because they knew you wouldn't do anything about it...you never had before...They have to know there's consequences & they have to be enough so that we are able to teach them properly. I think I'm a good mom...my son would agree...& I have spanked him...haven't had to alot because he's a good kid...& I expect him to raise his kids the same. If you love them you will do what it takes to raise a healthy happy loving human being...and that takes discipline, plain and simple. Discipline & consistency. Without the 2 why bother having children if you're not going to teach them how to grow into a desent adult. The world has enough trouble makers. Let's put some effort back into raising our kids. Get back to God & get back to discipline & teaching them right from wrong.
2006-07-04 17:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sitting quietly as punishment, not necessarily in a corner, gives a chance for an escalating situation to be extinguished. Arguing is not an option and a lot of parents with argue and reason with their child instead of going straight to no means NO. I also do not believe spanking is wrong. There is a difference between a single swat to their behind and getting completely out of hand. Also children are very familiar with their parents' techniques of punishment. Yell all the time...they'll tune you out. Spanking gone overboard...they'll hit you back eventually. Giving in...they'll argue with you until you say ok. Time outs work for us because there is no yelling, no spanking, and my boys know that after that few minutes to cool down, they talk, I talk if I'm wrong I say so.
2006-07-02 17:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by shanesmommy01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I whipped my son's a**.
He's a grown, responsible, and mannerable young man now.
I would have done him a disservice had a made him do the 'time-out' thing.
Time-out doesn't work and it is too time-consuming.
'Whipping that a**' only takes a few seconds and the effects are positive and long-lasting.
My son has suffered NO psychological meltdowns and I admit, I tore his behind up on the regular.
I did not abuse him.
I corrected him with love!
As he got older, he saw less and less of the belt...because...I started pulling a few of his privileges to get my point across.
2006-07-02 21:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spanking, beating acrap out of it would not work. sitting in the corner still would not work. restricting them to do want they want will help. they go on tantrumns? that's okay. kids are more likely to be taking advantage in all ways possible. let them show your limit. and look to them seriously when telling what they did was wrong.
2006-07-02 17:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by ravencracks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does, but you need to be consistent. I'm sure you heard of this many times. But that word CONSISTENT is a very useful meaning.
ARE YOU GOING TO FAIL IN THIS TEST?
First, before you say "no", do you really mean "no". Because your going to have to follow through with your consistent "no"?
If you are unreasonable, think before you make your statement.
Are you going to give in? Don't
Have them sit at a corner with no stimulation 2-3 minutes for a 2-3 year old. Trust me it is so boring to face that wall. Cross their hands. And you are going to have to monitor them facing the wall. Their fingers/hands are great for stimulating as puppets and picking at things.
I'm speaking from experience, I was a young parent who sought out a Psychiatrist to give me knowledge in raising my kids without spanking.
Remember consistent goes both ways in respect. If you promise something to your child.....Come through for them........
2006-07-02 19:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by joe-dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. They will get sick of sitting in the corner after a while and will remember that when they go to do it again.It will take a couple of times before they get the point but it is alot better then abusing them.
2006-07-02 17:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by justme_248 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. It depends on for what. I do use spanking when it is called for, like the behavior is dangerous to the child or someone else.
2006-07-02 17:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by AMY L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids need boundaries in life and need to know how far they can go. Positive re-enforcement to show that you want them to realize what they did was wrong and need to sit in the corner and think about what they did, then go and apologize for what they did.
2006-07-02 17:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by new mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it works saw it on Nanny 911.
2006-07-02 17:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by lisa t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the child.Also takiing things from them is an option.
2006-07-02 17:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Carmal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋