that you know for sure would make them very unhappy? no matter what the circumstances are?
2006-07-02 04:45:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
live: forcing her to stay with you [live] even though you know she can be well enough on her own [coz she was doing well before].
2006-07-02 04:52:43 · update #1
I would make them eat their veggies. I'm positive it makes them unhappy. I would not however make them play piano or take ballet. It really depends on the circumstances. You may not understand why your parents are asking you to do something. On the other hand, you parents may not understand why what they are asking of you makes you so unhappy. Keep an open line of communication and most things will be resolved peacefully.
2006-07-02 04:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by JustJake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way you have presented the question shows what you want the answer to be. But your additional statement "no matter what the circumstances" is dishonest. There are very specific circumstances surrounding your situation. Tell us the details and we can advise you better.
Unless you really just want so badly for us to agree with you that you're satisfied casting your parents action in such light and allowing us to say, "Oh, you poor dear."
2006-07-02 11:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Loss Leader 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the problem of all parents.
They forget that they are also like you when they are young.
When you are capable of looking after your self, why do you think so much.
It is your life, you have to take decisions, you have to live your life.
You cannot sacrifice for the sake of others, including your parents. Love is different and infatuation is different. This is nothing but unwanted infatuation. Tell them not to treat you as a baby. Make them understand. Otherwise become independent and live on your own terms and conditions. You can take their guidance and not the orders always.
2006-07-02 11:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as if it was possible. First I'd make her get back on her medication for bipolar disorder and finish high school, she dropped out her sophomore year and is now 20. Then, I'd make her bathe, shave her pitts and her legs, put on deoderant and make up and a presentable suit of clothes, get her butt in both hands and go out and find a job, get her own place to live and a car to get herself around in, and see if she could develop a little self respect, character and independence. History proves that that would make her very unhappy.
2006-07-02 12:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it might be difficult, but I wish you were more specific. It really depends what the parents are forcing on the daughter. Sometimes its hard to put ourselves in our parents shoes, but I really think that most of the time, what parents want for their kids is only in their best interest.
On the other hand, their are those not so rare occasions when they do not, and we have to go against our parents.
Im sorry I couldnt be more helpful, but I need more information.
Good luck.
2006-07-02 11:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to answer this without any detail.
It your decision was in the best interest for your daughter then yes. Of course she is going to be unhappy if its taking her away from somthing or someone whom she truely loves and enjoys. But as her parent if you think its the best thing for her then go with your instinct. She will come to realize one day that you made your decision because you love her. But it is important that you think through what you are going to tell her. Tell her WHY you are doing this, and ask her to repeat your reasons back to you, this way you can make sure she understands.
2006-07-02 11:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by LO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its for their own good, then yeah, definitely, I'm a parent myself, sometime we scold our children because we love them. But if the daughter is old enough to make a decision by herself then maybe the parent should hear them out first before saying yes or no!
2006-07-02 11:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by fifie girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of being a parent is sometimes making decisions for your children when the outcome could be much worse than any benefits of letting them fall and pick themselves back up. In some cases you have to make a decision for them.
2006-07-02 11:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....
Instead of forcing her, sit down and reason with her.
If she knows why you are doing it then she may be more inclined to agree with you.
Forcing someone to do something is never a good thing.
UNLESS you are doing something for her safety. She may hate you or be mad at you for a long time, but when she finally gets over it, she will thank you.
You know her best... So remember that when making your decision
2006-07-02 11:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by kristijay99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our jobs as parents from the start is to raise our children to make good decision's for themselves and to be able to live in this world and deal with everyday issues so trust your kids and let them live life as you now have the chance to do.......depending on age of course
2006-07-02 12:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by ikis&tel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋