i cut myself really deep and im covered in scars, there big,wide and red. i really want to stop ne ideas? lol?

Question

ive been cutting myself for 10 years (since i was 10) and ive just come out of a psych unit after 4 years. ny legs, arms, neck are all amess and ive been in hospital 3 times this week for stitches. i really wanna stop but when im stressed i reach for the razor. i dont know how to stop. has anyone been through it or understands how im feeling?

Answer 1

Ok......
here is what you do.....
get a notebook.....
write in the notebook.......
I do not want to hurt myself or others......
I used to pinch myself that hurt pretty bad so i didn't need to cut myself....
plus...talk to yourself and say....stop it now..
I accidently got a splinter under my fingernail and let me tell ya it was painful!
plus...it took days to get the splinter out from under my finger nail...
then getting stung by a hornet was bad..
what i am saying is there are things that hurt you not things you do to yourself....
problems do go away eventually.
for stress take up YOGA....
I am serious you will see a big improvement in your attitude..
Yoga has different degrees of helping you.
Meditation/ soothes the mind
exercise soothes the body
both helps the whole body....
try Yoga........practice it....
look on the web for ideas about it..hope this helps

Answer 2

Theres a problem with cutting. You do it when the tension has built up, and cutting gets the credit for relieving the tension. So next time you feel the same way you are more likely to cut.
Its not the cutting that 'helps', though; its the physical pain. When the tension builds up so bad , you live through it and nothing bad happens, but still the tension builds. Nothing happens to make it come to a head, or a conclusion; pain is a way to make it stop and bring release.
There is a technique you can use to help yourself if you want to stop cutting. Keep ice cubes in the freezer, instead of cutting wet an ice cube under the tap to prevent freezer burn, then squeeze it in your fist and hold it there.
It hurts the same and you'll get the same release. It won't deal with why you feel that desperate in the first place; but you can use it as a healthy alternative to cutting.
Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Been through it and understand. Even the lol at the end although that would be a :-) to me. It's too late now to go into it. :-( Had a busy day but the bottom line is you have to ask yourself WHY you are cutting. Which emotion are you releasing? Anger, fear, frustration ... that is the three main ones i can relate to. There are probably more but not that i'm any use on those. Whatever the reason stress is one of those useless medical generic terms that don't get you anywhere. You have to question yourself ... and be prepared to answer yourself too. Some call it soul searching ... others would call it psycho analysis. Be prepared for things to get worse before they get better. Take care, be lucky

Answer 4

It doesn't help take the pain away, you just think it does. It only causes more pain. Do you really think that people want to hang around or date a person who mutilates themselves and doesn't respect themselves? No. Get rid of all blades. ALL. Do not buy one blade. Scars last a long long long time. Some can fade to the point where you can barely see them, and some will stick out like a soar thumb. Grow up and go get some professional help.

Answer 5

The only person who can help you with this is yourself. If I went to your house now and removed all your razors or 'cutting objects' you would find somthing else to cut with. I am a psychiatric nurse and unfortunately there arent enough groups or agencies who deal with self harm. However the fact that you have been in hospital for so long and continue to self harm shows that you have not succeeded with stoping even with professional help. I feel that you will grow out of this behaviour in time and you will have to deal with the scars. Being in hospital for a long period can lead to institutionalisation which basically means you will find it hard to cope in society and therefore will cut, as an alcoholic will drink in times of difficulty. You need to take responsibility for your own actions and as soon as you stop saying 'i cant help it' you will begin to get better. If you think of an alcoholic who drinks to help themselves cope! when they recover, the are still referred to as a recovering alcoholic and will suffer from temptation to drink for the rest of their lives. This will bee how you may feel....i dont know if your at the stage yet where you deeply want to change your behaviour, and until you are, you wont!

Answer 6

i have been self harming for about 10 years now, i used to use razorr blades, i get emotionally stressed out all the time, though i havnt cut in about 6 months i have bit myself and punched myself in the face and head, i would lift something and whack my arms with it until they were all hard and brused. as time has went on it has got less often and i can control it better. until i have a really bad emotional day then i have to fight the urge, which is so hard but what you need to do when you feel like cutting is get a bath put on your make up (if your a girl) and go out for the day. maybe take the dog out if you have one, or go buy yourself something. if you are ever feeling down email me k xxxx time is a good healer

Answer 7

Why do you like pain so much ? you need to ask yourself this question? continue seeking help do not give up. this is not abnormal people do the same thing everyday, they use drugs which hurts them or they are involved in a relationship that is abusive, First know that you are not alone in anything you may go through i have my issues to and so does everybody else you need to pray get a spiritual advisor join a house of worship confide in friends and family and love yourself we are all here for a purpose figure out yours and focus on it stop hurting yourself you don't deserve it. Good Luck! I willl pray for you. And if nobody told you they love you today I LOVE YOU!

Answer 8

1) Find an alternative for stress relief. Listen to music, run around in circles, heck, you could even play MapleStory. Just find something that makes you feel good. I know how cutting does relieve stress, but I always felt that the aftermath was terrible.

2) Threaten yourself. Think of the negative consequences of cutting: think possible tetanus/lockjaw, think having to hide the scars from other people (this gave me hell, I had to wear jackets under a blistering hot Singapore sun), think disappointing people who want you to get better & care for you. It's not worth it, you'll see.

3) Reward yourself. A week without cutting? Treat yourself to something small, maybe a meal outside. A month without cutting? Buy that accessory you've always wanted. A year without cutting? Run out of your house screaming your victory. "I ROCK!" does fine.

Answer 9

I have never done this, nor had any friends who have. I would suggest getting anything out of your house that is sharp, and could inflict that sort of pain. If you are still thinking about reaching for the razor, you possibly should go back to the psych unit, because obviously you are not cured.

Answer 10

Have you talked to a mental health care provider? You can go into the psych unit a million times but unless you follow up with after care this is not going to stop. Get into outpatient counseling! This is a tough thing to stop you can't do it alone. Good Luck hope things get better.

Answer 11

Hiya, i used to self harm and i too have scars (needed 18 stitches on one cut)
I found this website really useful, its www.buslist.org.
It really helped me out and there are distractions and lots of places to chat to people who are understanding. If you go on there then find me, my username is zowee.
Im better now but will still continue to be a part of the site.
You want to stop so thats good, thats the first strong step. WELL DONE!