I am in love with this man at work ...We have talked ever since we started working together and there was always some kind of sexual attraction between us ..We talk on the phone and on messenger everyday , and we flirt with each other all day at work ..I am falling in love with him ..He is great and we have the best time together , we talk about our problems , he has become my best friend ..He has someone , although things are not going so smoothly right now , their relationship is on the rocks..They do not have sex together , but he and I do ...They have not had sex in over a year and a half ..He had felt inadequate because she told him he was small , ...Anyways everything is great with us .I do not want him to leave her for me , because that is just wrong , but he was leaving anyways , he told me that when he and I were just friends , before we got romantically involved..I just do not know what to do I mean he asked me if he left if I would marry him .Okay problem is he is married ..
2006-07-01 18:43:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well not that it matters but we have mutual friends and they know that the things I have said are true .. But to make matters worse he is now my boss ....I know that this is wrong in more than one way but I do not know what to do I actually love him ..Sad thing is alot of guys want to be with me , I am a nice looking lady , yet I am stuck on this man and cannot seem to let it go ...
2006-07-01 19:03:02 · update #1
When he cheats on you with another woman, I'll be looking for your question for help here in the future.
2006-07-01 18:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by quiet times 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let me say first off... If he is cheating on his current wife what the hell makes you think he will not cheat on you? I am a man and I will give it to you from my perspective. I have been married 28 years. If a young lady at work is going to bed me, you can be sure that my wife will not have sex with me and in fact has not had sex with me for some time; at least that is what I will be telling her. He is not being truthful to you. I am 99% certain he is fully engaged with his wife (talks, dinner, sex, yes the whole thing), he is lying to you and her, he will not leave his wife for you and most importantly you and he have no future. He does not want you for a wife, he wants you for a little sex on the side. Dump his *** and find a real man, that is one that will be honest and truthful to you, is there at all times of the day when you need him or want him, will not cheat on you because honey, IF and I mean IF he were to divorce his current wife and marry you, he will find a little free sex on the side then as well as he is now. Dump him!!!!!
2006-07-01 18:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by father_dale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? You are people who have physical attraction, which is fine, but it isn't because he is married. All married people have some sort of problems, and this one, well, he needs to deal with it.
I am concerned more because you work together and this is going on. The reason I worry is because it isn't going to go any where - sorry, but breaking up a marriage is huge, and when or if he does leave, he is going to be so preoccupied with lawyers and whatnot, that will take his time and money. If he does want you after he has left and has let the dust settle, fine, but right now, I'm sorry but it strikes me that he is looking for a mistress. Is that what you want to do you want to be somebody's true love? My guess is this guy isn't it.
2006-07-01 19:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stupid. He told you all this before you slept together because he was working his way up to getting in your pants...And you can believe that he hasn't had sex with his own wife in over a year if you want to, but you are stupid for that to.
So what is your question.
I've already told you that you are stupid. What more do you want to hear? You should leave him alone. He said he was going to leave his wife...but guess what? He hasn't...And if you guys care so much for each other, then why not put this great, passionate love affair on hold until he actually goes thru with the divorce.
Believe me, I've been where you are which is why I can tell you that you are stupid to believe what he is telling. He might actually care for you, but he is still sleeping with her and you are just his thing on the side. You are the secret.
He was trying to get in your pants and he did and now he is staying in your pants and hers...He hasn't left her and of course he's not going to tell you that things are going great between him because that would discourage you..
THINK GIRL!!!
2006-07-01 18:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend you to seperate with him for a while until he divorces. It's hard but what do you feel if you are his wife and he loves another woman? If you two really love each other, he should finish the relationship with his wife first before to do anything with you. I don't care you are nice looking girl or you have a lot of guys. It's a respectation to yourself and other people.
I also recommend that if you two decide to be together, one of you is better to find a new job except you two can handle personal issue with affecting your work.
2006-07-01 19:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married and cheating on his wife with you. How do you know that he is not still having sex with his wife and for that long of time to boot, a year and a half,PLEASE. He is going to cheat on you IF he even gets a divorce from his wife. Most guys will tell a female anything to get them into bed. Stay with my motto: Don't say or do anything that you won't say or do in front of your mate. With that said now, will you do everything that you two are doing in front of his wife? I didn't think so, leave him now, he is not worth it. How would you feel if that was your husband and he was doing what you two are doing with another woman?
2006-07-01 19:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so he has cheated once. He will cheat again. The same thing can happen if you & him are married. He finds a girl he gets along with tells her he is leaving you & cheats on you. I understand you love him. But sometimes the hardest thing to do is the right thing to do. I hope everything works out great for you!
2006-07-01 19:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by claire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if the relationship is going down why cant you wait if he really loves you we he's done with all the drama he be ready for you.
That is horrible. You should think of it as if that was you sisters situation or cousin or even your daughter don't do that because she someone daughter/sister/cousin. I agree with him you shouldn't have got involved even if you love him. Because he did it one and he might do it again except to you.
2006-07-01 18:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF THIS MAN DID IT ONCE HE IS APT TO DO IT AGAIN. GO GET YOURSELF SOME RESPECT FOR YOURSELF,OTHER WOMEN(BECAUSE KHARMA'S A MF'ER)AND THEN GET A NEW MAN AND PRAY FOR FORGIVENESS FROM GOD BC THE BIBLE SAYS THAT CAN BRING A CURSE ON YOU. SORRY TO SOUND HARSH.NO DISRESPECT INTENDED.(NOT THAT YOU WOULD CARE BC U HAVE NONE FOR YOURSELF ) PUT YOURSELF IN HIS WIFES SHOES. THEY ARE STILL MARRIED FOR A REASON.AND I BET IT IS NOT THE KIDS
2006-07-01 19:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shame on you...for getting invovled with a married guy. you should have waited til after he split with his wife; and shame on him for taking advantage of you......do you really think he'll leave her? why hould he now that he has you both? watch ur back girl
2006-07-01 18:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by lgoins29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋