Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. I found out a month ago that he was talking to anonther girl on the phone. when i found out i called the girl and asked her first what was going on with them. she told me that they were just friends and that i need to talk to him about it. So i call him and he tells me the samething. I forgave him. because i think everybody deserves a second chance. he tells me he wont lie to me again, and that he will let me know if he is talking to any of his girl friends on the phone. But a couple of days ago i find out that he has still been lying to me because i have asked him if he has been talking to that girl on the phone and he said no. but i had proof that he has. He hasen't stopped talking to her. And the bad thing about it is that it seems like he calls her more than me. I don't know whether they are really friends or if they are something more.
2006-07-01 19:22:46 · 11 answers · asked by jred 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i found out that he was talking to another girl from his voice mail. she said "i have been tring to get a hold of because i really wanted to talk to you, but i don't think we should be together anymore". He also told me himself that they met up at the club a couple of times as friends.
2006-07-01 19:59:53 · update #1
Fool me once... you know the drill sweetheart. He's a jerkoff, dump him now.
2006-07-01 19:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by blank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. He has already lied. You're right everyone deserves a second chance. You can at least know that you did. You have been together for two years, you have a right to expect the truth at any stage but after two years its a more serious relationship. There is no reason to be talking to another girl so often. You are his girl FRIEND. What does he need another girl friend for. You should be who he needs and wants to talk to. Do not let him or her because believe me she knows whats up, disrespect you that way. Know that you deserve more than that. And why waste time always watching your back and trying to figure out if he's telling you the truth. Liefs too short!!
2006-07-02 02:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, he has no respect for you or the relationship he has been in for 2 years, he's calling other women and lying about it, and seems to think now that he is telling you he is talking to them that it makes it ok, and since he is with you he should have a reason to call another girl, if they are just friends then you would have known about the girl and met her before you found out about it by him being on the phone, since he hasnt told anything about her, ect he is clearly hiding something, he has lied on two separate occasions and this will most likely not be the last time he will lie to you, this is not someone you should continue to have a relationship with, because if you cant even trust him even if he's on the phone, then there is no foundation for the relationship to exist.....
2006-07-02 02:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if they are really just friends, he's lied to you about it twice. You've given him a second chance and he even promised to tell you the truth, which he hasn't. And furthermore he seems to spending more time speaking to this other girl more than you so I really don't think you can trust him again. So, I think the best thing is for you to confront him - ask him what's going on, why is he spending so much time on the phone with her? If he still denies it, leave him, then if he wants to do anything with the other girl...besides, you get to find someone else better than him. Good luck.
2006-07-02 02:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by @~>--T--<~@ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question 1: WHY would he lie, if they're just friends?
This happened to me once, I did the same thing. I grew up and paid for my mistakes, but from one who's been there? He may THINK they're just friends, and maybe he believes it. But when he starts lying to you, then you know somethings up.
Question 2: Where you spend your time is where you heart is, (or obligations), yes?
Hopefully I don't have to explain that.
My advice? Give him an ultimatum. Her or me. Then keep tabs on him. If he really wants to work it out with you, and he really loves you then he should be able to stuff his pride and allow himself to be checked up upon. Don't accept any "where's the trust" bull, from him or anyone else. The trust left when he lied, this way you'll KNOW. If he doesn't agree to having tabs kept on him? Then he wasn't worth your time.
2006-07-03 14:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Spike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women will call this type, a "jerk"... But... What if it is the woman doing this sort of thing? What is she?
I hear when men sincerely ask their female significant other of their concerns in such a matter...she retaliates, "you don't trust me!" and if she reallllly wants to manipulate? Its, "you don't trust me...and since you dont trust me? That means you don't love me." (her way of turning the tables back on him). Either that? Or it is him being "controlling". (guys, can you hear me on this???)
AND...... If she does actually cheat on him.... It will already be because "he wasn't there for her" or "he wasn't emotionally supportive enough" or "he wasn't (fill in the blank here) enough". AND of course...... she finds alllll her solutions from this "other guy" instantly. She cheats, but its his fault, and he must apologize for making her cheat... right? Or its "hey, so I made a mistake...People make mistakes".
As for my own experiences... Being in the U.S. Armed Forces for over 8 years on active duty status... I'll to you what... I've had several girlsfriends. I heard all the "Ooh, I love you too much to do that..." OR "Oh no, I could never do such a thing..." OR "I can control myself while you're away..." Folks, within the first month, or three months... the woman cheated. For example... I had to go to a training post down in Texas for a month and a half... I came back to misses "I love you too much" -- To hear -- "but he was really nice to me." She later made a complaint to my former commander that "I still had some of her belongings"--which I never did. However, the commander made it out so that she could claim whatever she wanted from my barracks room (kind of like a small scaled divorce). However, it was humorous that she never came face to face to "claim her belongings"...I believe it was because of her guilt. Although later on, one of her supervisors paid me a visit... As he told me "its good that you broke up with that thing...cuz now she is asking permission more and more to go to the OB/GYN clinic to get checked out (perhaps its because she picked up a few "gifts that keeps giving" from this "really nice guy")... Moral of the story... Don't be a cheater!!
Oh and.... when I mention "cheaters", girls? That doesn't mean "just the guys".
2006-07-02 04:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Timmmay! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to dump your boyfriend because he talked to a woman on the phone ? ..that's 50% of the world's population he is cut off from..i think that if those are the rules in your relationship than he is better off without your insecure ways.
You really need to grow up .
2006-07-02 02:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um.....let me think.....NO! You cannot trust the loser. Dump him immediatly and move on to something sweeter baby. There are plenty of losers, don't get attached to them, just use them and let them get a taste of their own medicine. When you find a good one, be true and hold on to him, they are hard to come by. Put yourself above all this stupid bullsh*t and move on.
2006-07-10 15:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by trebobnagrom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are addicted to him. N any kind of addiction is bad for a person. So now you decide by yourself.
2006-07-02 02:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Leonardo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they were just talking. not kissing. not having sex. just talking. trust him one last time. ask him what are they talking about. maybe he's more comfortable to talk about things to that girl. ask yourself why.. and ask him about what he feels.
2006-07-02 02:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by fran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋