What to do with my life?

Question

I am one of those un-popular people who sits alone and does not have that much friends. The people I know from elementary, middle, and high school are now getting girlfriends/boyfriends, getting into fads, dont reconize me and are doing drugs or whatever the hell they are doing. I dont like criticism and I dont get out that much. I only have my drawing talent and that is getting me nowhere. And everytime I waste away my pathetic life, I wonder if there is even any hope for me. What to do?

Answer 1

I think you need to travel. You need to get away from everyone know you and the town you know and go somewhere new, reinvent yourself (or just discover who you are). I find that travelling always brings me great perspective and insight.. especially eastern Europe, it's just so radically different from North America.. Do some kind of exchange program where you can go work in another country for a year..... that is kind of random advice but it just seems like you could use something like that. Bon courage!

Answer 2

There are lots of people who feel the same way. Many just never admit it.

You need to CHALLENGE the way you feel about yourself. At the moment you are just agreeing to everything you say and think; that you are alone, that nobody likes you, that you have no life, etc. You hear these words day in, day out!

Is it true though? Prove otherwise. Challenge this line of thinking... strike up a conversation with somebody on a bus, on a train or where ever, somebody around your age, gender doesn't matter but prefably of the opposite sex! A long train journey is good because the trips are boring and people like company on a train to see them through it. You don't need to be become best friends but just listen to what they have to say, ask questions, sound interested. We all like to express our opinons from time to time but often feel that we never get the chance or that nobody would be interested in what we have to say. They will quietly thank you for it!

Even if doesn't work the first time, try again. Some people might go quiet and casually dismiss you. Not everybody likes to talk to strangers. Dont leave thinking that you are to blame for this, just see them as antisocial and move onto somebody else.

Find more interests. Join clubs. Travel abroad and join the hospitalityclub.org (recommend it thoroughly). Chat with as many people as possible. You are not going to click with everybody, nobody ever does! Do this often and your confidence will improve; practice makes perfect.

You will surprise yourself and your self worth will start to increase.

Answer 3

Yes there is great hope for you. And may I say how wonderful you are for not wasting your life with the ones that are on drugs. You need to go to Art classes out of your school and museums and art gallery's. Do what you really enjoy and find there will be people that are interested in the things you are. Not pursing your talent as an artist would be a waste.

Answer 4

I sometimes feel the same. You need to look to the future with optimism and focus on your career, though don't get into the trap of become a work-a-holic. You need to do what makes you happy and enjoy doing it. I don't have many friends either, but I'm going to start a new semester soon and am determined to become more talkative, and the only reason you don't make friends is because you're afraid of being judged and what people will think of you if you just start talking to them. Obviously you should start a conversation in appropriate times, but never be afraid to do so. You'll be suprised at how welcoming people are to new friends and meeting new people, you sound like a really interesting guy, you shouldn't be afraid that people don't like you and don't get caught in that popular/unpopular crap because it doesn't exist in my eyes. Going back to making friends; you may feel like people will think you're weird if you initiate a conversation with them, but think how you would feel if people started talking to you. Would you think them weird if they started a convo with you? I'm guessing you're thinking "no", so you shouldn't feel like people will feel the same. Just say "hi", introduce yourself, the rest is history. Good Luck!!!
P.S- God creates everyone with a purpose. You just need to find out what you were put on this earth to do.

Answer 5

Hi there, friend.

First, of all your life is not pathetic. Every breath you breathe is a gift from God. You already have let me know that you are talented in drawing. God has giving you a gift, but your choice is what you are going to use it for.

First, you could go around thinking that your life is pathetic and hopeless.
or...
You could take the gift God has given you to bless others.


"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11-12

Ask God to help you. Tell Him you feel alone. Tell Him that you are worried and anxious of what the future has in store for you.
Tell Him everything that is on your heart, for He will listen. and if you pray believing that He can help you. He will.

I also am going through life, right now, feeling "what is it I am suppose to being doing?" "What comes tomorrow?" What should I do with my life? I so often look at the people around me thinking they have everything going for them, but the truth is I do too! I have hope in God, I have a life just waiting for me to dig in and live it to it's fullest. I may feel that my life is over, but the truth is my life is just beginning, and so is yours.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him who have been called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28

Answer 6

Go to school and use your talent. Share it with others. There are a lot of artistic people to meet and relate to in college. It's time to move on and find your passion. There are people like you.Go find them. In the mean time try to spread compassion and caring. to the less fortunate, neighbors,the homeless, the poor. Acts of random kindness tends to be rewarded in many positive ways. What you give is what you receive. Change you and others change. Don't get discouraged, the right people will come. Let them in. I believe in you.

Answer 7

Smoking a bowl will help you forget about your problems. I assume, however, that you don't really feel like doing that.

My advice is to travel. Somewhere far away, like at least 500 miles. That will clear your head and give you some new experiences, and might even give you a new outlook on life. Good luck.

Answer 8

I think you just keep hangin' in and see where the tides take u... I've been in this situation before too, all your friends have gone their new ways and you think nothing's goin' right. But you learn that what you really need is just to find a few good email buddies, and they'll talk to you almost whenever you want them to! That's what I did! (Mine were girls though! LOL) (It's more fun that way!!!)

Answer 9

You have drawing talent... Thats grate!Cool! Use you talent! May be you have other talent you dont know. Discover yourself. Now, if you like drawing, start studing design. Its interesting and you will have a good career.

Answer 10

I'm in a similar situation. I don't have any friends around me, I just hang with myself pretty much. There's always hope, believe me I've been there. If you wanna talk to someone can always message me or e-mail me ;)