i am thinking about getting my tubes tied.?

Question

i am 24 yrs old with three little girls, i really want a baby boy but i dont want to be pregnant again. so i am planning to adopt. i just need some advice on this b4 i make my decision.

Answer 1

I GOT MINE TIED AT 21 AND I AM 30 AND REGRET IT DEARLY. UNLESS U R RICH I SUGGEST YOU WAIT AT LST TIL 30 OR 31 YRS OLD. I CANT AFFORD A REVERSAL AND I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER WANT ANOTHER CHILD LONG AS I LIVED NOW MY HEART CRIES OUT FOR ONE SO MUCH I SPOIL MY BROTHERS SON ROTTEN. RECONSIDER THE TUBAL AND TRY ALTERNATE METHODS BEFORE YOU DO IT . PLEASE RECONSIDER, HEY IF YOU HAVE AN UNWANTED PREGNANCY I WILL ADOPT IT , I WISH AND PRAY FOR A BABY DAILY.

Answer 2

What advice do you need? If you don't want to be pregnant again, just do it. You can probably have them untied in the future if you change your mind (though it's expensive and usually not covered by insurance). Or if you're in a monogamous relationship and plan to remain so, get an IUD or some other less permanent birth control. Your OB/GYN would know more.

And not to butt-in, but I really don't think you should have any more kids. They're really a handful and get to be more so when they're older. And much more expensive. But if you think you have enough love and money to share amongst them, don't let me stop you. I'm just saying as a father of three (two teens and a five-year-old) it's only going to get harder. You're very young and kids are a responsibility that you never lose. But maybe you understand that. If anything, I recommend waiting a few years before adopting. So you can space them out. And definitely don't do this if you're just expecting love in return, as that's just wrong and won't work. Get a puppy or kitten instead.

Overall, I recommend getting a puppy and an IUD. But I don't know you personally, so I can't give you the best advice. Oh, and don't get a little yappy dog, as everyone hates those.

Answer 3

If you are through with having babies then yes that would be the best option is to get your tubes tied. I only have one son and i am leaning towards getting my tubes tied as well cause i think i just dont want anymore.

I did though however sign the papers a month before i had my son (he was born a month early) and they scared me out of it telling me my son could die and all of that which he was healthy and now he is almost 5 years old but if i could go back i would have said hey no go ahead and tie my tubes.

I was 21 at the time and i knew then i didn't well i am sure i dont want to have anymore kids but i am going to do it here soon.

Here where i live you don't have to be married or have a certain amount of kids to have your tubes tied all you do is sign the papers a month ahead of time and you have to be 21.

If you know you dont want anymore then have it done but if you do have it done and later on down the road you want more you can always get them untied.

Good luck

Answer 4

Your so right ... Adoption is wonderful there are so many kids in foster care that need a perment home... And if you don't want another pregnancy and your sure of this then do it... I never had to but I know around menpause I was so sad that I never had more than my one teenage son but that was just hormones messing with my head. I did always want a little girl ahhhh you got my girls hehehe Boys are hard they take for ever to potty train.. they make messes worse than girls they are louder (ie when their voices change omg the sound travels so far... I live in an apartment and there are usually at lest 5 teenage boys here).
If you have insurance that will cover this I would myself have gone and had it done...
Good luck and remember to have some one to help for a few days around the house afterwards you might be a little sore the gas escaping up thur your sholder from the laproscopy proceduer is a little painful ....

Answer 5

since you asked I would wait anther few years to make such a decision. Getting your tubes tied is a big time decision, use birth control pills and condoms if you do not want to be pregnant. Why have surgery when there are reliable means of birth control.

Answer 6

Sorry to say, but doctors have a stranglehold on your reproduction choices. I will say with 99% certainty that your doctor will refuse to perform this surgery on you because of your age. This has happened to a few of my friends, and I've also been reading about other cases of this happening. They will most likely recommend that you go on some form of birth control until you "get older". They don't like to do it because young women sometimes change their minds, and it is difficult, if not impossible, to reverse.

Answer 7

Please don't listen to Ecream. Having a child is something for life, too. Don't listen to stories from women who regret their tubal... As long as women with children refuse to say they have regrets (trust me, there are millions of women who regret motherhood!), please don't take anyone seriously...but yourself.

You have the right to have your tubes tied. It's a human right. See source. Article 20.

Answer 8

I had a tubal ligation after three little girls at the age of 27 because of medical problems. I experience no noticable side affects, physically or psychologically; however, I did experience an early menopause in my forties and was on HRT for several years.

Here is some useful information:

Tubal Ligation IQ test

1. Tubal ligation:
a. Is a form of permanent birth control.
b. Is labeled and promoted to women as a "band-aid" surgery.
c. In the US is in general always performed by an OB-GYN, ACOG doctor.
d. Carries risks which women are routinely not informed of at the time of consent.
e. All of the above
2. How many women have had a tubal ligation?
a. More than 1/2 of women age 25 or over
b. More then 1/4 of women aged 30 or over
c. More then 1/3 of women aged 18 or over
Tubal ligation is the most widely used form of birth control for women over the age of 30. It is estimated that between 750,000 to one million each year in the US alone undergo tubal ligation for the purpose of birth control and that 1/4 of all women of child bearing age world wide have been sterilized in some fashion.

3. True or False:
There is no risk that Tubal Ligation alter your hormonal system because it is not hormonal (as with the pill).
Women are routinely not informed that they could possibly experience a hormonal imbalance which may require hormone replacement therapy (HRT). This is usually given to women in the form of the "pill". The cause of a hormonal imbalance is veins, arteries, and capillaries (the blood supply) to the ovaries and uterus can and often are affected at the time of surgery. "Ovarian Isolation" (one or both ovaries being affected) happens because it is the nature of the surgery. The tubal ligation surgery does not have to be "botched" in order to experience ovarian isolation or some form of post tubal syndrome (PTS).

If both ovaries become isolated and fail it is the same as castration or surgical menopause and you could experience "hormone shock", bone loss, and other disabling effects such as loss of libido and sex drive, memory loss, confusion, out bursts of rage (uncontrollable PMS), hot flashes, and loss of balance. The few doctors who are currently willing to publicly comment on this event happening states that the risk of ovarian isolation is very low and not even worth mentioning.

Dr. Hufnagel states that the numbers of women who are affected by total castration (both ovaries affected) may be low, but that the that the numbers of women affected by some sort of PTS is more then 50%. The CPTwomen believes that the numbers are much higher then 50%. This information is broadly elaborated upon and explained at the www.Tubal.org Members Site.

4. True or False:
Tubal Ligation is safe and without any known side effects (expect for the very small risk of pregnancy).
There are 4 major categories of risk.

1. Surgical Risk: Infection, internal bleeding, complications from general anesthesia, etc...

2. Failed Tubal (Pregnancy) or Ectopic (Tubal) Pregnancy: Pregnancy after having had a tubal ligation can be serious because the risk of a tubal or ectopic pregnancy is much higher. If you are post tubal and believe that you may be pregnant you need to be pregnancy tested right away. If it is found that you are pregnant your physician will need to immediately determine where the pregnancy is. If the pregnancy is located in your fallopian tube a surgery will be required as the condition is life threatening.

3. Tubal Regret: Some doctors screen to make sure that the woman has really put thought into their decision of permanent sterilization (meaning not able to have children or any more children ever). Other doctors don't (or don't care). The term "tubal regret" or "regret" has come to mean the woman regrets her tubal ligation because she now desires more children. We have termed this type of regret as "Baby Tubal Regret" (BTR). When a woman experiences BTR it is not really a surprise to her as she knows and understands the tubal ligation was the cause. Women are informed that the TL surgery is so that she can not have more children, she is not informed of the known side effects and risks which can lead to another type of regret which we have termed "Factual Tubal Regret" (FTR) which is explained below.

4. Post Tubal Syndrome (PTS) : Post tubal syndrome is the physical and physical effects which occurs caused by damage to the fallopian tubes, ovaries, and uterus and the effect of abrupt hormonal and physical changes caused by your routine tubal ligation or sterilization. "Ovarian Isolation", "Hormonal imbalance", "Hormone Shock" and the "Cause and Effect" of the blood supply being altered to the ovaries and uterus are are just a few of the "untold side effects".

Upon the realization of what the TL surgery did or might have done to one's health can also lead to "regret". This is not the regret of wishing that you could have more children but is regret, grief, sorrow, dread, horror, and dismay of learning that information and facts were withheld from you and that you were not informed by your trusted physician, and the regret of what the tubal ligation did to your health. We have termed this type of regret as "Factual Tubal Regret" (FTR), as this type of regret comes with learning the facts: the realization that information was withheld from you, that you were a victim of fraud and medical battery, and that you have been negatively altered or injured in some way.

5. True or False:
Having Tubal ligation can improve the condition of endometriosis.
There is no rhyme, reason, or evidence what so ever that tubal ligation improves or corrects endometriosis (unless the surgery is meant to cause you to become surgical menopausal.) When women enter menopause it has been noted that endometriosis becomes less severe. Surgical intervention such as Female Reconstruction Surgery (FRS) can correct endometriosis, but not tubal ligation.

6. PTS stands for
a. Promote The Service
b. Profit The Surgeons
c. Post Tubal Syndrome
Tubal ligations are known to cause a condition known and spoken of within the medical community as being Post Tubal Syndrome (PTS). PTS stands for side effects caused by the tubal. As a unspoken code of silence, PTS is not publicly spoken about by OB-GYN doctors, by the ACOG, nor are women informed of PTS.

Some causes and symptoms include the following:
a. Hormonal imbalances caused by the blood supply to the ovaries being affected.
b. The action of sealing the tubes can create a back flow/pressure into the tube during menstruation. The sealed tube(s) fills causing pain.
c. If the blood supply was affected affected to the uterus it can create the condition of andometriosis.

Post Tubal Women often experience extreme periods (gushing, flooding, cramping, pain, etc...). This could be caused by retro bleeding affecting the sealed tubes, by areas of the uterus being affected by loss of blood supply causing theses areas to become atrophic, by a hormonal change (if the ovaries blood supply were affected) or by some of all.

Women are not informed of PTS at the time of consent, nor are they informed of it afterwards. Post Tubal Women are (as a matter of a canard ob-gyn, ACOG standard) prescribed the pill (hormones) and told it is to "regulate their periods". This is done without first hormone testing. Some women are told that told they are simply depressed, that their condition is mental and not physical and prescribed antidepressants (again these women are never hormone tested). Some women are sent to heart specialists because of menopausal effects such as heart palpation's. (again, never hormone tested) Most are offered and suggested 2nd and 3rd surgeries such as D&C and hysterectomy when in fact surgery such as FRS might be a solution.

Answer 9

if you dont want another kid, then just be sure about that.