she vary much and daddy lil girl,but she dose like to see me hug or pick up other kids. i just dont want her to be mean too the lil one. do the has some classes maybe i could take her too to help with this?
i am due feb 14th 07
2006-07-02 02:40:17 · 13 answers · asked by mommy72403 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just don't treat the baby like he/she is glass and should be kept out of your daughters reach. She is old enough to be involved with her new sibling. My oldest was 3 years and two months when her baby sister was born...and she was used to being the only princess in our house. We kept her involved in the pregnancy and when her baby sister came along. She was allowed to hold her and feed her as long as my husband or I was around. Explain to her how a new baby is very helpless and needs our help. As long as you don't make her feel left out I'm sure she'll adapt just fine. My daughter absolutely loves being a big sister, and now she has two younger sisters and they adore her. Of course they all have their moments together but for the most part they are the best of friends. Best wishes!
2006-07-02 06:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by dixi 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your princess is going to be dethroned. Of course, she will be upset. You can and should help her though. I would recommend ensuring one-on-one time with mommy after baby comes. You can read her stories while you nurse the baby (if you have board books and she turns the pages). Or you could play eye-spy or some other hands-free game while breastfeeding. One of my friends went through this with her daughter. She put her daughter in preschool part-time about six months after the baby's birth. The mom would volunteer at the school (as required) wearing the baby or would leave the baby with a sitter, so she could spend special time with the little girl at the school. Also, you will want to watch your daughter at all times around the baby. There is sometimes jealousy or accidents involving an older sibling vs. an infant. Never think, "She would never do that." As others suggested, there are books and DVDs on the subject. You should get her a baby doll and stroller. She can play baby before yours comes. You can get her little burp cloths for her baby. Then, when your baby comes, you can have her bring them to you. When you change the baby, she can hand you a fresh, new diaper. You can teach her how to play peek-a-boo with the baby. She will appreciate being a big girl helper. I think the most important thing will be showing her how much you love her, as you always have. It will just take more creativity on your part on how to give her her own special time. Congratulations!
2006-07-02 22:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by away team 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get her excited with you over the baby. Tell her how she'll be the big sister and will get to help with baby. Tell her all the big girl things she can do that baby cannot, like going potty, or talking, playing blocks, going down the slide. Find something new that you can be teaching her so she'll have a special something that baby cannot do. If she wants, have her help you set up for the baby. The biggest thing is to include her in this, instead of leaving her out. And once the baby comes, make sure she gets lots of attention too. As long as she sees that she won't lose you to the new baby, then you'll do fine. If she is still on a bottle or pacifier, sleeping in a crib, or anything else considered babyish, then make a big deal out of her getting bigger and wean her off those things now. Any changes that need to be made, make them before the baby comes, so she'll not associate the baby with losing things. Or even go through her toys with her and help her pick out a toy for the new baby, like a rattle she still has or a soft cuddle toy she no longer plays with. Anything that can include her instead of excluding her will help everyone when the new addition arrives.
2006-07-02 09:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We made a big fuss over becoming a big sister. Not everybody get the chance you know. In our house not even Daddy got to be a big brother...so it's an honour to be big sister. Then we got our older child very involved in getting ready for the baby to come. She helped put the base for the baby car seat in the car...helped sort baby clothes and stuff like that. When her little sister was born we had a "big sister party". Relatives came to help her celebrate being a big sister (o.k. they came to see the baby...but the baby doesn't care what the party is called and big sis does!) The cake said "Happy Big Sister Day! People brought stuff for the baby...but big sister wasn't left out...I made sure to have some stuff wrapped up for her that people could give her if they forgot her present. Anything left over she got from her little sister. In the end she was so excited about the privledge of being a big sister she didn't mind so much if the baby took up some time. At the moment big sister is 6 and "baby" is 3 and they get along great. She still takes the responsibility of big sisterhood very seriously and looks out for her little sister and includes her in games and stuff. I think putting the emphasis in becoming a big sister rather than on a baby coming in and changing things helped set a great foundation for the sister relationship.
Don't worry too much it seems kids adapt to new things much easier than we do!
Good luck and congratulations.
2006-07-02 10:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!!
Make it her sister or brother. Let her understand this baby is her's. She will need to help mommy with bathing and changing diapers. Let her understand you love her. Many children will ask their parents "Do you still love me?" "Do you love the baby or me more?" Keep those questions away by reassuring your 3 year old they are the love of your life. Make sure you don't forget to say I love you before they go to bed. 3 years difference is a good age difference. My brother and I are 3 years apart and we are close even today. Mom has pictures of him at 3 bathing me as a baby. He was very protective over his little sister. Don't worry... things will work out! She will get more excited when she sees the baby. Make it cuddle time for her, as well as the baby when you breast feed (if you're breast feeding). You'll see, with or without classes, your 3 year old will adapt to the new way of life. You'll be surprised how quickly she will want to help and be the big sister.
2006-07-02 09:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by maniaajo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are usually jealous of their baby siblings. Everyone is coming to the house to see the little one, not the big kid. But once they get over that, they love their little siblings very much. My mother included my older sister in taking care of me. As soon as my mother said we were going some where my sister would grab my diaper bag and my toy bag and would chastise my mother if she forgot anything. She is two years older than me.
So when you bring the baby home, make sure to tak out some time (even though it will be hard with a new baby to take care of) to be with your daughter. She will probably be fascinated with the new baby as well. Congratulate her on bringing the baby his or her favorite toy, or singing a lullaby to him or her.
My sister got a shirt that said "Big sister" or something like that when I was born, and that was her favorite shirt for a long time. Maybe you could give your child something like this. She was very proud of me.
2006-07-02 15:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by millancad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for he to be joules because all the attention was to her the passed 3 years . you should take her with you to the Dr and let her see her baby brother and sister and make a bound with him or her before she is born kids love to be in charge of something so you can ell her that she has the job of being the older sister when your baby is born get your daughter a present and tell her that it is from the baby get her a frame with "my sister and me".there are a lot of useful articles about that on babycenter.com, hope everything turn out OK and congratulations
2006-07-02 09:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Dallul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 21/2 when my son was born. I included her in taking care of the baby. I told her the baby was her baby brother, emphasizing the ownership part. I let her hold the baby with supervision. (great due date by the way!) They are great friends to this day - now 11 and 13.
2006-07-02 09:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by MD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of books and childrens movies to help your daughter. My daughter was 3 when i had my second baby this January, and she loves her little sister, just talk about it alot to her to prepare her, she will start to notice your belly and you can tell her that you have a baby in there that will come out soon, tell her that it is her baby. She will like that.
2006-07-02 09:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by bopbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they should have siblings classes at your hospital.. we have an excellent program where i had my kids.. when my son was born my daughter was 4 and i was afraid of the samething because she was the ONLY one for 4 years..
I found the best thing to was to let her be involved as much as she wanted to such as...
when i fed her brother and rocked him she would sit with me and help hold his bottle, pat him on his back, and sing to him.
bath time she would hand me shampoo/wash, washcloth, and towel and help to dry him..
she even helped with diaper changes by pulling the tabs...
best thing to do is have her know that you and her little sister/brother need her help..
limit your No's to her in the beginning to help with jealousy.. unless it's something that could harm her or the baby..
2006-07-02 14:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋