I'm in my early 30s and feel I don't have any super close friends from college or grad school like a lot of other people do. I do have some close friends from high school, but they're spread out all over the country, so I never really see them. I interact with only a small group of people at work, so that doesn't seem promising either. How do you make close friends later in life? Do I have to join a lot of activities or something? Get a dog?
2006-07-01 18:47:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I could have written your question!
About 3 years ago, my husband and I took stock of our friends, realised we didn't really like them and moved on.
It was lonely for a while, but then we joined a club. In our case, it's a 4 wheel drive club as we like camping and the outdoors etc. The first few months I was really shy, but after a time, I just gave myself a shake, and got involved. We've been members a little over 18 months now, and it's surprising that we have made some really nice friends. I'm really happy.
My new years resolution this year was to accept all social invitations. This has helped too. You have to be open to others.
Good luck, you will get there.
2006-07-01 18:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Fuzzy Wuzzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question! I'm in my late 20's and I'm in a similar situation. I've never been able to make friends easily and without being in school (with people my age) it's practically impossible. I'm lucky enough to have one best friend in close proximity... but that's where it ends for the most part. I work in a fairly small office and the age gap/personality difference between me and my co-workers is fairly significant. As far as activities go... I've volunteered in the past (not to meet people--but if that was what I was looking for it wouldn't have worked)... maybe you'd be lucky enough to make friends that way. Good luck.
2006-07-01 19:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by zzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a dog is better than having a close friend who might turn out to be too domineering, possessive, jealous, suffocating, sticky (won't leave you alone), demanding, always borrowing money from you .......you don't know what freaks your friends will turn out to be.
Haven't you heard of the people trying to get rid of their close friends because they find that they no longer meet their expectations of what a close friend is?
2006-07-01 21:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋