I am 5 months pregnant and I love my son and I dont think I can like my 2nd son as much as I do my 1st
2006-07-02 08:34:04 · 15 answers · asked by Maria C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not sure because I'm not a mom yet...but I would think once you hold your 2nd son in your arms for the first time...you won't even remember that you asked this question.
I would say what you are feeling is normal. They say there is no greater love...so since you only have one child right now, how could you possibly love someone else just as much.
2006-07-02 08:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by gem 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say no, it's not ok because you're supposed to love both of your children equally and these two children are going to be have very different personalities which means you are going to love different things about them. Since no one is perfect there is a chance that there are things you like about the baby that you don't like about your older son. You haven't met the baby yet so you don't know his personality give the little guy a chance. I'm sure the first time you see him any preconceived notions you had that you wouldn't love him as much will be thrown out the window. Good luck!
2006-07-02 08:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by SB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant with my first child I really wanted a girl but I told everyone that I just wanted the baby to be healthy. And I meant that too..So my daughter came she was spoiled and I got pregnant again and same thing now I wanted a boy and yes I had a boy I love them both the same and yet I love them differently because of their attributes now they are teens all their life I never gave them the impression I love one more than the other and that also bring s them together as siblings too Always remember to treat them the same and If you don't have for both then you don't have at all!!!
2006-07-02 09:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by classy chic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason you should not say that is because years from now someone might repeat it to your second child and hurt him deeply. The spoken word can never be unsaid.
What you will find is that the more you love, the more you will have the capacity to love. The second child will become just as precious to you as your first. Most importantly, don't tell YOURSELF that you cannot love the second child as much. Leave your mind and more importantly your heart open. You will be surprised how much joy enters into your life through your children. You are in for a pleasant surprise.
2006-07-02 09:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a natural feeling. My sister felt the same way carrying her 2nd. She of course adored her 1st son and couldnt imagine loving another one. Needless to say things change. Give yourself some time.
2006-07-02 10:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. You can love them in different ways, but the second baby will be irrevocably hurt to hear you say that. Children are different, and you can love both of them for different reasons. Besides, how do you know the first son won't become a drug dealer? ANything is possible.
2006-07-02 08:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by cbett50 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not o.k. to say that.Anyway the 2nd isnt here yet,and when the baby arrives ,you will be thinking how did i ever think like that.Maybe your feeling a bit down in the dumps and need to talk to a friend or family.Good luck with your baby
2006-07-02 08:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll always hold a special place in your heart for your first son, but you will change your mind about how much you love your second son the first time you hold him in the delivery room.
2006-07-02 08:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by heterophobicgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldn't you like your 2nd baby as much as you like your 1st baby? A mother should love all her children the same!!! just wait until your baby is born you will love and like all your children the same. DOn't worry about it!
2006-07-02 08:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by shasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will change your mind once you see that little baby. You will love them equally. God Bless and Congratulations.
2006-07-02 08:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by scorpgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋