My mother and father split up when I was 2 years old Iam now 17. Me and my sister would visit him every second weekend and sometimes he would pinch my butt and tell me I wasen't aloud to have any boyfriends because I have him.
I was around 15-16 when he was doing this and now I don't see him I hate him so much!
Please give your best advice.
2006-07-02 01:06:03 · 16 answers · asked by tamilia4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a person you need to trust your instincts.
Since this interaction has obviously made you uncomfortable it is probably best that you do whatever you need to do to feel safe and comfortable in your situation.
While no one should have to deal with people doing inappropiate things such as this in their lifetime, especially from a member of their family, it still happens no matter how wrong it is, and the only thing we can really do about it is recognize that the behaviour is making us uncomfortable and distance ourselves.
This doesn't nessicarily mean you never have to have a father daughter relationship again in your lifetime. You may choose to later on again at another time in your life when you feel as if you can be in control of the situation and set clear boundries which your father will have to follow.
I'm sorry you've had to go through something like this, but I know that you can be strong and deal with it because you came here and expressed that you thought it was wrong.
I'm glad you're doing the right thing and keeping your distance, and I suggest you do whatever you feel you need to do to feel safe and comfortable.
2006-07-02 01:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by lovely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was young I didnt really meet my dad until I was 10 or so. I was hanging out with my friends one day when he came strolling down the street. He wanted to go for a walk. I went with him because I wanted to know him. When he walked me back near to my house we were standing there talking and he started fixing my shorts around the cuff area. Well that just didnt seem right! Then I kissed him goodbye on the cheek and he said that isn't how you kiss your father and he kissed me on the lips. I didnt see him again till I was 18, I never felt at ease with him. So I just stayed away. He died when I was 23, sometimes I felt guilty for not giving him a chance. But I think my intuition was telling me to stay away from him.
So my advice is do what your gut tells you to do. You will do fine without him!
2006-07-02 09:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very different question and very complicated situation but at the same time very similar to mine, my parents don't live together for more then 7 years and I am 17 now too. I am very angry on him because of one event and now is about 2 years since I saw him last time. But more time passes much more clearly I understand that to hate him is not the best way, it becomes very hard for you personally. I offer you just to forget him and don't pay attention to him. Someday he will begin to regret what he missed, but it could be too late... So now just don't think about such a questions - was he interested in you or not, I already forgot it.
Best wishes
2006-07-02 01:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said it sounds like you are better off without him.I believe you also know this in your heart.It is guilt that has made you type this question.
You have done nothing wrong.You only eliminated a potential evil in your life and for that you should be patting yourself on the back.
Accept your OWN decision and move on.
2006-07-02 01:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by Axewielderx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am ashamed of your fathers behave ,you done right thing not to meet him and stay away from him.I think your father is sick and a dirty person better stay away.
2006-07-02 01:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by lucky s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its wierd but it happeans but its not right but maybe thats why they split up never know but things happean in life just use your best judgement and do the right thing and never let anybody tell you how or what is right its your life and body good luck and hating him is a good start
2006-07-02 01:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something makes you uncomfortable, and you have even a little bit of a feeling that it is not right, that is your instincts. You need to trust your instincts. Talk to someone about it.
2006-07-02 01:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its much easy coz you hate him,stay as far away from him as possible before something terrible happens.My mom is late and my dad disowned us and we are doing just fine without him.You can do much much better without him.
2006-07-02 01:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Shosh-B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r wrong , may be your father want to keep safe from boys .
pinching on buttex doesent mean anything wrong , your mind is currepted .
2006-07-02 01:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by beebs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful ur dad is mad
u know it normal if your dad kiss u,hug u but there is a limit coz there it is a specail relationship u r his daughter he must respect that
2006-07-02 02:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by secret &trade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋