Me and my husband just had a baby, hes 24 days old. I am breastfeeding him and try to give our baby to my husband to play with and to sometimes change his diaper. He feels left out of the whole bonding expreience with our baby. What can i do so he feels like he is bonding more with our son?
2006-07-02 09:30:42 · 17 answers · asked by new mom 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I breastfed all 3 of mine, and honestly I was so young and tired I don't remember my hubbys respose with the first 1 lol! We've all been there right? Anyway, WHen my 2nd son was born my oldest was starting kindergarten. So every morning from a couple days after we came home from the hospital my hubby would lay in bed with the baby and give the morning bottle while I got the older one ready and took him to school. Most nites he would also give a bottle when he came home. I actually never pumped, I just made a bottle of formula. I know "the experts" say not to give a bottle before 6-8 weeks (or something like that) but it was great with mine. If they were hungry they would take whatever was offered! Breast, bottle, formula or breast milk. It had the added benifit for me that I could go do something on the weekend (after spending all week with the baby) and not worry about rushing back.
It sounds like your hubby is very involved and you guys are gonna be great parents!
Congrats!
2006-07-02 16:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by beth l 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
You can use a breast pump, and pump right before it is baby's feeding time and then put the milk in the bottle, and then Dad can hold baby and feed him and burp him. You don't have to do it every time but that way your husband doesn't feel totally left out. Also let Dad burp the baby and that way he will feel more bonding with the baby.
Good luck and keep up the breast feeding.
2006-07-02 10:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by happy_armywife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try giving him some alone time with your baby. like if you need to go to the store or something, leave the baby at home with him so he can bond with him. also, make sure that you give him as much attention as you can, i know that can be really hard with a new baby, but husbands tend to get jealous because all this attention they used to get is diverted to the baby. when the baby is asleep get some good quality one on one time with your husband, that may help a little so he doesnt feel like a third wheel
2006-07-02 14:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, well thats a good question, when you breastfeed, does your husband watch?
A good way to have the entire family bond, is to set all together on the couch while you breast feed the baby. Or express some milk and let your husband feed him.
2006-07-02 09:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bethann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband that your son is only 24 days old and tell him that he should feel left out because in the end he will have plenty of bonding experiences (like playing catch or shooting hoops) and im sure that you could let him hold and play with the baby alittle more.
2006-07-02 10:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Salty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times I would breastfead the baby and then hand her over to my husband. He would then rock her to sleep, and I would take a nap myself. But as a previous poster had said, the real bonding doesn't start until the baby is alittle older and out of thier sleep and eat phase.
2006-07-02 09:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by mysweetbrees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are breastfeeding, get comfy then let your hubby cuddle up to you. Let him hold the baby up to you to nurse. Make sure he can make eye contact with the baby also. That way he is in the mix. Close to you and the baby. You can also use a bottle lettinghim feed the baby. Make him feel important. You want to make sure that he knows that he is irreplacible also.
2006-07-02 10:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by witcheekimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always pump and have him feed the baby sometimes with a bottle.. That will help, but it sounds to me if he is playing with the baby and helping thats about it.. There is only so much a father can do and if he is doing it all then thats about it.
2006-07-02 09:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what we did:
While I was in the hospital after our son was born I remained on bedrest for another 48 hour so my husband had diaper and burping duty. This continued uring our night time wake ups. My hubby changed him, I fed him, and hubby burped him. Actually he burped him all the time because I was afraid to hit him hard enought to get results.
My hubby is also the one who is most likely to sing to him.
Or you can really get radical and have hubby breastfeed him (no kidding!)
2006-07-02 09:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your hubby play with the baby and hold him after you fed him . show him how to burp the little one if he doesnt know, try to do everything together with child.it takes time i think all new dads feel that way cause he was so used to just the 2 of you alone , get dad involved in everything and let him have alone time with the baby to.
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2006-07-02 09:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by trini_wife_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋