we r just married.we tried to make sex for twice.but i m hurt when my husbend enters his penis to mine.it feel that it tearing somthing and no way to enter it.i was trimendously hurted both time and at last we could'nt make it.
2006-07-01 20:33:45 · 19 answers · asked by tanvee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes time the first time. You husband needs to be very patient with you. You need to be completely relaxed with him. He needs to use his fingers first, and some lubrication (like baby oil). It will hurt the first time, but if you are patient, it will hurt less.
2006-07-01 20:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax, have a bath together, use LOTS of lubricant and take it slow. The first few times can be nasty, but it gets better or no-one would do it! However, its possible he is deformed and too big (wouldn't most guys like to be?).
Sex is meant to be a fun, enjoyable, loving experience so dont stress. Where there is a will, theres a way.
Also, it might be a good idea to see your family doctor for some advice. Good luck! And have fun!
2006-07-01 21:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by kandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know about your cultural back ground, but would suggest you to be relaxed and start with having oral sex. Kissing, licking and sucking is the best way to start. Since you are just married, both of you must leave the SHAME out of the bed room and start performing the act like STONEAGE MAN. Sucking eachnothers private parts would remove the dryness and enhance the desire for final intercouse. Best of luck with your married life.
2006-07-01 20:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by ADCHOP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay my dear. Let him lubricate you by eating you or stimulting you. You will get very wet and then he can slowly insert his penis into your vagina a little at a time, not the whole thing. As you begin to stretch you will be able to take more and more in. And then VOILA, you should have the time of your life!
Good Luck and ENJOY!
2006-07-01 20:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a certain position and a certain way wherein you will not even notice that pain. The pleasure will surely drown that pain. That your husband has to know. However, I could not write it here for fear that I may be violating some rules or guidelines.
2006-07-01 23:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by seabug_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your a virgin it will take at least 5-6 times before it starts to feel good. if your not then he is to big for you and maybe K-Y jelly would help. if you use to much there won't be enough friction to turn you on and to little will be to not enough so start slow a pea size of K-Y jelly. and have him enter you from behind slowly. wow what a sensation. take it easy tell him to take it slow. if he cares about you he will do what ever he ask.
2006-07-01 22:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem. Try slowly. If the layer is still not torn, it will go of easily by trials. If you are mentally afraid of sex, please feel free for having sex. Then everything will be OK. Keep your position suitably. Keep the muscles free and relaxed. Go for foreplay, which produces lubricants.
Gradually, you will be alright. If nothing work, PLEASE do not hesitate to meet a qualified doctor.
2006-07-01 20:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by K N Swamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to hurt like hell the first time and maybe a little the 2nd time, after that it's all good. Are you a virgin? Sounds like it. Are you very young? If so, that's not going to go away for a little while.
2006-07-01 20:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a hymen if you have not had sex before, It must tear before you can have sex. It will hurtt the first time but will be good after a few days.
2006-07-01 20:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots and lots of lubrication and foreplay. I have been having sex for about12 years and sometimes it still hurts me and sometimes I will tear a little.
2006-07-02 04:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋