I am wondering if there is anything I can do to get my daughters father's right taken away. He has done nothing for her, will not help pay for her, yet still thinks he can make decisions and tell me what to do about her. I am 21 ( she is 28months ) and her father is 23 (acts like 4 year old ). He has threatend to take her from me saying she is better off, yet he has thrown half cooked and still cooking beef next to her, jumped out my window with her there and was caught trying to get her high on weed( hot boxing in a bathroom ) when she was 2 months old saying he thought it would be funny. I have already got full cutody but he still has visits once a month ( even though he never comes ). How can I get it so he will just be out of the picture and not a threat to her health or well being anymore? * I live in Wpg.Mb.Canada*
2006-07-02 06:36:20 · 16 answers · asked by fiestyroo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have petioned for child support and since then he wont get a job and lives at all his friends houses. His parents are also highly religious so they always back him up saying he is just misunderstood. And the court system here for family law is called collabrative law, all you do is sit down with your lawyers and try to work things out for yourselves. All I got from it the first time was sole custody, which is good but he still can see her and on the odd times he does show up he is always under the influence of something. I am able to take it to a judge but only if other lawyers think fit and most out here don't. They mostly say a child is better seeing 2 parents even if one isnt great. personally I think that one good parent is better than 2 not so good.
2006-07-02 09:43:03 · update #1
First of all, since you two were never married, he has no legal rights to the child in the first place. Even if he signed the birth certificate, he has as much right to the child as I do. Stop the visits and tell him that if he wants to see her, then he needs to take you to court and establish paternity and file a petition to legitimate and a petition to seek visitation. Thats going to cost him a lot of cash, because he will need counsel to do so. Is he paying child support regularly? Can he prove it? All these things matter in the eyes of a judge. My ex-boyfriend and I just ended a court battle over the same thing with our 7 year old daughter. He is a deadbeat drunk, and he wanted to legitimate and get visitation.....when he got on the stand and told the courts that he never paid support, never saw her on a regular basis, and that he didnt have a place of his own although he was/is gainfully employed, the judge told him that he didnt deserve the right to be a parent and terminated his rights. So, the next time you talk to him, tell him that if he wants to see her, he has to take it through the court system and remind him that in the eyes of the law, since you two were not married, he has no legal rights to her whatsoever and the visits he was getting was because you were being nice. Trust me.....been there..done that.
2006-07-02 06:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I was wondering since you have already went to court for custody have you also petitioned for child support? You really should do that...then they will force him to pay and when he doesnt that is one more thing against him as far as trying to revoke his visits. Oh and also after a certain amount iof time of his failure to pay it auto matically revokes his rights to her (at least in the US it does)
The truth is it all depends on how far you are willing to go.....you can call a hearing to re evaluate that once a month visit (or perhaps they will make it a supervised visit) but are you willing to tell the court that he did drugs around her? I think that that one thing is enough to show that she is endangered in his care.
If it were me that is what I would do and see if you can get some witnesses to attest that he is not a good care giver....
I had a very similar situation except my once a month visits were supervised so the Dad refused to go to them.... I decided to see if he would sign his parental rights to her and he said no...yet he hasnt seen her in over 4years (dead beat dads are the worst
good luck
2006-07-02 16:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a deadbeat dad like this also. In my case it actually came down to him taking my child on Dad's birthday. He came by for a visit and I went to refill my cup and he grabbed our son and ran. Being older and working in the Pediatricians office now I have learned a lot. I've seen Dad's who have no rights find a way to do just about anything. I'm in Texas and laws may be different but you can file to have his visitation be only supervised by a court official. At a year if he shows no contact then he automatically loses rights. You should look into this because in my case I was very lucky but all parents are not.
2006-07-02 14:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by Leigh Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. He does have the right to see his child. If he showed up one time at my house under the influence of anything, I'd smile and say just a minute I forgot to do (something) and go call the cops. If you get enough reports from the police that he is a danger to the child, maybe you can get something done.
2006-07-03 04:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by marciacarter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a really good lawyer and when he shows up under the influence call the police. Plus keep a close record of dates, times, and situation every time he comes over to see her or when he calls you. then turn it over to your lawyer. If you fear for your child's safety don't let him take her. Make sure you have a good male friend there in case you need help.
2006-07-02 22:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by a1cat.rm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to get a lawyer take him back to court and tell all the terrible things. The judge really doesn't care how you feel towards him. He is most interested in how all his wrongful doings will endanger the child. If you can prove that your a winner. Plus try getting an order of protection to keep him away. let him brake it and he'll be put away. He might be put away soon if he gets to far back in child support to he's building box with bars for himself. God luck keep in mind what I said.
2006-07-02 13:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I like baseball bats, I think they get the point across quite nicely. But if you aren't very strong then Glocks work too. Just go to America, go to a city, and there you can buy all the guns you want, in fact you could probably get one for a hundred dollars if you don't mind a couple of bodies on it
2006-07-02 13:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by Samuel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to get a lawyer and sue him for the child support also request him to have no visitaion, Stating you fear the safety of your child, the least that will happen is jail time for him for not paying the child care.
2006-07-02 13:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Kota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im having the same problem. But like everyone is sayin. You should get a good lawyer. Try to get him on camera when he doin some of the crazy stuff he doin. And take his butt to court.
2006-07-02 13:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by atl2004grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everytime he shows up at your home intoxicated call the police. Have him arrested or escorted from your property. The only time he has a right to be around your child is during his monthly visit. Do not let him in your home if it is not during that scheduled time. If he is intoxicated DO NOT let him around your child. CALL THE POLICE.
2006-07-02 17:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by witcheekimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋