so i mentioned to my boyfriend that since we haven't seen each other since february i should take off two weeks in september and come see him. they have been short staffed at his job since april which is why it's been so long. so when i mentioned coming to visit he said he wasn't sure. he's not sure if they will have hired anyone by then. i was upset. he didn't even sound like he liked the idea. i look at it likes it only the start of july and i'm not talking about going there for 2 more months. he could have at least sounded a little bit excited about maybe geting to see me instead of just saying he wasn't sure because of work. am i wrong for getting upset? should i just forget about going there all together so i don't end up being disappointed about not seeing him for even more? i feel like there should be more to life than always working and that seems to be all he's been doing for the last 3 months now.
2006-07-02 08:09:04 · 11 answers · asked by Miss Applebottom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, I am going to go ahead and give this guy the benefit of the doubt and say maybe he was just feeling hassled about work or something when you suggested your trip. I would have felt the same way you did when he didn't react the way you expected, but I would try to take into account that maybe he's thinking, "Work sucks right now and if she comes down here I'm not going to be in a good mood most the time and I won't be much fun to be around, so maybe she should come later."
I'm sure you've asked him things like, "Ok well if that's not a good time, can you suggest a better time for me to come down?" If he's said something wishy-washy like, "gee I dunno when," then I would get the impression that he's not making it a priority to spend time with me, and I would start to wonder if he really wants this to work, especially if he's not giving you a lot of "I really miss you... I wish you were right here with me... I hate that we're so far apart..." and other statements which suggest that he wants this to work but things are hard for him right now.
Also, he might work long hours, but it's not like he's working 24/7. If you went down there, he'd see you more than he's seeing you now! What's his complaint about that?
2006-07-02 08:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im in a long distance relationship myslef and me and my bf havent seen each other since may he was suppose to come in june but he ****** up so he couldnt come up so for me i was really disappointed about the whole thing so i would ask your bf whats the deal do u wanna still see me or be with me cuz you dont seem to excited about the idea of me comin down there to be with you if he says something about work again tell him work isnt everything and if he wants to choose work over our relationship thats horrible and tell him if he wasnt feeling you no more then he should have said something instead of usin work as a excuse
2006-07-02 15:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by sexy_enchanted2320032005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly i agree with morgysan if after 3 months he isn't excited to see you sounds like hes moved on i have a long distance relationship too hes always asking me whens the next time hes going to see me and how he can't wait
2006-07-02 15:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of a guy are you dating? He can go four months and not get excited about seeing you? Sounds to me like you should move on, cause I think he has
2006-07-02 15:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by morgysan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I praise you for staying in this relationship. My boyfriend has just left the county and I dont know how I am going to go on with my life and try to save our relationship. We have been together for four years. So this is all new too me.
He should be happy to see you though. I would want him to be excited to see me.
2006-07-02 15:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by fuzzynswishy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear..its okay your gettting upset..you have the right too..he shows no intrest in having you come down at the time being..i would just surprise him and just show up...dont forget about him..stay with him..yes, he might be overwhelmed with work but you have to understand where hes coming from...but then again he has to understand that you miss him and you want to see him..i just think that you should talk to him and tell him how you feel and tell him that you want this to work out but it isnt going to work out unless he makes time for you..if he loves you and cares for you..then he'll make time..
i hope everything works out....
2006-07-02 15:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey from a male point of view he found him self another girl,I hope that I am wrong but that does not sound like a dude that wants to see his pretty girl friend..
2006-07-02 15:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Hea Dude ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait and see how things are at the end of July and if things are fine and his work, I am sure he will let you know.
2006-07-02 15:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jillypooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on long distance relationships are hard to maintain u need commitment from both side
2006-07-02 15:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sandra J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him he's not worth your time, he's cheating
2006-07-02 16:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by J. Gordon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋