My mother wants to continue to drive, but medically she should not.
2006-07-02 07:35:41 · 14 answers · asked by Matt I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've found the best way is to video tape them.
Show them a tape of themselves and they can't deny their own eyes, assuming they can see the TV ;-)
And figure out what they are going to do without a car. For example, will they move close to a shopping area so they don't need to drive.
2006-07-02 07:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by CycloneSteve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her subtlely and simply tell her you are concerned about her and maybe she should just take a break from driving. If she lives alone and not with you, she will still need to be out in the world to get what she needs...so offer to take her places if she needs to go anywhere. Once she's used to this, it may make her feel better to the point where she may not want to drive herself. I wouldn't just tell her she has to quit driving forever, just lead her to believe initially that you want to do this stuff for her and make it seem like time you want to spend with her rather than a chore. She will feel if it's important to you to start taking her out and being with her.. there's nothing wrong with it whatsoever.
2006-07-02 14:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by ladonnaschild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, but only if you promise that you will drive her all over the place...or buy her a monthly bus ticket....or hire a chauffeur for her...or depending on where she lives she can take advantage of this van service for the elderly- forgot the name....or...don't tell her...let tell her doc make her understand why- if he agrees with you- at her next doctor's visit with you present....if you can make her come with you. Help her find other transportation options. Don't just say, "Don't drive anymore!"Good luck. God bless.
2006-07-02 14:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a good son and firmly tell her no. Tell why, and don't let her drive anymore. I had to do it with my grandma, she'd nag about it here and there. But I'm glad I did it, cause we're still spending time together.
2006-07-02 15:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by morgysan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever have a pet that grew old and died? Maybe an example of a pet growing old and needing to adapt will help.
2006-07-02 14:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently tell her its time for her to stop driving.
2006-07-02 14:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they need to relax and driving isnt helping your look.
2006-07-02 14:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Abbi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some websites that suggest strategies for this:
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=424
http://www.seniorsapprove.com/driving.html
http://www.ahealthyme.com/topic/srdriving#s34
http://www.elderhope.com/smartsection.item.111/driving-and-the-elderly.html
Maybe you can get her doctor to lay-down-the-law and get her to stop.
2006-07-02 14:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger/Virginia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the dmv, they'll be the ones who can legally suspend her drivers licence if she won't take logical advice.
2006-07-02 14:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by finalf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her a mechanical wheelchair that goes like...5mph
and the 1st guys idea is good too although she might throw her cane at u or something
2006-07-02 14:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by jw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋