he promises he's changed
2006-07-01 18:54:39 · 17 answers · asked by jen21bug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they promise dont they!!
2006-07-01 18:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The love is always going to be there because the both of you shared your lives with each other. But what it all comes down to is,is it love, the I am in love with you, I want you to share my soul with god love or is it, he opened his eyes and saw that you gave him everything he ever wanted. He has seen that with out you he is just not the same person, "where is the person that boosted his morral." Then there is the facts, what was the breakup about, if he hit you then no no no no, I don't know how many times you have to hear it, so here is one more no. If he hit you once then he will do it again. If the break up was because of cheating then maybe, he must be willing to devote a long period of time to making sure you can trust him once again. He would have to let you know where he goes and the time period he plans to be at each place, if he leaves early or late from that place he must call with a different time period for the rest of the time he is out, if he says that he is going to be home at a surtin time then he must walk through that door at that time. Time with the boys should be cut in half just for 2 month so that time between you two can make your relationship stronger, pluse it will show the both of you if the time together is what you want and if you find that you can not be together for long periods of time or that the arguing starts then the relationship isn't ment to be and both of you need to move on, at lest you two can both say you tried. Moving on will aloue both of you to make a new start and to be able to focus on the most important person, yourself. I hope that this helps and good luck.
2006-07-02 02:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by justalilbirdie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not clearly tell us everything but ...... "he promises he will change" I am a mature and sensible man with experience in life, if he promises he will change there was something not right. Firstly, trust me, people do not change. Secondly if he did change, for a while, he would let you down later. If you seek a lasting relationship, one which endures, you have to accept the person for what they are, for better or for worse, because at the end of the day they are what they are. Good luck, this are my thoughts, digest and do what you think best. Let me know how you got on.
2006-07-02 04:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tim T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both still love each other, then thats the hard part done already. I think you should both write lists of things that make each other angry and work through them together. You say that he says he has changed but have you changed aswell, i know that when a marriage breaks up its mostly one persons fault but the other is not completely innocent. Both of you need to either change or just get on with the way it was. Best of luck.
2006-07-02 03:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by bevsthe1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That completely depends on the reason you left. If he was physically or mentally abusive, he can't just promise to change...that usually doesn't happen like that. If he cheated then you have to go with your gut on whether you trust him not to do it again. You know the answer inside, it is whether you won't to listen or not.
2006-07-02 01:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by luvlyblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my ex and I want to get back with him so bad but I am married and we don't get along but we have a kid together, but if i were single i would be in his arms right now
2006-07-02 02:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by gina t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! I don't know the reason of the separation. Anyway, by experience I can tell you that if he "cheated" you with another woman, he WILL DO IT AGAIN AND AGAIN...that's my experience of 41 years of marriage. In case, he is obsesive, or his "brains" are not working ok, that's worst, and if he made a sichological or physical abuse, THAT'S THE SUPER WORST!!! Pleaseeeee!!!!! get rid of that animal, he could not be named as a man. Please!!! forget about that "thing", please.........!!! Wish you the best!!!......As he was, he will be, MEN NEVER CHANGE! BELIEVE IN ME !!!......
2006-07-02 02:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by rosy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opion do it by all means . yes people change and sometimes even for the better by all means i would . good luck to you both . . he probley has loved you while you two was apart all the time . good luck to you . both. my opion?
2006-07-02 02:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't hurt that much to give it a try. Go for it. Enjoy life.
2006-07-02 06:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a go,if he aint changed as you ll find outsoon enogh,tell him hes dumped for good.if hes has changed then good luck
2006-07-06 11:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by irlamboyo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the reason of the seperation.u cant teach an old dog new tricks
2006-07-02 02:01:56 · answer #11 · answered by deliciouslovelycast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋