My husband has been cheating with this slut of a friend almost the whole 2 years we've been married. Foolishly I've given him the benefit of the doubt after benefit of the doubt because I don't believe in getting a divorce but it progressively got worse. We have 2 kids together and I finally decided after the birth of my 2nd child that enough was enough. I expressed that to him prior to him being reassigned overseas. (Navy) The night prior to him leaving he didn't spend anytime with me or his twins. He came home a couple of hours before his flight was supposed to depart so that he could get a ride to the airport. Well since he's been there (6 months now) He's playing this sincere, I'm sorry, I want to be a good husband role. What would you have done in my situation? What would you have done to this slut of a friend that he worked with?
2006-07-01 18:32:25 · 5 answers · asked by Sweet_Sassy_Scorpio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did you let him continue this relationship with this "friend" of yours?
You have given him way to many opportunities to change his ways. If you truly believe that he is sincere in his pleas to be a good husband and father, then take him back, but do make sure you both get marriage counseling.
If you decide to not take him back, then do just that. Don't play a game of cat and mouse with him if you want him to take you seriously.
You have the right to be mad but you also have to lay some blame on yourself for staying with him while he continued this affair.
Take some time, gather your thought, make a decision, then act on it. Good Luck!
2006-07-01 18:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like my answer. If his cheating dates back all the way to your marriage day, I cannot see for the life of me how this man can be trusted in the future. He obviously has some good qualities,or else you wouldn't have married him. If it's important to you to be married to a one-woman man and the woman is supposed to be you, I seriously believe that he will continue to fail to live up to that standard. As to what to do about it, I think other responders to your question will be quick to suggest that, but I think it's something that has to come from deep inside you after lengthy thought.
2006-07-02 01:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is how i look at it this has been going on for 2 years if he had divorce you. you could of got him for child support that why he didn't leave you so what happen you had a other baby and he keep on seeing this other lady and you allow this to happen and know you are calling this other women a ***** i think you should be call your husband those word and you should take some of the blame your self for letting this happen for so long to so i guess how long are you going to let this keep happening ??????????
2006-07-02 04:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to hurt, but you have to get out. Your children deserved to raised in a loving family - not one torn apart by others. If your husband can't be faithful (and never was), then he never will be. You will go through the rest of your life wondering if he is having affaris with every woman you see him talking to. You owe it to yourself and kids to get out and get away from him.
2006-07-03 20:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by Coolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is using this on you to still do what he has been doing all the time this man will never change only get worser in what he has been doing . my opion?
2006-07-02 03:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋