2006-07-01 21:05:11 · 6 answers · asked by pankaj srivastava 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
A happy marriage, regardless of Indian or western, is not easy. A happy marriage requires, trust, honesty, commitment to make the marriage better. Another thing to keep in mind to have a happy marriage takes a lot of work, open communication and understanding. Also, it is important to have a few common interests, in addition to compatibility and chemistry. Marriage is about teamwork, and so if one or the other feels otherwise, is it a crack in the foundation of marriage.
Also, in India, many people live in the joint family situation where, it is very easy to forget about each others needs as a couple due to the obligations towards the family. Many married couples in the West don't live in a joint family system, mostly due to the individualistic social structure of the USA, and therefore are able to understand each other as a husband and wife than two people who are married and are too busy occupied with the family.
If you live in India, and live in a joint family system, I recommend that you and your significant other make time for each other once a week, in order to get to know each other better and grow as a couple. This means going out on dates to movies, going away for the weekend (just the two of you) and make sure to you understand each other as individuals.
Furthermore, in India arranged marriages are pretty common... and in an arranged marriage you barely have enough time to know the other person and see if they match what you are looking for in a spouse. And by the time you are married, and begin to know each other, many years go by, and by that point the couple may have a few children and are situated in a family system where it is harder to separate or divorce if you find out you aren't a good match for each other.
On the other hand, an arranged marriage is done based on common core values and ideas... so, one's parents may like the boy/girl from a certain family due to core values such as education, life style standards, status, religious beliefs, morals, values and family background. This may not mean that the girl/boy follows the exact same beliefs as majority of his or her family, and so it is harder to distinguish if the family core values are the same for the girl/boy. So, after you are married and realize that boy/girl you are married was either like his/her family or not at all like his/her family, you may begin to see what you wanted in a spouse and compare it what you have and see how it affects the compatibility and chemistry of the marriage, either bringing happiness or not.
Just note, that compatibility and chemistry are just as important as many of the things I stated above, if you are not compatible then it would result in a very rough marriage. But on the other hand if you are compatible then it will be the best partnership in the world.
2006-07-01 21:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not true... this is a bias question based on personal beliefs and not factual because of differing cultures, economies and definition of what marraige means... bondage and marraige is different.
2006-07-02 04:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arranged marriage maybe? it's the only major difference i know... but there's always the culture factor to it..
2006-07-02 04:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well according to the latest and justifiably cleverest research undertaken by nitwits such as yourself this conflict if interests is certainly all getting ......................
NAH ...i give up on ya nutcases.........
good luck
2006-07-02 04:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i go with Goga.
2006-07-02 04:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by prudentstudent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
our culture & Sense for adjustment to please other.
Regards
Goga
2006-07-02 04:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Goga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋