No-one take offence please. I know some nice girls are married too. It's just that I know very few nice girls that I mix with that are married or that are even able to find a nice man. The ones that give themselves freely always seem to have all men chasing them and always seem to find someone to marry. Just wondering why this is so.
2006-07-01 21:32:53 · 14 answers · asked by I ♥ everybody 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, but I wouldn't like to end up with some of the men they end up with. A lot of girls end up being abused and hit by men and mistreated. There is nothing wrong with respecting your body and waiting for the right guy to come along. I think nice guys are sitting back wondering the same thing about guys who are married. Thinking they are sleaze bags. It's about selling themselves sexually like prostitutes. That's what gets the man's attention. It's also possible those 'slutty girls' you used to know have grown up and changed.
2006-07-01 21:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 29⤊ 7⤋
I know. I was wondering the same thing myself. I'm not married yet and I wonder why all my friends that use to sleep around are married or in a stable relationship. I think it has to do with shyness and confidence around men. Nice girls are less likely to sell themselves or be forward around men.
2006-07-01 21:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy Susie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patriarchy. That our patriarchal society constructed women as being the gate keepers of virtue (due the allegedly greater libido of men) so that this became their only source of self-esteem. Feminism has unfortunately not been able to get rid of this; rather women have repurposed this pretence of sexual intercourse being a "conquest" by men over women so that women think they are empowered by having full control over whether they have sex and with whom. This of course is true but rather than have sex as they would like, they still appear like "sluts" if they have sex too much, as if they are just being what men seem to simultaneously want them to be and not want them to be. They therefore must remain greatly selective and use the superficial (and more obvious) conditions like men who seem cool so it appears like they have standards, (this being what they base part of their own self-esteem on: that they only have sex with the best and "make men work for it"). There then continues to be an inequality between the sexes, culturally speaking, reinforced by the messages of media and popular culture; that men want sex but women usually don't. This makes men approach the bar and dating scene with the assumption that it is the man that must initiate contact and the women who decides how far it goes. "The man wonders of he will get lucky; the women already knows" has a lot of truth in it. The very phrase "get lucky" implies how little control the man has in making "sexual conquest". And then women, complacent with this system, worry about seeming "desperate" because they make the first move. Of course jealousy plays a part. A girl gets laid more than you then you get angry. Also, some men like to monopolise their sexual partners.
2016-03-27 00:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't tell you, except to say that most of the nice guys I know aren't married either, They keep getting dumped. Then I know a bunch of pig-headed guys that are married. I guess it's just the way it is. Nice guys finish last, apparently so do nice women.
2006-07-01 21:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a slutty girl - just a girl getting to know her own sexuality. That is language to keep girls from experiencing the freedoms that boys experience. Reality is that most boys can outslut any girl, and do we label them? No.
Actually yes I do label them.
Go for it girls, boys are always willing playthings, but take care, get experience and don't land yourself one of the many weasels that are out there. Marriage isn't what it is all about - self identity is.
Play around all you like, but when you know who you are pick very carefully indeed the father of your children.
Take care.
2006-07-01 21:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Someone is sexy if only he can advertise herself in a sexy way, the sluts knows how to do this (whether they are pretty or not), men always are attarcted to a sexy girls and that's why they go after them.
It is how you walk, talk, express yourself, laugh, wear etc etc
2006-07-01 21:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Tuxi X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every man wants a hoe in the bed.
they also want a woman that can be versatile and conduct herself w/class in public.
don't hate on the females that understand this.
instead use this as a tool. master it.
lol
2006-07-01 21:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by nonmisogynisticAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the standards are lower with them, and they can put up with more as long as they get sex. i personally like the nice girls.... course, a lot of nice girls can end up being freaks, but only in bed are they freaks.... and that ownz all, lol.
2006-07-01 21:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by mdrieber00013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girls with experience choose a capable partner.
the nice girls don't know what to look for.
2006-07-01 21:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because marriage is cheaper than child support!
2006-07-01 23:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, men most of the times are blind believers. that is why
2006-07-01 22:30:04 · answer #11 · answered by midas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋