i met this GIRL a YEAR ago, online...n we talked abt a lot of things...she now says im her best frnd...
the issue is...she doesnt want to send me her PICTURE :-(
shez a GR8 girl...i was never bothered abt how ppl LOOK, n conveyed this to her MANY times...
i`ve tried many ways...many times...NO USE...
could this mean shez less interested in me...?(i know shez not in LOVE with any1 else...)
or...is there any other GR8 way to convince her...???
should i consider LEAVING her, if she doesnt send me her pic...?
please help....
2006-07-02 07:10:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well what will this picture do for you???? Will you ever meet her? cause if not, i mean there is no point. If you see something in the future then tell her that showing herself is not a big deal and that you are interested in seeing her. Tell her that you are not out there to judge and that you have been talking to her for 1 year and that it would be awesome to see her. I don't think you should leave her because of something like that. Keep it like an internet thing and enjoy her stories. etc.
2006-07-02 07:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Maria K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a certain amount of anonimity and safety when forming an online relationship. Some people do it to meet others as they may have a problem doing so in real life. Others do it with the notion that it is okay to start friendships but to nurture them online as distance and maybe even another relationship or marriage is ongoing and they need a respit or escape from said relationship or marriage. There are several other reasons but lets address your situation. It would seem as though she appreciates your friendship online as you can be more objective in your thoughts, opinions and comments towards her. Thus giving her what she needs to validate your friendship as honest and without passing judgement on what she looks like. Many times a woman is judged by the way she looks. Cute girls get the play and attention but they cannot deem that attention as honest and without ulterior motive. Meanwhile, there are other women who feel that they aren't as cute as the others (although they are) and in their insecurity form online friendships only to have them backfire when their looks become an issue like your wanting a picture. If you truly value her friendship then you must respect the boundaries that this friendship was created under. That comes back to that certain safety factor and anonimity. For without it some people cannot conduct themselves in a way that will be real and honest without having to endure the hurt of being rejected for what they look like versus who they truly are. Unless you two have agreed to meet in real life then I would suggest keeping this relationship the way it is at the moment or lose that someone who has become a special friend to you. Good luck, have patience and enjoy your friendships no matter how they were created.
2006-07-02 07:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by The Good Humor Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online dating can be a great tool for meeting new people but of course, it also has its flaws and sometimes the flaws are not receiving the image of that person from the other end and not being able to take them out on a regular date. But nevertheless, staying on the topic, my quesstion for you is, have you sent her your picture? You mentioned that she's not in love with anyone else, so I am assuming she's in love with you? If you answer yes to both of these questions, then its only fair in her part to send you a picture of herself, especially if you two consider your relationship serious. However, looks does matter in a relationship, whether one admits it or not. And there is nothing wrong with that. A person that doesn't look attractive to them is what makes them human and are able to distinguish their type of what is attractive. As long one respects an idividual's humanity, they're not judging. Everyone has their own image of what is beautiful and what is not. On the other hand, if what you're saying is true according to this statement, "i was never bothered about how people look," assuming in a setting of a romantic relationship, more kudos to you. Nevertheless, if you're really considering of leaving her because she doesn't want to send you her picture, and you've done everything you can to try to persuade her to send her picture, you have every reason to do so. But I suggest you stay patient with her and give her more time. I know one year is a long time for anyone to not be able to see an image of someone they care deeply about, and in a sense, it is pretty silly. Since it is online dating, I can understand how some couples are not able to be open about thier physical image or send their pictures to one another, primarily because they met for the first time without seeing each others' faces, but rather they got to know each others' character behind curtains. And as a result, now that they established a connection, one of them may be afraid to go to the next level because of insecurities by their looks and they are threathened by being rejected. Because after all, they learned from each others' personality, not by their looks, and their looks was out of the contex to begin with. Just try to understand from her point of view...relax, its not the end of the world. If you truly love her and she loves you, be patient with her 10X more. Even if she never sends her picture to you, stay friends because its not worth loosing a great friendship. Goodluck.
2006-07-02 08:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by romeo4evernever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think that she is less interested in you because she doesn't send you her picture is just that there is people that don't believe in pictures and not because their ugly but because they might not be photogenic and leaving her because of that would be dumb. Try meeting her in person, maybe she would be more comfotable with that or just ask her that you want to see her and see what she answers. Then if she doesn't want then I think that she is hidding something from you and she is acting wird....
2006-07-02 07:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by micf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes ashamed at the way she looks, too ashamed to send you a pic, maybe shes afraid after she sends a pic of herself to you, if your not satisfied you might not email her anymore or talk to her. i understand how she feels but i've sent my pic out and i've always had positive feedback so just let her know you'll be there for her whether shes hot or not, and if she just isn't comfortable with sending a pic of her, accept it, and if your a good friend, you'll accept that and respect that and still talk to her. Good Luck!
2006-07-02 07:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wanting to send you her picture would be a definite red flag for me. Either she is lying to you or she is waaaay insecure, either way I wouldnt stick around too long with her if I was you.
2006-07-02 07:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLLOOOOOO WAKE UP N SMELL THE COFFEEE... SHE SAID YOU'RE HER BESTFRIEND.. SO ERR.. WHAT PART OF YOU WANNA LEAVE HER GOTTA DO W/ THIS??? U'R NOT DATING HER.. YOU'RE NOT EVEN WITH HER.. SO HOW'S "SHOULD I CONSIDER LEAVING HER" RELATED TO U??? SHE HAS A CHOICE OF NOT SENDING U HER PIC. IF U DOESN'T LIKE IT THEN STOP TALKING TO HER. STOP MAKING SUCH A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT.
2006-07-02 07:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by AzNgUrL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it.After all it's just by email.Doesn't matter if she doesn't give you her pic.Carry on the friendship.
Good luck.
2006-07-02 07:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋