2006-07-02 06:50:52 · 12 answers · asked by xzhou11377 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
meaning he said he didnt love you, sorry but yeah he means that, its weather or not he means it when he says I LOVE you that is debatable
2006-07-02 06:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, that depends on soooooooooooooooooo many factors. Does he really mean it ? Well, how old are the two of you ? How long have you been going together ? Have you slept together ? Did he tell you first ?
If you are quite young - as far "love" goes (meaning under 25) - chances are good that he doesn't mean it. If you are REALLY young (like, under 21) then the chances get even higher that he doesn't mean it. Mostly because he doesn't know what it means to really love someone and because, being male, his mind is blurred by raging surges of hormones and testosterone.
If you have been going together for a long time (and I mean over a year at the very least and preferably over two years) the chances increase that he may well mean it. But if you are still in the first months of a romance, then, no - it's the giddiness talking. (That, and the fact that he wants to sleep with you.)
If you two haven't slept with each other yet - then it is further complicated. You have to ask if he is telling you he loves you because he wants to go to bed with you or because he cherishes you and respects you and loves you for what you are. Again, if you are young, likely not. If you are older, the chances improve that he is telliing you he loves you for the right reasons.
Who said it first ? Ooooo, such a big deal --- especially if you two are still in that "giddy" stage I referenced earlier. If he is replying to you after you told him that you loved him, then the chances are good this is simply a "pro forma" response from him. He tells you what you want to hear - not only because it will surely get him around "the bases" but also because then he doesn't have to "talk" about his actual feelings (which may be that he likes you but doesn't love you - yet.) How awkward it is when the girl says she loves the guy and then the guy says, "thanks." Or something like "you're sweet." Ouch!
This love is a tricky thing and your question is not simply answered. You have to examine all the circumstances before you can even venture a guess.
2006-07-02 07:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is so upfront about it then he might really mean it...as far as guys are concerned, they dont beat around the bush for these kinda things...also if he is saying it & doesnt mean it then he is probably taking a big risk in case you take him seriously & just forget it, which i think no guy would take & why would he...also why is it that he is saying so if he doesnt means it, i mean there would have been a really strong reason for it?? did something happened between you guys which made him say so?? & what kinda relationship do you guys really share?? are you pretty frank with each other?? i think the best judge will be your heart cuz your gut feeling tells a lot about these kinda things...if you feel he is lying then try to find the reason& then try to think of a solution...talk to him to know what exactly is going on in his mind...so think about it from all these perspectives & maybe you can figure it out...
Goodluck!!
2006-07-02 07:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to Yahoo Answers so far the feeling is that you can believe a guy if he tells you that he doesn't love... But, If he says "he loves you" .... don't take him at his word.
Why's that?
Because "I love you" can be manipulative.
Yeah, sure but under the right circumstances ... so can "I don't love you."
People want to be desired and loved ... sometimes they'll do just about anything to make another person love them.
In other words ... "I don't love you" can be a tool too. I've had a girl do some pretty exciting things trying to change my mind.
2006-07-02 07:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether he means it or not, it seems to be his way of warning you up front that he can never love you the way that you need to be loved. so you if you stay around and give your love to him, knowing that he has not intentions on loving you back, when and where will you get the love that you need? If you need to be loved, I would consider finding someone who can love you the way that you need to be loved. Dont settle for less than what you need and deserve. You are valuable and what you bring into a relationship is valuable too. Share your love with someone that can respect and appreciate you.
2006-07-02 06:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a guy is trying to get in your pants, he loves you very much. I think that is an old game guys play. Give into him and see.
2006-07-02 06:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dave D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "Loves not" - you mean he said he doesn't love you? I really don't know what you mean - but if he said he didn't love you then yes I would think he really meant it.
2006-07-02 06:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by You'llneverguess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do and some don't. There is no way we on Yahoo answers can know what is in the mind of every guy.
2006-07-02 06:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♥fluffybunnyears 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most likely
2006-07-02 06:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by bkemt6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-07-02 06:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋