This Question is to married couples.....?

Question

Do you ever feel alone, even when your mate is there? Do you ever feel like they are off in their own little worlds even when they are sitting right next to you? How does it feel when that happens? Men and Women welcome to answer this, I would really like to know?

Answer 1

yeah it has happened to me and it sucks. i feel like i am here alone , i want to share stuff but i cant, i feel like i cant speak and dont know if he will understand. it hurts and i just want to cry i dont know what else to do. i end up going to the book store trying to loose myself in a book or the ride.i come home only to find him alseep and not understanding why he doesnt see me or hear me or even ask me what the problem is,but then i think if he tells me will i let him know when i dont even know myself.

Answer 2

I don't feel alone at those times, but I do know that I focus inwardly at times when my hubby is around, and he does the same. We all do. It is a natural thing. I feel fine with it, as I know from experience that most people refresh themselves emotionally and intellectually, plan their day, think of what transpired perhaps that day or the day before, etc, by being off in that little world within. I actually try not to disturb him when he is in that mode, as men process things one at a time usually, and if he is in his own little world, I am not breaking the focus if possible. He will "come back" and talk to me within a short period of time. Some people get scared and think something is up - cheating, growing apart, etc. We trust each other so there is no fear involved. We know there is a strong bond between us - so much so that we don't even have to talk to communicate most of the time and at other times finish each other's thoughts. We have been married 34 years and have always respected each other's "own world" time.

Answer 3

Yes, and it sucks.....You are only feeling this way because the person you married no longer cares about how you feel anymore especially if you have been married for over 20yrs. You want to let this person go and venture out into the wild :-) But at the same time you are afraid because you never know what you may catch. However, its still on your mind that wow does he really love me or is it that he just doesn't want anyone else to have me. You feel as if you can just go out there and just be cool with everyone. You are bored at home. You have fun when you are away from home. You wish he could be part of your fun but he is not interested. So what do you do when you really want to have fun......I know what I am going to do on my birthday....I will be 40 and I plan on having some big fun with or without him!!!!!

Answer 4

Yes. The thing is, when you are in that close a relationship, there will be times that you need to think about things, or that something is bothering you and you just want to dwell in it a bit, or you're worried about something, or trying to solve a problem...in general it is a mental bit of space every one needs. Especially if one or both of the people are introverts. So most of the time, it doesn't bother me.

On the other hand, when there are problems in a marriage and one partner deliberately avoids the other and doesn't talk about anything, that's something else. I used to say that there is nothing more lonely than to be alone with another person. It's true, but when it's a situation like what I just described. Not a normal every day thing about people needing their space.

Answer 5

If you are in a failing relationship you can die of loniless in a crowded room. Life is hard and typically the choice to let go and open your heart is sometimes a recipie for heart ache.

I'm not sure what's right in this. We live in a synical, cruel, immediate gratification world. Delayed gratification is treated more like a symptom of a disease rather than a good atribute. More and more people are finding that they are strangers living in the same house (notice I didn't say home).

I don't know if that helps or what.

Answer 6

honestly, i have never once felt alone with my husband. He's in iraq right now, and i still don't feel lonely. i mean in the physical sense, yes...but i know he's right beside me emotionally. He's there for me every step of the way. If you're starting to feel alone, i think you two should sit down and talk about it, and see what can be done to try to fix the problem. No married couple should feel alone. ever.

Answer 7

I have felt that way, absolutely. I've traced it to times I'm feeling selfish, though.
When there's harmony in our relationship there's a give and take- and no invisible point system being kept. If things get out of balance, clear communication and understanding is the only way to get it back to normal.
This is a female answer. I know I will sometimes go off into my own little world and my husband can't get anything through to me, too.

Answer 8

I can relate to this very well...I have been married for just over a year...My husband tends to want to be in his own world ALOT!...I know exactly how this makes others feel . makes you feel not wanted rejected...right?? I feel that talking about this does help some as it has for me...We are slowly but surely working this out ....Marriage or being in a relationship is very hard work at times...trying to keep each other happy and feel loved all of the time..But if you dont keep the lines of communication open that will make things alot worse...It might take alot of work to talk to your partner and get things worked out but keep on trying dont let it go,,I know its rough and sometimes you feel like giving up..i have several times but i keep on trying as each time i do he realizes more and more of what is going on...We always have to stop and remember why we fell in love with that person to begin with?? There is hope at the end of it all it just might take some time to get there...So keep going and hopefully things will work out one way or another..Good luck..

Answer 9

None of the above. My fiance and I have been living together for five years now and we love each other's company. Sometimes we spend time in different rooms. I may be on the computer and he watching T.V. but that's life. Then on the weekends, we take long 4 hours walks by the river park.
You have to plan these little things to keep that spark alive and well.

Answer 10

Everyone feels that way at one time or another. He usually IS off in his own little world lol. Used to bother me alot, now we each have our own interests so it isn't a big deal. We spend time together, with the kids, and by ourselves. It works out most of the time although we still fight once in a while.