NAVY wife?

Question

My boyfriend is in the NAVY and we are planning to get married. I have gotten advice that it is hard but worth it. I am so in love with him but wondering what it is actually like. What is it like financially and emotionally for myself and kids?

Answer 1

Honey I am not a navy wife but I am a military wife and I will tell you this yes it is at times a hard life, but everyone at times goes through hard times. Your experience is going to be what both you and he make of it, what some other people have experienced you may not and you may experience things that others may not, every career is different so every path is different. The pay at times can be bad but if you are careful and you budget right you will be fine, you will have a place to live, you will have medical coverage, and you will have money for food the rest well you are going to have to be wise with your money. Yes there are going to be times that he is going to have to go away, but there is not a job in the WORLD that at one time or another does not require overtime or business trips theirs are just longer. As for your children there are thousands of children all over the world every day that their parents are gone and they grow up just fine, they will adjust and they will be just fine, just take it one day at a time. Take it from me though don't not marry a man just because of his job that is not a good reason, love him for who he is and be proud you have a man that is willing to defend is country with honor. Like I said some days are good and some days are bad but that is in every marriage, trust me it will be fine but only if you want it to be if you love him marry him, and the rest will all work itself out.

Answer 2

Whether your husband-to-be is enlisted or officer will determine your degree of difficulty..Either way, being the spouse of a military member is never easy. The Navy is a particularly difficult life for family members because of sea duty. It's a drag as a kid and a spouse because you must become independent, but then have to readjust when they return. And you end up moving quite a bit. Sure, they'll move your stuff, but the reimbursements never cover all the costs of setting up a household again (shower curtains, food stuffs, window coverings, items broken or lost in transit). Divorce rate and alcoholism is pretty high, too. Availability of quality medical care is not always a strong point. There is also the protocol/chain of command of military life that you will never be able to change, no matter how foolish their little rules are. In spite of all of the rhetoric re: military taking care of their families, it's still just rhetoric. The military doesn't want YOU or your KIDS. They want the warm body of your spouse to do what they will. Just take an honest look at how they have taken care of their injured veterens...it's disgraceful to see so many young, honorable people ignored or ill-treated. I'm a former military member, and former teacher of many military family members.
All this said, you'll go ahead and marry this person because that's what you have already decided to do. The best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 3

I am a navy wife. We got married after he was in. So for 3 years now we have been separated. That really sucks. He got stationed in Hawaii. Our son and I couldn't go. Cause they won't pay for us to move with him. Which I totally understand. It is hard to be navy wife. Specially when they go out to sea. But what doesn't break you makes you stronger. Just take one day at a time and don't get overwhelmed with things. You have to deal with him being gone. While writing happy letters to your husband. Putting a smile on your face for you children and tell them everything is ok. Daddy is fine. Or whatever the relation. The whole time choke back you tears and your emotions. It can be very hard. Specially with children who aren't old enough to understand. Financially money will be tight if you live on one paycheck.

Answer 4

being a NAvy wife is hard, but I'd do it in a heartbeat!!

financially their usually stable, and it depends on what they do to know how emotionally hard it will be...if he's a navy seal it'll be harder emotionally then if he's a pilot or sailor...

Answer 5

Today pays a lot more then when I was in BUT!! You should make enough to live a "normal" life. No frills. He may be gone for long periods of time where you got to do it ALL. Family support is a big plus. Good luck,

Answer 6

suggest you visit Military.coms Forums under the military spouse community to ask your specifc questions.. you'll get far more accurate and honest honest answers there.