The "father" is always breaking up with me for weeks at a time then while we are broken up he goes and gets drunk and goes home with "the hottest girl there." When we are together he still gets drunk and smokes pot and refuses to quit, saying it is his own decision and he doesn't want to be with someone who controls him. I do not want to be with him, and am going to make sure that we never get back together. He also says that he is going to do whatever he can to have rights to the child. What can I do to prevent this? He lives in Wyoming and CLAIMS he is going to move to Colorado, and I have the choice of living and delivering in either Wyoming or Colorado. He would be living in Fort Collins and I would be in Colorado Springs (about 100 miles apart) if we both moved to Colorado. Anyone have any suggestions?!?!?
2006-07-02 08:22:07 · 12 answers · asked by new_mommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The father also went to jail for Meth the first week of April, but got the case "dropped" so i don't know if i can use that or not.
2006-07-02 08:49:40 · update #1
I'm not going to ask him for child support unless he gains rights to the child.
2006-07-02 08:51:06 · update #2
Basically do not put his name on the birth certificate. If he wants to contest it you will have to prove he is an unfit father. Good luck.
2006-07-02 08:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by optimistic_dr3am3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you of is my own personal experience with the FL system. If his name isn't on the birth certificate and he tries to use his rights to see the child, telling the courts he uses drugs is a big step. Also if he has ever done anything to you or you feel threatened by him in any way he probably would not be able to see the child because the father is only allowed to see the child with the mother present until usually 1-2 years old at least.
2006-07-02 10:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Munki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the two of you are not married he does not have any rights. He can not sign the birth certificate without your consent. So after the birth he will have to pay for a lawyer, take you to court. The judge will have to be convinced to order a paternity test. In the mean time you need to document all these things that he is doing. Also if he shows up at your home intoxicated call the police. Call your local Dept. of Family and Children Services to get all the facts. They can tell you the exact laws.
2006-07-02 10:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by witcheekimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father has rights by law to see and be in your childs life..
The only way you can keep him out is by the court systems.
You must prove that he is a going to be harmful in the childs life.
Or the father gives up rights as a parent.
This is something you should think about..
Sometimes when a father gets that first look at his off spring there will be change for the better.
2006-07-02 08:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r not in a ratlationship at the time of birth the father has no rights at all u r sole Gaurdianship of the child(meaning u have the right to choose urs child doc and kindy school and daycare) but u still need to go for sole custard
2006-07-02 10:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drug use or a history of violence is usually good enough to get a guy's rights suspended, but if he wants to see his child, there's not much you can do. It's his just like it's yours. (I know that's not true, but that's how courts see it). I suggest that you just wait it out. Maybe he'll decide that it's really too much work and give up.
Good luck.
2006-07-02 08:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by almicrogirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what state you live in. You'll definitely have to go to court if you want him to have no parental rights. If he refuses to pay child support he has limited/no rights to the baby depending on where you are.
2006-07-02 08:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by the gawgeous kk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are stating what is true...
And this is not out of spite...
Put a restraining order on him, substance abuse/fear for your health and child. But mean it because you care about the life of you and your child. Not because your angry at him, and this is how to get him back.
2006-07-02 13:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by joe-dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are not married, he has no rights to your baby. Do not put his name on the birth certificate-put father's name as unknown, and unless he wants to pay for a dna test, he will have no rights! good luck!
2006-07-02 08:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by iluvyewmore24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's abusing the child, there's nothing you can do. He's the father, it's not fair to your child to not let him/her get to know him.
2006-07-02 08:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Blessed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋