i don't need a mother.?

Question

o.k. men or women. my dear husband said this to me the other day and I was like shocked. "I don't need a mother." When ever he get ready to fly out, he doesn't get this luggage pack before hand, he do it like before we drive out to the airport. He'd forgotten his passport, work tag, and a few other stuff before. Still when I remind him to do it before hand, he said that to me. I get irritated because we have to run around looking for his things.

Answer 1

All men need mothers or mother figures ~ that's why many of them get married. Of chorse we'd like to think that they marry us for love & companionship but in reality they want someone to take care of them as their mothers would. For those men who don't marry of the motherly skills we have, well lets just say that they do it for the sex. And for the less then 2% out there who do marry for all for the right reasons (love, companionship, life long partner, etc...) way to go guys!! My advice is to just STOP doing the motherly things that he doesn't "need" you to do for him & after awhile he'll see that he does need you to do for him what he can't/won't do for himself.

Answer 2

Well, there are a few ways to handle that...
1. Make a checklist of what he needs the night before and gather it up for him. That puts more work on you, but you will not appear to be nagging him.
2. Suggest to him that HE make a checklist, so that he can get everything together before he has to leave. This may be more difficult than option 1 because it would be too easy and work too well. ;) Some men don't like to do things the easy way. Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Sounds to me like he was just upset because he dropped the ball. Yes, it was the wrong thing to say at the moment, but he was probably just letting off some steam. I also put my foot in my mouth in stressful situations, say things that should not have been said, in retrospection he probably regrets it. He felt pressured and thought that more pushing from you meant he was being criticised for not preparing sooner. Ask him about it in a nice way and you will probably get an apology. I don't think it was anything personal.

Answer 4

It happens, maybe he doesnt like the way you remind him, some women have the habit of nagging, taunting and being sarcastic. I am not saying that you are like that but maybe you should try reminding him more positively. Constructive criticism works wonders. By reading your words I can make out that your husband is very disorganized and needs some mothering, but remember, do it positively.

Answer 5

Let him do all that has to be done by himself. If he gets mad at you for not doing it yourself or not reminding him about something that you know he is forgetting just tell him that he said he doesn't need a mother and you plan not to mother him any more. If he apologizes then help him next time, but make him do it himself this time.

Answer 6

I know baby . Every man on the face of this earth needs someone to look out for him. keep doing this but wait until he thinks he is ready to leave and then make sure he has everything.

Answer 7

Sounds like he's unorganized! & he's a grown man! No matter how much u care, stop reminding him of anything unless he ask's u 2. Maybe that'll enlighten him on how unorganized he is & make him realize & appreciate how u've been helping him...

Answer 8

When do he have s check-up from the doctor the works full blood ,unrine, and poop done might be a underline condition.

Answer 9

yeah well a lot of times us women tend to treat our hubbys like our children i think sometimes us women think that by doing that we r shoeing them that we love them but men dont seem to see things that way they seem to see it as if we think they r stupid b/c we treat them like children i think u should read a book named men r from mars women r form venus it will help

Answer 10

Allow him to fail. Then, when he gets irritated, say, "you said I wasn't to act like your Mom." Then, walk away, let him have his little boy tantrum, lol.