My fiance and I have been together for almost 2 years now. I've talked to him about how porn makes me feel and he doesn't plan on stopping. He's cheated on me once before and I really believe that this is just another way of cheating. I think it's vile and disgusting. It really hurts me but he doesn't seem to care. Any advice on what to do?
2006-07-02 08:03:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys make it sound so easy but things get complicated, we have a son together and possibly another on the way (he doesn't know about that one). Not to mention i don't really have anywhere to go.
2006-07-02 08:15:08 · update #1
Ok i guess i have to make this clearer. My fiance does nothing all day but play video games and look at porn. He doesn't work or anything. I am the one working the one taking care of our son the one cleaning the house cooking, ect.
2006-07-02 08:17:53 · update #2
If he won't sacrifice a hobby to put you at ease and doesn't care enough about you not to have cheated before then why are you still with him? If he has cheated on you before then why would he stop looking at porn? He doesn't care enough about your needs as a female in his life, and you should leave him. Marriage is about making sacrifices, and he doesn't seem willing to do that. You need someone who sees you as a prize and has the utmost respect for you. He doesn't fit that description, honey, and you can do better.
2006-07-02 08:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How to avoid porn addiction on the Internet
1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog ,you can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.
2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov
3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.
4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.
5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you need.
6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.
Stick with reputable sites.
If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.
2006-07-03 01:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this bothers you this much, I would say that the two of you might not be a good match. My ex-wife hated porn of all types and got mad at me if I was given biker mags that had topless women in them. My current girlfriend does not mind that I have porn and she even likes watching it. This way we can get ideas on new things to try. I would sit down with a marriage councilor and see what can be resolved prior to your marriage. I would also suggest that the two of you buy a sexual exploration book for couples.
2006-07-02 15:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by andy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What degree of porn are you referring to? Does he look a his porn in front of you?
Addicted is pretty extreme, Does he have a job? Any other interest? Is looking at porn occupying all his time? Or are you so insecure you make it a bigger problem than it is ? Maybe you have the problem
2006-07-02 15:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smarten up, he' a free loading punk that needs his a** kicked.
Then you need to dump him and move on Fu** complicated because the longer your with him the worse it will get. You don't need some where to go, he dose, So kick his sorry butt out.
Then go to DHS and have them help you file for child support.
2006-07-02 16:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by J. Gordon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm - I would strongly suggest counseling BEFORE you marry him. Personally, I would drop the bum and move on. Don't get married until this is resolved to YOUR satisfaction.
2006-07-02 15:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by C D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Are you ignorant? Get the hell out of that relationship... what's the matter with you?
He'll never change, and in fact, he'll get worse, (and he'll be prone to cheat more, and more often!).
What are you waiting for?!?!?!?!?!?! MOVE!
2006-07-02 15:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he needs God. Tell him that he needs to get saved by God. If he does not listen to you then I think you should seperate from him to he gets his self together.
2006-07-02 15:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Faithhhh,[♥] 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you'll see it...............DONT ******** MARRY THE CREEP!! Get out while you still can. I hope you believe in yourself to do what yo know is right.
2006-07-02 15:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by morgysan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
agree with the guys
2006-07-02 15:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by A.Z. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋