SHe of course never matches and I usually dont mind but should i be telling her that she doesnt match and trying to help her with this? Or do I let her be and the matching will come in time. I dont want to hurt her confidence....Any advice or been there done thats?
2006-07-02 03:23:56 · 19 answers · asked by iluv52 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Aww, Thats cute.
Don't Worry about what she wears. Let her be her own person. I know shes only 5 but she still has her own mind. If you don't want her to look like a ragdoll then take her to a store where the outfits come together or state what shirt and pants must go together while picking them out. Let her choose her own outfits also. Hope this helps and good luck with her:)
Also, try getting clothes that match with anything black& white goes with all the colors your little girl an imagine!!
2006-07-02 03:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually pick the bottoms and let my 4 yr old pick the top. For my 6 and 8 year olds, I let them pick the clothes, but make them change it if it doesn't match or is the wrong season. They love choosing their own clothes, but I don't want them picked on if it doesn't match. I figure that if they learn when they are young what does and doesn't match, then by 12 they can choose what they like, knowing full well if it matches or not before they head out the door. I often send my kids back in their rooms when my son tries to wear a sweater in 80 degree weather or my daughter picks 2 clashing shades of blue. But they are learning, and that is my goal. Just keep an outfit all together on the same hanger, so if she picks it, she'll be picking both parts. I stand in the room with my youngest while she decides, usually picking her up so she can see everything hanging. Kids are mean enough to each other without matching being an issue.
2006-07-02 11:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 5 and 3 year old and they are both picking out there clothing in the morning and let me tell you it's hysterical at times. If we don't have anywhere to be that day that would really matter what they are wearing I let them stay in their concoction. If we have to go someplace that would require them to match, IMHO...than I will tell them they need to change into something more appropriate. Beleive me more parents are going to understand than you think, if that's what you are worried about
I think it's a good thing to let them establish their own style yet also teach them what goes together as well once they are old enough to actually understand that. That way they will have a clue, and wont have to be hurt and embarrassed by skeptical classmates/friends. Honestly that all doesn't really matter so much until they hit about 10 and above anyhow from what I've observed. Choose your battles when it comes to clothing
2006-07-02 13:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, looks like daughter would like to take charge of her life! It is a good thing actually as I hope to be decisive as her at an early age. If she never able to matche the clothes, maybe at a start you can try to find some matching ones to the blouse/skirt/t-shirt she has picked and ask her whether it will be a better idea to decide on picking the ones that you have chosen. In addition tell her why it matches, for eg. this pink should go together with that white etc.
2006-07-02 10:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by galgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same thing 3 years ago. You can show her several different outfits put together so she will see what goes with what. Then we practiced doing it together and I even let her show ME what i should wear in ,y closet. She got a big kick out of picking daddys clothes for me. If it didnt match I would carefully point out to her the subtle differences...Like I cant wear A Harley shirt to work but i can wear it with blue jeans. Then we went thru her clothes again and matched things together. It still does not ALWAYS come out right but she had learned alot about making her own choices. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-02 10:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let it pass. You don't want to turn it into a control thing. She is proud to pick her own clothes and she is bringing out her creativity and individuality all by her choice. That is what gives her confidence. It is like an art canvass. Artists wouldn't like opinions on what colors they should use. I work in child care and alot of girls that don't match, you can tell the parents let them be independent. You could maybe buy clothing in solid colors and not so much pattern. Get her to help you out. It is so important to be careful when it comes to appearance with little girls. You want her to have a healthy view about it and not focus too much in detail. Most boys don't mind what they wear and have a healthy attitude about it. That is how you want your girl to be.
2006-07-02 11:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, my daughter does the same - she started at 2 years of age!!!!
I liked her being her own person and I encouraged her to match items offering her a choice between a few outfits that match or match between them. She liked mostly pinks and purples so it was easy. I praised for getting herself dressed and choosing, and I mentioned how the items matched.
As she has grown she kept liking clothes and makes comments on how I dress. Often tries to copy me or wears my own clothes!
She does sometimes not match clothes very well but on the whole she is pretty there - now she is 6.
2006-07-02 10:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if she doesn't match then suggest a matching article or something that could blend what she is wearing together that way she learns from you to coordinate, this is an important learning process but don't force her just suggest she'll come around it is a short phase in their lives.. Also never tell her it looks bad just say you know I think this might look better with those pant etc.
2006-07-02 10:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh i went through this with my children too! So cute! Place matching sets of clothing in her drawers together in hopes she may take from the top or better yet, to encourage her decision making, try putting out 2 or 3 tops and 2 pr of pants on her bed and let her choose from those... that way you've got a little say in the matter, she gets a sense of what goes together with your "silent advice", and she still gets to make the final decision.
2006-07-02 11:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by joknowslittle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her shopping to buy some things and tell the sale person to help her pick out the right outfit that way she'll learn how to match the items.
2006-07-02 10:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by De Andra V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋