i love a boy and he too loves me very deeply he wants to marry me but after he and i finish my studies .....but i am afraid coz i know my parents are never gaing to allow me for love marragie .....but i cant live him nor my parents....how can i explain them....many a times i feel like making a sucide ....many i times i start crying nytiime without a reason.....i hurt myself with a blade a knife or a broken mirror.....i m too much sad for all this and cant help myself plsssssssssssss help.......me....
2006-07-01 22:34:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the very first thing to do is not to worry and stay calm...you dont have to keep yourself thinking about whether your parents will accept your marriage or not...cos you never konw of the future....remember PEOPLE CAN CHANGE...now what you need to do, is to think positive, feel positive and be positive...dont let those worries curb you and destroy yourself gradually...be strong and i know you can...
right now, what you really need to do is to concentrate on your studies...if you keep on thinking of this, it will ruin you...just finish your studies and do what you intend to do - marry the guy you like...if your parents still oppose you, dont be despaired to this consequences, because slowly, they will accept you, cos HEY, YOURE THEIR CHILD?!! RIGHT?!! :-)
what will be, will be...you cant change what will happen, so just stay strong, accept the results and stay happy always...trust me, thinking this way, will make the future favourable to you...if you keep on worrying and thinking about the bad results, you may end up the way you thought it will be...so stay positive now...just hope for the best.....its not the end of the world....who knows you might find a better soulmate if you fail to marry this guy...always look forward to the future and never be frustrated with it.....ALL THE BEST!!
oh, by the way, keep yourself busy (read, exercise, watch tv, etc) and listen to songs that makes you happy and not think about the problem youre facing...it will help you...and eventually, you wont be worrying about this anymore...:-)))
2006-07-01 22:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, even though i am a boy but still i can understand your feelings, all i want to say is Please dont try to commit suicide ,a couple of year ago i was i a same problem, in fact worst than this.But let time pass things will change ,wait if you both love each other than no one can keep separated ,trust me >and one more thing dont try to hurt yourself cause you dont have any fault and dont blame your destiny ,god is right there seeing all this ,he testing you ,your faith in him and is your lover .Dont lose hope you will pass and your parents may allow you marry him all you need to do is focus on our study and leave the rest in hands of god ,if you dont believe in god,then believe in mine(hitler)he will help you and I'll hope that both of you should marry soon.Can i ask you afavour ,plz try to answer my ques
2006-07-02 06:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your life situated so you wont need any additional suport from your parents. Then when you tell them how you feel about your relationship with the lucky guy. they wont be able to take anything away from you, and manipulate your emmotions. They will have to accept your descion and if not you should feel good knowing you made a independent descion. For your own happiness and the pursuit of your future with the guy. Tell your parents you feel for this person... like maybe they feel for eachother. They will be able to see them telling you not to follow your heart, is like you telling them to split up and not be together any more.
2006-07-02 05:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by J34ofakrs1 O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust the guy and finish your study when it over runaway with him and threaten ur parents that if u don't allow you,u will commit suicide and they will not be able to prevent that !!!may be it can work
but to telly ou truly i am giving you the most wrong advice i ahve ever given to a person but sometime we must be able to take wrong decision for a good cause
be courageos u can make it through just believe in you and him if the love is really true you will both suceed
2006-07-02 05:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by secret &trade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i can help u ,but not axectly.
u just have to wate for a moment on which u & your mom r allon and there is no noice just the wind blow at that excet moment u express your self but just do me a favour dont cry at all
do u know i m a dude of 19 years old i also express every thing at a right moment
i think u should try it
2006-07-02 05:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by PM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I am sorry to say but pupil who cannot fight with their problem and think of commiting suicide or harm themselfes are ill and requires consultation of pchycaterist.
well its not time to think of whether you will marry or not just complete your education and then think of resolving problems such as your parents not allowing.
remember ... 1) if u cannot love yourself it means you cannot love anyone.
2) everyone wagon is loaded with his or her own problem so fight bravely and not try to escape from problems
3) Belive in God
2006-07-02 05:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by PAY AND GET ANSWERED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lie low for the time being till your parents think you are ready for marriage....force your parents to put in a matrimonial ad....make your boyfriend apply for the same and pretend that it is an arranged marriage. very simple dear.
2006-07-02 05:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by midas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please try to relax, take it easy, take a few breaths, it might help to listen to some classical music for a little while, meditate a little. It may be hard at first. Perhaps go for a walk.
2006-07-02 05:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by cehelp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are old enuff to get married without concent from you parents... who cares what they have to say or think..... and suicide only makes it worst.. becasue you will be without your true love and too many ppl will miss you..
2006-07-02 05:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by Ce-Ce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a country where you will be free and do what you will. The USA is nice.
2006-07-02 05:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋