Sometimes I feel like his family matters more to him than me, he always listens and does things for his family. but when I ask him something it well see, or this is not the time... like if his family is mean to me, he says ALL the time just ignore them... but you can only ignore so much.. I know I love him, but I dont know if I want this kind of life.. he is very much attached to his family, and sometimes I wonder if he loves them more, since he would do anything for them, and well me almost anything.
2006-07-02 07:36:51 · 16 answers · asked by fleurgerbera 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him about it. Sit down and have a conversation, don't yell! Just telll him how you feel and if he loves you he'll understand. If he pulls the whole family line again tell him it's over. But you have to understand family is very important but you should feel like part of his family too.
2006-07-02 07:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most times people will not do anything less two motivating factors; inspiration or desperation. See where is heart really lies. Sometimes a guy has to be jarred out of his funk. maybe he is so wrapped up in the family he DOES NOT KNOW he is neglecting you. When he want to go to the parent's home, do not go. Go do something else. If he miss you being around then he maybe open to hear you and really listen. If he does not miss you, then you pretty much have the answer.
2006-07-02 20:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you indian? I think he is more attatched to his family . I think u Should spend more time with those persons whome he loves to.Show him that you loves them too. Don't show that u r mean with them. In front of him show respect and care for them as u love them more than him. Don't show ur sadness in front of him or if u r depressed. try to be happy as he will feel more happy and energetic with u? write all ur problems in a Diary according to a date. Everyday show him that u r doing something when he's in the room. but don't show ur dairy or don't show it by urself. If he tries to look at it then say Please Don't look. Let his curiosity rise.
Try to be cheerful everyday as i have directed u above. Try to involve in his family matters more than him as it pretends that u are caring more for them than him and if he is not there then u r always there . make him realise this. then after sometime 20 days after keep the diary open in front of him pretending that u don't know and leave the room form sometime. see him if he's reading the problems that u have faced in the diary. or do something so that he comes to read it. I think then he will realise and will help u everytime as u have helped his parents and family members.
2006-07-02 14:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by biomedical_uttam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but he just seems like hes ignoring ur needs for his family. yes family is important but not so important that u ignore what other ppl have to say and what they need. i would leave him if i were u. im sorry.dont listen to that LuLu chick she has no idea whats shes talking about. ya girls come and go but so do family members. i mean they can leave u to the dogs if they wanted to. sometimes family just isnt worth it.
2006-07-02 14:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a male point of view give the man some head and some coochie, if that aint working than you need to only blame youself because your coochie has been stuck to many times and he might not can feel it anymore or it just may smell like salmon patties.
2006-07-02 14:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by mariodw26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about give and take. There is nothing wrong with him loving his family but he also needs to realize that you are his priority now. Sometimes guys have a hard time leaving mom and dad and cleaving to his wife. Remember in most cases he has been with them longer than he has been with you.
http://www.biblebelievers.com/AllThis.html
2006-07-02 14:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh the exact same thing is happening to me...i wonder is it worth it, is it going to be the same after marriage? So far ive tried to put on the side but i know for sure that it wont be long before it starts bugging me again..oh and his cousinsare so mean including his sister too. sorry if i didnt help but just wanted to let you know that youre not alone with this thing..
2006-07-02 14:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Janine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! Its really different hearing that story from a woman.
Usually its the woman who is closely tied to the family.
Its not gonna get better hon!! Think about your options. You deserve to be with someone who will devote his life to just you and your kids.
2006-07-02 14:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seem your hosband love his familey more then he love you
you sound like a very nice person and your husband should have more respect for you he is a *** hole i dont think thing all going to get any better he is marry to his familey not to you if he was he would listen to you.
good luck
2006-07-02 14:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is his family. Girls will come and go, his family will always be there for him. He also needs to stand up for them. THAT IS HIS FAMILY! WAKE UP GIRL!
2006-07-02 14:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋