I have a younger sister, and she is pregnant and already has two small children. She is married yet separated. Her no good husband kicked her out of the house that they were living in. So, they are living with me. With a baby on the way, and two small children, life can be uncomfortable in a one-bedroom apartment. She has already went under bankcrupcy, so she cannot get a place on her own, even though that would be ideal... What should I do? Only sensible answers please.
2006-07-02 06:49:34 · 13 answers · asked by Mary C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take your sister down to your county district attorney's office and have her file for child support. Its free and they will collect money from his paycheck to support those children. They will track him down and attach is wages. If he quits or dosent work, the amount of child support will still accure so if the court orders him to pay 650 a month and he misses a month now he will own the next 650 plus what ever is behind.
That is something you can do while waiting for hte baby to be born. After the baby is born, there are free Government funded daycare centers that your sister can leave the kids with while she looks for a job and even after she finds a job . The best thing you can do, is keep tellinbg your sister that everything is going to work out.
2006-07-02 06:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by heidinichole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't know you or your sisters situation entirely I can only offer some suggestions. First your sister needs to get some help, and she should start with getting on WIC (women infant and children) this is a state assisted program that will help her receive supplemental foods for the kids, and formula for the baby once born, until then I believe they supplement some foods for the mother. Your sister may also need some counseling as I am sure she is going through alot of emotional stress right now. (as are you) Having been through a similar situation myself I know the struggle ahead, get a lawyer or at least find some answers from one. I am not certain of what public assistance is available in your area or what the laws are, but this information can be located usually at the public assistance office. Sometimes churches can direct you and provide you with services that are willing to donate some time. The best thing is to get things set out so that you can look at what needs to be done. Start with what you can fix and then move on. I commend you for taking in your sister and her children, remember that you can love her without putting yourself into the middle of the mess. Sometimes people won't help themselves if someone is willing to do it for them. Insist she start getting help as I mentioned above, otherwise you will end up with a houseful of people you resent. Goodluck, and God Bless.
2006-07-02 07:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way that the marriage could be saved? What is the underlying reason they aren't getting along (to put it lightly)? If things can't be worked out, why not have a divorce be finalized and then sue the father for child support? That way she could either use the moeny so that she and someone else can split the cost of a home or, maybe, an apartment would give her a second chance if she can prove she has that as a source of income? If the father refuses to pay court-mandated child support, his wasges can legally be garnished for the amount owed.
2006-07-02 06:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men are just pigs huh? it take a real low life to kick his woman & kids out!! the only thing I can suggest is maybe have her look into section8 housing & then take his *** to court & nail him for child support!!!!!!!!!!! I have to be on disability, & I also have 2 daughters. I have a pretty nice 2 bedroom & all utilities paid, plus cable for $150 a month. I dont like to brag, but if a person needs it, THEY NEED IT!!! Not everbody can live in a mantion (spelling)? A person should not be embarassed to have to use the system, & when there are kids involved, if she has to, she has too! I wish you guys the best of luck!!!!
2006-07-02 06:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by mafiagirl1996 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to look into what government/state help she qualifies for, that will help both you and her will bills, that may take some time before she'll start receiving the monies. Then depending on what her status is with her husband, and how you and your sister feel about it perhaps you can get a larger apartment to make it more comfortable for all of you. I know in California you can get aid for daycare (though I don't know if it is state or federal aid) if she needs or wants to get a job to help support her family.
I hope this helps you and your sister.
2006-07-02 06:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried getting her on PUBLIC ASSISTANCE? My mom worked for the welfare department for 20 years.... Go to your State's website, (example, Georgia.gov), and try doing a search to apply for welfare, food stamps, etc.... Because of her children, she will be eligible for help. They may even apply for her to get "low-income housing" (where the government pays for the majority of her rent)... If she doesnt want welfare--then thats too bad, because you are not responsible for taking care of her for the rest of her life. DONT KICK HER OUT, but be patient and know that God will bless you for helping her. You are doing an incredible job, and may God reward you for being such a good big-sister...
2006-07-02 06:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can she file for some sort of assistance? That may be able to help her out with getting a place and some money and get her on her feet. Also, start looking for not for profit agencies that offer some help to single mothers.
Hope that helps some.
2006-07-02 06:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by bklyn2808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 02:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though she really is in a position to apply for welfare. She can probably get some assistance until she gets on her feet. It is not shameful to ask for help when you really, truly need it.
2006-07-07 12:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to social services. They will get her a place and pay for furniture.
2006-07-02 06:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋