my stepdaughter and i are same size but she has taken liberties with using my personal items without permission. she always asks to borrow my clothes and i say no. i give her everything i do not wear anymore including handbags, clothing, etc. my husband okayed my stepdaughter, son in law and granddaughter using our town home while we are out of town. he asked her not to go into closets and try on and wear my things. i called three days later and left message to see if all is okay. i also left message for her to please respect me and my things and not go into my closets and personal items. i told her i love her and would give her the world but since i am not there in townhouse for her to not take liberties. my husband said i was wrong to say something. i told him i was not, these are my things i worked very hard to get and she does not always listen to him so i am very skeptical. am i wrong.
2006-07-02 08:52:18 · 11 answers · asked by carol s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Kudos to you for standing up and saying something.. You have every right to stand up and say something... If you don't ppl are just going to walk all over you... If you kept it in and not say anything it will prob. just fester inside and then make you not like her and resent her some day.. and then she'll say sometime down the line alls you had to do is tell me.. so you did the right thing.. you can't make everyone happy all the time..
2006-07-02 08:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very OK to be uncomfortable about not wanting people to use your personal things. Your husband as well as daughter should respect your wishes. At 35 she is old enough to understand about invading your privacy. If neither of them can respect your wishes and boundaries perhaps a better solution is to not let them stay while you're not there.
2006-07-02 09:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your personal belongings are yours.
Ask your husband how he would like if someone pried into his personal belongings and began using them without his permission....it's just not right and he should understand.
All said, besides very personal things like clothes (which many people object to others using) you could be a little flexible to her using ...like handbags or perfumes etc. Though that too should be only done once you've permitted her to do so.
2006-07-02 09:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by chlschr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong to ask your step daughter to respect you & your personal belongings. Those things belong to you & are not up for grabs without your permission. 35yrs old is old enough to know that. Remind her about it the next time she wants to stay in your townhouse. If she does it again, then don't allow her to stay there again. Or find a way to lock your closet.
2006-07-02 09:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are wrong at all... its your stuff and she should respect that. if not then she shouldnt get the privledge of being able to stay in the home.
Your husband should be sticking by your side on that as it is your items and with him saying you are wrong, I think that HE is wrong for saying that. If she really wants to wear the item that bad, tell her where u bought it and let her go get her own..
2006-07-02 09:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. Your stepdaughter should respect your privacy. Since she is your husband's daughter, of course he'll tell you not to say anything but somebody need to teach her about respecting other's privacy. I'm sure she wouldn't like you going through her things either.
2006-07-02 09:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by blue-eyez76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be 35 but she has the mentality of a 2 year old. With your husband getting angry and thinking you are wrong for setting her straight tackfully....sorry but his mentality is no higher than his daughter's.
2006-07-02 10:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
knock her *** out then she might listen kids need respect for there parents and they don't give it because there is no punishment.
my son was like that well hes as big as me and thinks hes a bad *** and dont listen ether.
i kick his big bad *** like any other person that would treat me like that and i got the respect i would get from any man i would fight. i dont believe in violence but sometimes you have to talk to them in a language they understand!
2006-07-02 09:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by donnieater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Padlock your closet.she has no respect for your personal property.on the other hand it is flattering,she admires your style.you are her fashion icon! be complimented by this.
2006-07-02 08:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. At 35 she should know better. Don't they have their own home?
2006-07-02 09:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋