from breakin up with a boyfriend or someone died
2006-07-01 20:52:05 · 16 answers · asked by amihan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The basic issue is that most of us do not accept the reality, and we chase what is not real.. Hence this sadness and all that problems associated with that.
Start accepting the reality - you will feel better. Because reality is something you cannot change.
Accpet reality, Enjoy what you have, that is what is life is all about. When you stop chasing what u dont have, you will realise, you have enough to be happy.
Feeling better - or happiness is the state of mind. it is all in your hand, in your mind. Start telling yourself, you are better off.. now onwards - every minute in life.. and you will be.
Taking your own example - breaking up with boyfriend - no point in feeling bad over that. It should not have happened, fine. But it has happened. It cannot be changed now. Accpet that as the truth - get going. If you think boyfriend is what is required - get one - not that you cant get one.
Death of some one : Look every person who has taken birth has to die. one day or the other. Thats for real. There cannot be any person who is not going to be died. Accpet this as the truth of life.
instead of spoiling your time and health on what is not there.. focus on what u have now. start enjoying them.. I am sure you are better off with what you have.
Dont depend on any event, or people for your happiness. Dependence only bring mysery - not happiness. Happiness is within - in your mind, in your heart.
Stop expecting anyting from any one. Expectation if not met, brings unhappiness. Enjoy the pleasure of giving, not taking. Thus take the things as they come.
Let me know.. if this made any sense to you.
2006-07-01 21:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by deebeein 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems hard but you need time to get over it. Dont try and shut it out and move on, let it out, talk to someone, a friend or a counsellor because i know from experience that it will make it more dificult in the long run. Once your feeling like you have dealt with your issues in the loss try and find a new hobby, something you have wanted to do but never have tried. You will feel heaps better, and i hope its soon :)
2006-07-02 03:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something we all have to go through during the course of our lives, and something we have to come to grips with. Every sadness there is a corresponding happiness, as we find our way through the mire and come into the subshine. Our emotions are there to help us appreciate what we have, but we must be careful not to let them rule us.
Mastering emotions and acquiring emotional intelligence as you grow up is hard work, but makes life easier both for us and those around us, in the long run.
Take care
Audrie
2006-07-02 04:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at yourself and realize that YOU matter and life goes on. Do you actually think that nobody goes through this? We all do at some point in time! Think about the good times with that person and feel good in your heart and then move on. They'll always be in your heart but, life goes on for you. They whole point of someone dying is so they can live on in your heart and memories............and as for breaking up.........life goes on, there's someone out there for you! Or it wouldn't have happened in the first place!
2006-07-02 04:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing things like working, studying, doing your hobbies. Initially of course you will feel like crawling into bed and cry and not want to get up. Do that for a few days and move on.For breaking up with a boyfriend think of it as good riddance to bad rubbish and for someone dying, think of it as part of life, his/her life span is fated and h/she is in Heaven now, in peace.
2006-07-02 04:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
feeling sad is very easy and feeling good is very difficult. if u have enough courage only then u can be feel good . for that u should know that u r here to live for a period of time . then y should u spend ur time be sad . enjoy ur life be happy.
2006-07-02 04:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by roshan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can really do. It takes time to heal over something like that. Just try not to dwell on it too much. Find other things to occupy your mind.
2006-07-02 03:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you can hang out with some friends to the fun place. And your friend can make some jokes for you. Or you have to smile, just try to smile and TAKE ALL OF YOUR PROBLEM EASY!
2006-07-02 04:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by dewi k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have in mind THATS NOT THE END OF WORLD. so much to experiance and enjoy in this world one life time may not be enough for that. then what for wasting our time over things that has gone past. ANOTHER ONE WHO CAN SHARE THERE LOVE IS ALWAYS WAITING FOR US SOMEWHERE.
2006-07-02 03:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I keep busy, I know it sounds stupid. After a breakup I look at the thing I've done and it like "wow" look what I did with out so and so. Its baby steps but it helps me. AND I NEVER LET MYSELF CALL THEM>
2006-07-02 04:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋