i have been rasing my sister since she was born.she is six now and she thinks i am her father.im her brother.our dad died a month before my sister was born and our mom died after naming my sister.our grandfather has been trying to tell her that i am her brother but she always says"he cant be my brother he's my daddy silly."i need to tell her the truth but i dont know how to tell her.she asked my gf if she could call her mommy since she was going out with me.my girlfriend said let me think about it.i have been wanting to adopot my sister as my daughter and i couldnt think of a better mom for her than my girlfriend.HELP ME PLEASE
2006-07-02 09:29:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
adopt her after explaining to her what happened to her parents and why it has been you that has been rasing her instead of another adult.remeber that she is only 6 years old and she wont understand the things that happened to her parents but if you show her that you love her she will ask you again someday about what happened to her real mommy and daddy.as far as the gf being the mommy see what happens
2006-07-02 09:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by adandbt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you grandfather has already told her that you are biologicly her brother and if you confirm it that is all that is necessary. She may not be emothionaly ready to accept that information at 6. And in fact if you have raised her since birth and she called you dad you are her foster father. You have acted as a father all her life. So there should be no problem with her calling you father as long as you are honest that by blood you are her brother and your parents have gone on to a better place and love her very much.
But whan it comes to the girlfriend. If you are not married SHE SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO CALL HER MOM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. Talk to your daughter and tell her when you are married than she will become your foster mother and then it will be the right time but now it is not the right time. If you are unwilling to commit to this relationship enough to marry her than you will just be playing games with your little girls emotions.
Honesty is important but it is not important to force her to "accept" the truth she will do that in time. As long as you were honest than she will accept it in time. You should consider bringing out family pictures and showing her your parents.
2006-07-02 16:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by lovingmomhappykids 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how old your sister is - if she is young she might not be able to grasp that you aren't her dad, so you might wait until she is old enough to understand what happened to your parents and why you have been raising her.
Have you tried sitting down with her and showing her a picture of your parents - perhaps a pic while your mom was pregnant with her and explaining that those are her parents and they have passed away. Try showing her pictures of you with your parents as well to show her that you really are her brother and not her father.
2006-07-02 16:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's tough. But you are truly a wonderful person to be raising your little sister. You are all she knows as a father figure and if you are planning to adopt her, well, you will be her daddy anyway. Wait a little bit, explain to her when the time is right, she will love you no matter what. Since you are blood related anyway, what's the harm, eventually she will understand.
2006-07-02 16:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not be her father, but you can be her daddy. The word father is biological but the word dad is so much more. You dont need to tell her you arnt her dad, but when shes older you should tell her what happened to her parents. You obviously have unconditional love for this child and i beleive that you are in sense, her dad.
Jasmine- 13
2006-07-02 16:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by jasminerjennings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably could adopt your sister but you should still try to tell her that your her brother. because it's better to tell her the truth then for her to find out later from some one else. try showing her pictures if you have any of your parents it might help. but you should still do it while she is young
2006-07-02 16:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....that's gotta be hard. Just tell her the truth. She won't understand or even believe you, but at least you've put it out there. If you're young, don't let her call your girlfriend "mommy".....there will be many more "mommies" yet to come.
2006-07-02 16:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by ScurvyWarthands 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. well first of all........ good for you. u r such an amazing brother. u do have to tell her though. take her out to lunch or something and explain to her how much u love her but u r her brother. your parents loved her but it was just time for them to go. you do llike the relationship u have w/ ur sister though and u wouldn t give it up for the world. tell her how great ur girlfriend but fro now... actually it s up to ur girlfriend wht she calls her. u need to tell her.
2006-07-02 16:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her
Better now
then later
she will not hate you
But love you the most and give you a lotter of respect
2006-07-02 16:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a really tough situation, i think you should wait till shes a little older, i think shes not old enough to understand, therefore i think the best thing to do is just for you to keep caring for her and just wait till she is able to completely understand. Good Luck. a
thats really sweet of you the way your caring for your sister, you should be proud of yourself.
2006-07-02 16:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋