It was our arrange marriage i was not really interested in him but because of my parents i had no other choice. he wants me to get pregnent now but i m not interested at least for 3 years. I spoke to him regarding this but he is very stubborn and short tempered and wants me to do as he says,I really dont want to get pregnent now. Is there anyother way from which i cannot get pregnant and even he does not come to know about that. i heard about birth control pills but i even heard that it isn't 100% effective. can you please suggest me if there is any other way not to get pregnant.
2006-07-01 18:55:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are smart to not want to have a child if you are not ready...it is too bad that you are in a situation like this. however if you are able I would suggest to go to a doctor and see about getting an IUD...its a form of birth control that is inserted into your uterus by and doctor and can only be removed by a doctor.....your husband will not even know that it is there. Like any form of birth control there are side effects...but talk to your doctor. This way you will be protected if you forget to take a pill or any other form of birth control that requires daily, weekly or monthly regime.This way you can have the choice of when YOU want to have children. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-01 19:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by toe_roper 3 · 8⤊ 3⤋
Now you can get birth control at the doctor's office or at a clinic in the form of a shot. You only need to go to the doctor 2-4 times a year. Each shot is effective from 3 months to 6 months. It is the best form of birth control there is, but nothing is 100% guaranteed except for abstaining from sex entirely. If your husband never finds out about the doctor visits, he won't know what's going on. And try to have sex with him as rarely as possible...this will help explain why you're not getting pregnant. Normally, I don't recommend this type of deception at all. I would not even wish for anyone to stay in this kind of a marriage. I hope you will somehow be able to get some kind of marriage counseling so that you and husband can have a better relationship.
2006-07-02 02:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by sunny1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this must be really difficult for you. I don't know what religious background you come from or what country you live in but please do remember, that you can leave him at any time (at least if you live in North America) and do remember that if he forces sex on you, you have the right to say no, and if he doesn't listen, he is raping you.
As far as birth control, there are several medical methods - there is a pill that is about 99.5% effective as long as you take it at the same time every day, there is also a shot. If you take them for a long time they can have some negative health effects but most people do not experience this. Your doctor will have to prescribe any of these for you so you'll need to talk to him/her - the shot may be more ideal for you simply because then your hubby wont see you taking it (you only have to get it once every 3 months) but it does make your period really strange.
Good luck.
2006-07-02 11:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah ditch ur husband cause he sounds very controling and stufff. but other than birth control try shots. and nothing is 100% effective. so u just out of luck. y not have kids theres nothing wrong with it im 21 my husband is 25 and we have 2 boyd 14months old and 1 month old. and thay are the greatest thing to us besides each other. what are u one of them religeions that belive in arranged marrages.. wake up to the real world does anyone really do them still to this day i know ppl that belive in that stuff but thay didnt go threw with the arranged marrage. y force a person to marry someone that thay either dont know or are not interested in marrage is supposed to be specal. i always thought in the arranged marrages that the ages were the same or close not so far apar like urs with 12 yrs apart. i have known ppl to have arranged marrages and thay were the same age or a year or two apart but not 12 yrs. but i see where he is coming from on wanting kids cause ya know he aint the youngest and by the time the kid is ur age u will 40-41 yrs old and he will be 52-53 yrs old. so ya know think of all ur possabilitys and stuff but remember no form of birth control is 100% accuret. but if u would like to talk some more about this or any thing elts feel free to email me or message me at
BABYSHADOW85@YAHOO.COM
2006-07-02 02:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birth control pills are extremely effective if used correctly. I'm not sure where you live, but if there is a Planned Parenthood clinic, you should go there and learn more. Do you live in the US? Arranged marriage is very sad. I'm really sorry. I would run away. Neither this man nor your parents own you. You are your own individual with a life that matters. Do your best to get out of this situation for your own happiness. Good luck.
2006-07-02 02:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Vet Tech Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am really sorry to learn the age gap and a sort of forced marriage. Your parents should not have taken this step unless ur family is poor or under any sort of pressure. U r of very much sexy and juicy age. You could have found some one less older than him. Actually, he may be right in having children now because of his age as later age children has also problems because he wants his children to be adult before his old age. And u r also right because of ur young age. You have plenty of time to have children. BUT THE RIGHT THING TO MY MIND IS YOU BOTH CAN WAIT TILL ANOTHER ONE AND A HALF YEAR FOR HAVING CHILDREN. you can have vaginal anti-pregnancy tablets like 'TODAY'. i.e. before the intercourse you just thrust one tablet into your vagina and that should be atleast fifteen minutes before the sex. This can save u and ur health also. Because you are actually too young to have children. BUT IN ANY CASE DON'T MISUNDERSTAND UR HUSBAND AND KEEP LOVING HIM.
2006-07-02 02:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live here in America? Because you have your own right to not get pregnant....Don't have sex with him at all. Tell him to start finding another woman that will be willing to have his baby..... Go out on your own and get the birth-control shot and also look into buying some female condoms, just in case he does penetrate....LAST BUT NOT LEAST - Always go to police if he does force sex on you. REGARDLESS if he is your husband.......
2006-07-02 05:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by goldylocks11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your life & no one can play with your life even if he is your husband, only this mere relation of husbund can't pressurize you for doing something thant you don't want to.
If he is a man then he accept your liking or disliking and never pressurise you to do something thant's you don't want. The relations live long with mutual understanding and can't go for long way without each other support
2006-07-02 02:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Rohit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your doctor-there is a shot you can take that will prevent pregnancy for three - five years. You should never have a child that you do not want-it's not fair to the child and your husband probably just wants to tie you down.
2006-07-02 01:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the pills; i haven't heard anyone getting pregnant when taking these; yet, you have to make sure that you are taking them daily, at the same hour, if it is possible. but i don't think it is good to lie your husband, i sicerely prefer divorce, sorry; you should try to talk wiyh him again, having kids is not an obligation, it is a pleasure!
2006-07-02 02:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by lock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋