Ok well I just came out like a few days ago and now that I have, its opened up a whole lot of oppertunities like relationships and stuff. I have really gotten myself into a mess though... You see So far, I have found about 5 guys that all would like to meet me etc. 3 of them possible want relationships and Im really not sure about the other 2. I kind of like all of them because there is just certain things that appeal to me in each of them. Its hard because almost all three have suggested going into a relationship. I have now had to think this through and its a hard decision but now im thinking of what would be the most logical at this moment. Like one of them lives about 20 minutes away form me which isnt entirely far but could cause some difficulty? The other 2,well I just would have an extremely hard time putting any of them down. What is my best way to approach this? serious answers only please:) Thanks so much!
2006-07-01 21:55:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just remember these four simple rules.
Rule number 1. Don't Rush!
If you've got a bunch of people that you're interested in, get to know them a bit more before you choose one.
Rule number 2. Don't settle for less!
If you've got a bunch of people that you are interested in, there's gonna be ONE (at least) that fits with what you're looking for in terms of a relationship, a friendship, a partnership or whatever, so don't waste your time on the ones who might be good for right now, but not down the road--unless you're into that whole sewing wild oats thing.
Rule Number 3. Trust your gut!
You probably have some idea of who is best for you. Trust that.
Rule Number 4. Disregard any of the above rules that don't work.
2006-07-01 22:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by chipchinka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of your age, you have just come out. That is equal to being 17yrs old.
You are not ready to be in a long term committed relationship. It will be better for you and for whomever you end up with if you date several people over a period of time. You need to get to know the things you like and don't like. You may find out that you would rather remain single for the rest of your life. That is ok, too.
If it were me, I would tell each
If you just pick the best of what is available RIGHT NOW, the perfect person could come along and make a liar, cheater, jacka$$ of you later.
Just because you came out a few days ago doesn't mean that you have to "be in a relationship" today. Take your time, learn everything you can, study other gay relationships
Good luck!
2006-07-02 06:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants a piece of you...thrilling isn't it? You've got nothing to gain by choosing one of the current bunch for a relationship.
A fulfilling relationship may be desirable, but you have to know what you want from one first.
What type of guy will enthrall you, long term (and I don't just mean build, hair & eye colour)? Do you know?
Get to know the scene and the people that make it, first. Then when you're clear about where you slot in, you'll be better placed to make a decision about the guy that's going to keep your heart skipping beats.
Best Wishes
2006-07-02 12:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be sure that some or all aren't really just looking for the excitement of fresh meat? Cut any who may be of that mentality and that should narrow things down a bit. Besides you just came out, who said you automatically have to be tied down to a steady relationship so fast? Test the waters and do some test driving first. Take that car for a spin before you buy it.
2006-07-02 05:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to dating?
Just because we are gay does not me we circumvent the natural selection process, jump into bed and get married.
You need to spend public and private time with each of thees guys in non-sexual activity. You will then be able to figure out who if any of them is right for you to be in a committed relationship with.
2006-07-02 17:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by mike g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is nothing wrong with going out on dates with them to see which one is going to be a better fit for you, there is not need to make a choice this second.
Just be honest and tell them that you would like to get to know them better before you get into a relationship, there is nothing wrong with that.
2006-07-02 05:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by ak23boi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on.
Just pick one not many. Just see which one is better like spending a little time with all them separately and than see which one is better.
2006-07-02 04:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by sonu1651 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on...you don't have to pick anyone of them right now....wait and see what really happens.
2006-07-02 13:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just choice who you love
2006-07-02 05:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by Perawan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chipchinka has the best advice so go with him
2006-07-02 06:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋