Are white men better fathers?

Question

i always see single mothers with mixed or black kids alone and the mothers with white kids have the fathers with them.

ok I'm just asking if they are better...asking, not saying they are. I was out at the park on canada day with my wife and son. I had seen many moms without a man and they had mixed or black kids where as there were many white dads with their kids on their shoulders, pushing the strollers, etc. For all u angry people who call me "stupid" or a "fuking racist" you should relax. It was just an observation I made that day and a question i was asking....just asking.

Answer 1

the problem you are going to get with this kind of question is that people are going to read it and only see it as a racist thing. The reality is that more black men are absentee fathers. That is a statistic. That does not necessarily mean that white men are 'better' fathers though......think about THAT. Just because a man 'sticks around' doesn't mean he is 'better'. I would agree with some other responses---the color of ones skin does not mae one better or worse, it is all about the individual.

Answer 2

I kind of know what you mean. However, I have seen women with white kids and no husband, either. I'm not sure who has the most, though.

I do believe, though, that black men (or any other) can be as good a father as white men or anyone else, if they so choose. There are some very cool fatherly black types that exist in our world today. Maybe we'll even have one for president some day. Nothing against white men, either. (I am one!) I just wanted to make it clear that no one color is better than the other, as far as potential is concerned.

P.S. Just wanted to add that I don't think you're racist just for asking this question. It is an honest one. If there are more black drug dealers than white drug dealers, is it racist to ask why?

Answer 3

This is a tough question.

No, white me are not "better" fathers. In the 50's, being a single mother was very rare in all races. It was slightly more common in the poor and minority communities but still low.

In the 60's & 70's the federal government decided to "help" single mothers. The way they did it is to give them payments based on the number of kids they had. It also required that they not be married. This slowly changed the way poor people live. For a while, it made sense to be a single mom. I also became less of a stigma.

Now, we have tried to change the law so it doesn't incourage fathers to abandon their children, but the stigma has to some extent been removed. The only way to change things is to once again view someone who doesn't marry the mother of their children as a male but not a man.

I don't think that will happen any time soon.

Answer 4

I dont buy that at all....I've seen more white trailer trash mommas running around with 4 or 5 kids with different daddies.

I think the problem was that the liberal government and all their handouts made it easier for women to have children without worrying about who was going to pay the bill. I'm not saying that they became less subserviant to men to insure the security of a home and support. But, the government went a long way to replacing the father in the home.

I will tell you this....I've seen black fathers with much more well behaved kids then the white fathers with their spoiled little " I can do anything I want" brats.

Answer 5

I guess it just all boils down to the person. I am black, I have 2 kids but I am no longer with their dad. But despite us not being together he is my best friend and he is a better father than most dad that are in the home, weather they are white, Hispanic, Asian, or black doesn't really matter. I do see your point though cause I see this in my community a lot

Answer 6

Man, you believe in charged questions don't you?

I know some very devoted black fathers. I work with them. I know some white fathers that are trash. I really don't know the percentages, and you left out a whole lot of races (Hispanic, oriental, etc).

Offhand, I would say that is not a relevant observation. I think it has more to do with economics, and the morals of the person than the race.

I do not see any relevant information that would support your question.

-Dio

Answer 7

In most cases it depends on social standard, i know black parents who stay together for a long time living a beautiful life and give their kids nice education, but I'm sure that there are many divorced white parents with serious problems.So white fathers are not better fathers than any other fathers of any other ethnicity.

Answer 8

You answered your own question. Nothing racist in mind, but the black guys just want to have sex with the white ladies, laugh at them behind their backs on how easy they were, and then you will never seem them again. They will not take responsibility and help raise the child. To them it is a good time, and now let me find another white girl to have a good time with and leave.

Answer 9

I don't think that white men are better fathers. I think that they're often raised in better socio-economic conditions where they were more likely to see 2 parent families than their black contemporaries. Even when divorced, I think white men often have better work options, also due to role models they grew up observing.

I think this is gradually changing though as divorce rates increase.

However, this is all my own opinion.

Answer 10

Unfortunately, divorce or unmarried pregnancy is all too common these days. I think it depends on the fathers moral fiber, which is made up of a whole lot of things like upbringing, religious backgound, environment, and their own goals and desires. Anyone, regardless of race can be a good father, they just need to want to be, then make the decision to be.

Answer 11

Well i guess there is good and bad fathers in all races...cuz some of my friends have bad fathers and they are white...but I do know what ya mean cuz I work at a hospital and most of the single mothers here are hispanic or black...but I guess any guy can do that.