ive been best friends with my best mate (a guy) since school 10 years, i love him to bits and have always fancied him, we had a 1 night stand a few years ago, but he moved away and now es back and keeps flirting and i want him as a partner but dont want to loose him as a friend, but ive never felt fanything like this for any1 else
2006-07-02 05:28:35 · 19 answers · asked by Rebecca H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been with mine for 5 years and all good! Think it's better if your friends first, cos your relationship is much more solid
2006-07-02 07:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jazzhands 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you try to have relationship with him? If it doesn't work, you could always switch into what it was before - friendship. I'm sure that he feels that same way about you and has the same doubts like you do. Maybe if you give him some hints that you're interested in him in a relationship kind of fashion, maybe he'll be encouraged. I'm sure that you could openly talk to him (as being your best friend), so talk to him how you feel and how you think that you're relationship will develop and about your fears that it won't work out..etc. Your friendship is already being "ruined" a little bit, since you have realized that you have feelings for him (other than friendship feelings). There is nothing you could lose.
2006-07-02 05:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can, and you can even be friends, have a relationship, and then go back to being friends if it doesn't work out. If your friendship is strong enough, you'll look back on it as a time where you just enjoyed each other physically. Just make sure you also remain friends throughout and go in with that expectation. By the way, I found that making love with a friend was just incredible because we weren't worried about making a good impression etc. She died sometime back and I miss her terribly.
2006-07-02 06:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by Karl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem with what is called "the friend zone." A guy can't get a girl once she considers him a friend, because women value friendship above sex, and they think once they sleep with a guy he wont respect her anymore, or there are always consequences after sex because women need to feel a strong romantic bond with a guy to be sexual with him (in most cases), and this opens her up to being hurt.
Should you "go for it?" I say yes. You only live once. You're not getting any younger. And there is nothing gained in life without risk and disappointment.
2006-07-02 05:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married mine 15 years ago. The best marriage ever! We have been best friends for about 22 years now and have two lovely daughters!
2006-07-02 05:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i kinda had a same expereince(minus the one night stand thing). my friend and i (ill call her kate to protect the innocent) were best friends for like 2 years and i liked her best friend. well her best friend didnt see me as her "type" ya'kno? so then i found out that "kate" liked me as more than a friend but i was afraid of losing her as a friend like you. well after that everything went kinda downhill between us. i went to this one school and she went to another one and like 2 years later i remet her in highschool and she was really mean to me and all of her old friends incuding her old best friend i told you about earlier. now i kinda regret my decision. so my advice to u is to go ahead and go out with him. opportunities like that wont come again.
2006-07-02 05:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is YES!!!
Of course that relationships between bestfriends works!!!
Relationships like that sometimes are better than the others...
Good luck...
2006-07-02 05:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sanja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me sure there became a time i finished chatting with my relations. i'm in my early 20s and nonetheless my father and mother can nonetheless be shielding and that i stay 7hours from them and characteristic finished on condition that i became 16. when I met my different 1/2 they wanted me to end seeing him, begging me to end seeing him. Calling me commonly used keeping he became no longer strong adequate ect i became getting fed up of my relations attempting to regulate my existence even from a distance. I advised my relations i did not opt to hearken to from them until eventually they could settle for im with my fiancee...I truly were with my fiancee for 3 years now and to be honest its been a huge replace round. They love my fiancee now even as all of them met and frolicked jointly. possibly that's something you may want to attempt. undergo in ideas once you attain a particular age they cant inform you what to do. i visit comprehend how a relations turns into shielding as i'd of my son yet once you attain that age even as your able to do what you want it turns right into somewhat extra better. yet undergo in ideas no remember what you're they are going to consistently opt to guard you, you in person-friendly words could make your thoughts clean :)
2016-10-14 01:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by debbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always worth trying because you could find something more powerful than just a friendship.
2006-07-02 05:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes my wife and I are very happy and I knew her 15 years befor we got married
2006-07-02 05:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋