ive been with a guy for 4 yrs. he has been out of a job for 3 of those 4 yrs. i have watched him desperately look for jobs but nothing has come up yet. he is wonderful in all aspects of a "perfect" man, except for this one very important part. he doesnt cheat, lie, drink, smoke, or go clubbing(all things i like in a guy)... i can count on him for anything, he does side work thats not always reliable. i have a college degree and want something outta life. i hate to leave him when he's down but 3 yrs is more than enough time. any ideas on what i should do?
2006-07-02 06:47:23 · 8 answers · asked by Ms. DeVine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say to leave him, because in 3 or 4 years if he hasn't found anything or a job, leave. There is better out there for you. I know it is a hard thing to do, but you have to think of yourself for a change. I think you are emotionally tied to him, by his kindness, but that isn't going to pay your bills. Hard thing, but it is for the best.
2006-07-02 06:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dave D 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If like you are saying that you know that he is looking and has not come up with any thing then maybe you should help him in different area's to help him get gainfuly employment. If you have found the person you love and he does have everything you are looking for except that, maybe you could stay and help him with this. Who know the next person you meet will have a different fault works but like's to cheat.
I hope you two can work this out for the best in your relationship and make things work.
2006-07-02 06:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I always believe that kicking someone when they are down is not the right thing to do but on the other hand, if he is probably not happy because of his luck and you are not happy because of his luck there is really no point in the both of you being unhappy. If you honestly think you would be better off without him then move on. But if you think its worth the wait then wait it out. Do whatever makes you happy. Lifes too short to spend time on unhappiness!
2006-07-02 06:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by o3rockstarswife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what your bitching about. Yoy say he is everything you want in a guy except this one thing. Sounds like you think your better that him with your college degree and all. Maybe its him who should dump you!
2006-07-02 06:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by bugadont 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all do u really love him? sure he cant find a good job. and i am sure he is trying his best , dont knock him down and out yet.but by reading wht u wrote i believe u have made up your mind
2006-07-02 06:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by cody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he is treatin you well, you pay the bills, and he knows it.your a sugar mamma, and i think 3 years is more than enough time to get it together, i think you should tell him to get a job or get gone
2006-07-02 06:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should see if he can get a job, if not then leave him
2006-07-02 06:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by clashgirl3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay cos maybe u will never find a guy like him again.always be there for him, he need u now.
2006-07-02 06:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by Angel. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋