I'm 15 years old and every Saturday my mom goes out from 7:30 to 5pm and I'm told to babysit my brother. She always says she needs time to herself, but every Saturday ? Then during the weekdays, she works from 3-11pm [during the school year I can't play sports because of this] and I have to babysit then with my stepdad coming home around nine. So usually I have to make my brother dinner . I'm very fed up with having to watch him and really almost give up my social life for my mother. When I do want to go to a friends house she usually says no and I've tried telling her so many times, the calmest way I can, that I'm tired of sitting at home watching my brother. My step-dad usually adds his two cents by saying it's normal, you're learning responsibility but I don't think watching my brother 6 out of 7 days for a large amount of time is normal. I have talked to many people about this and I haven't heard of anyone else having to do this. What do you think about this ?
2006-07-02 08:15:38 · 16 answers · asked by lOve / amor / amOur ™ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Try to talk to her my friend does the same thing to her 15 year son he has to look after his 4 other younger brothers it is not your job to play mother right now in your life try to tell her calmly that it is not fair for you to have him all the time and it is making it so you can not be a kid some parents only think of themselves. It may not work but you could try to talk to her calmly if your father is around maybe you could talk to him or even live with him things might get better if you talk calmly not blowing up at her. Sounds like you are more mature then your mom and stepfather. Good Luck
2006-07-02 08:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by farmerwoman4 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all I think you are a very good sister and daughter.
I wouldn't have done it. And I found admirable that you, having 15 years old can do it.
I think you should have a long talk with your mother, tell her that you understand that she has to work even if her schedule sucks. And that after a long week she needs a break from that. But let her know that you have a difficult week too, and that you would like to spend more time with your friends like usual 15 years old do.
Maybe your step-dad could take care of your brother a couple of times during the week.....you should learn how to be responsible, that's true. But you shouldn't learn how to be a mom.
2006-07-02 15:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by medusa morada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don' think you should be made to watch him all the time....you do have a life too. You should tell her this and that you want to do things like play sports or whatever like everyone else. She needs to get a babysitter (that she has to pay). Maybe that's why she makes you do it....cause she doesn't want to pay a babysitter. It depends on where she's working and how much she's making. Because sometimes it's not worth working if you have to pay a babysitter...depending on how much you make. But that's still no excuse for making you babysit all the time. Maybe you can talk to another adult about it.....a school counselor or a grandparent that can talk to your mom.
2006-07-02 15:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 14 year old daughter and in my opinion, this is asking way too much of you. You should be involved in sports and social activities. Not to say that you should also contribute by babysitting some of the time, but it is not your responsibility to watch your brother that many hours.
2006-07-02 15:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sucks. I have a great idea hire a babysitter.You babysit your brother Monday , Tuesday , Wednesday , and Thursday.Tell the other babysitter to babysit Friday , and Saturday.So you have to only babysit 4/7 days.
2006-07-02 15:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is outrageous! Your mother is the mom of your brother...not you! What does she do every Saturday. She dosen't understand that when she had kids she might need to take care of them once in a while. I think that you should tell her that you have a life too and that you can't spend all of it doing her job.
2006-07-02 15:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by derbreezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right. It is best if you find some alternatives or solutions before you sit down and talk Maybe there are other relatives that could help out so that you can have a life outside of home. Then approach your mom and try to talk to her.
2006-07-02 15:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by dcbowls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is putting way too much responsibility on you. Maybe asking you to watch your brother once a week or so is teaching you responsibility, but as much as she is making you watch him, she is being irresponsible herself. She decided to have another child, not you, and she should take the responsibility of mothering her own child.
2006-07-02 15:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by garciasgirl9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is wrong of your mom, maybe if you got paid for doing it, it wouldnt be so bad, but she is taking away your child hood and thats not fair. i wish i could offer some advice on how to fix it but thats really hard. because im sure youve already talked to her about it several times and obviously that is not working. the best you can do is keep trying to talk to her and hope that it eventually sinks in her head that what she is doing is wrong. im sorry you have to go through this.
2006-07-02 21:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres Something Shes Not Saying.
2006-07-02 15:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋