i've been dating a guy for 5 mnths. he's with this woman for 6 yrs. 4 yrs ago, she was pregnant n it wasn't his kid! he stayed w/ her bc the kid had no father. back 2 the story, he told me that he's going 2 leave her bc he's in love with me. i respected him when he told me he can't walk away from the house right now b/c he wanted to make sure the child was ok before he left. last mnth he freely told her that he cheated on her, something that never happened before. (he's not a cheater or lier, couldn't live like that). he told her that he's in love with me, still seeing me. he did bc she called me cursing. Although the cheating, she still wants 2 be w/ him. they don't even sleep 2gethr. he's on the phone w/ me evry night in his own sheets on his own bed! It's been 5 mnths, i see him every day, deep in love with him, husband material but i'm afraid that i might just get my heart broken. i'm such a good hearted person, never wishing any harm 2 any1, not even his girl. What do you think?
2006-07-01 22:21:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I stopped reading this drivel after only the first two lines. This is going nowhere. Stop. Go fishing in another pond. Get a clue, and while you're at it, an education. Suggestion: Take an assertiveness training class. Learn to say "NO" to situations like the one you wrote about that is so full of sadsackstuff that I couldn't even finish reading it. Ever thought that you could be HER in a few years? Be ashamed. Be very ashamed.
2006-07-01 22:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Debbie R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had doubts about this guy than you need to talk to him to clear it off! Sounds like a good guy he was there for the kid that's very nice of him! But when it comes to you and he wants to be with you etc than you need to sit and ask him all these questions you have in your mind! Ask him where you 2 are heading... you need answers and only he can give it to you! So before you guys move in together etc ask him whats going on and what are his intentions about you etc! Get your questions answered before you make any major decision!
The reason i am saying that is cuz he was with a woman for 6 yrs and now he is leaving her for you.... that would be you after 6 yrs he may do the same to you? Just try to be on the safe side for your sake!
Best of Luck!!
2006-07-02 05:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear...this story is told by many,many women each and every day. Forget the dramatics of what his situation is...you must do what is best for you. Believe me it is not him. Are you having any wholesome fun with this love affair?Talking to you every night...what do you think that is? It's cheating. It certainly is not showing respect for her. If it were you would you like it?
Now is the time to be strong and define your character!
Love, love, love...how many of us fall by the wayside...let ourselves be used...for the benefit of love.
You must end this now! If he were that noble he would not involve you and your sincerity with his problems. If he truly loved you he would treat you...and her...with more respect. He certainly would not keep you dangling with promises he has no intentions of keeping. Not only that...he is damaged goods, I am not trying to trash him...I am just trying to get through to you that you deserve better. Make yourself know that.
Yes, you will be heart broken at first but believe me it will past. I know from experience. YOU WILL GET OVER IT!
Then you will be a much better and wiser person. Then you will be in position to meet and give your love to someone who truly deserve it.
Now is the time to be strong and to define your character.
2006-07-02 05:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit too complicated. He says he loves you but continues to stay with his current girlfriend? And then you say he is husband material. Husband material is someone who is honest, commited and does not lead a double life. If you have doubts, walk away. It is better to do so before you get more entangled in the mess.
2006-07-02 05:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much drama... just drop it.....date him when you see divorce papers casue apparently he still loves her and the baby because if he wasnt he would have been divorced and gotten/tried to get custody andwouldnt have drag you along in this ordeal..... all this is doing is making it harder for you to find some one that is committed to you and only you.... their are plenty of guys that have EX's have have let go of them and are ready to move on.. you are too young to be in such a problem
2006-07-02 05:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ce-Ce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanlding on to something that you will never have ok go now if you go you will find someone by now lvl.
2006-07-02 05:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Molly B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep asking this same question? He's a loser! All he wants is to sleep in your bed,and the woman he is with!
DROP HIM!!
2006-07-02 05:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the end you will lose he has no attion of leaving her wise up he is only using you if he cared about you he would have left her long ago. my opion?
2006-07-02 05:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good hearted person would never be in the situation he is in.
2006-07-02 05:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur spoiling a relationship to built your own
2006-07-02 05:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋