Why do some people marry at months after they are boyfriend and girlfriend, is there a rule on how long you?

Question

I guess i would wait at least a year. but i've heard and known people who marry after just a few months. what is best to do?

-unexperienced me just wondering about things

Answer 1

there is no rule, if you feels that you are ready then go 4 it, but if you are marrying b/c you don't want to lose the person, then don't do it.

Answer 2

The best thing to do is to do what your heart tells you. Get married when and only when you are ready. Don't let anyone talk you into it. Don't believe it will always be blissful. A marriage takes work and it is hard sometimes no matter how much you love each other.

Oh, I read somewhere, don't remember who said it, some psychologist, says that it takes 11 years to REALLY and TRULY learn everything about somebody. And also, I am a christian and dating IS NOT a sin. As long as there is no sex before the marriage then you are not sinning. Being lustful and whatever else was said happens in everyday life to people not just because you are dating. If you are dating it may be harder to stop the thoughts that we, as human beings, have but that doesn't make dating a sin.

Answer 3

I have known people to do both. Sometimes it is good and sometimes it is bad. It really depends on their compatibility, maturity and their readiness to settle down. when it's right ,,,then it is right. The timing is not the deal--it is the love and all those other things that make the difference. Preferably a year is good, but I believe that you should not marry too young or you will or might wish you had your freedom and married a little later in life. So it is just really up to the person--they know when the time is right for them.. and personally--I think that everyone should have to have counseling session on marriage before they are allowed to marry--to help them decide and to understand that it is not something to take lightly. But that is just my opinion--but it is a good one!

Answer 4

A year is way too short a time, and five years is way too long! From my experience people will show their true selves after a year. If your a guy don't get married till you've gotten all you playing out of the way and you're ready to give your all to the relationship.

Answer 5

I know a couple who decided to engage after 12 DAYS of dating. It depends on how confident and quick thinking the couple is. Some people are just ready faster to make big life decisions like this quicker than others.

Answer 6

I dont really think there is a certain timeline for marriage. I really think it depends on how well you know someone, sometimes that takes a short time and then again it can take years. I think this is the key reason why there is such a huge divorce rate nowadays people no taking the time to get to really know someone, they let hormones and sex get in the way. I hope my opinion gives you something to think about.

Answer 7

I don't think it wise to marry after only a few months. Because you need to get to know this person b4 marrying them and that can't be done in just a few months......Some people live together first to see how it is going to be , b4 getting married. Good question


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Answer 8

There is no time limit rule. I would think one marries when they're ready. However, it seems that folks not only jump into marriage too quickly. But they also fall in and out of love very quickly.

Answer 9

According to Christianity, you should marry as soon as you date because dating is a sin, in fact even fantassy, flirting, lust and looking at a girl is a sin.

So if you're a Christian, you should marry as soon as you look at a girl. Or else you will be adulterous and that's also a sin.