About 8 mths ago we had a night out with is g/f who he has played up on more times than I can count. He got 2 drunk and went home left his g/f with myself, my husband and a group of friends she had one of those crying in the bathroom episodes I tried to comfort her she accused him of playing up and was going on about the fact that he would never marry her. I said nothing even though I knew exactly what he has been up to, as it was no my place. The next few weeks I noticed he wasn’t taking or returning my calls I finally got on to him and to my shock I found out she said I told her what his been up to, he basically told me if I didn’t apologise we could no longer be friends. Im can be brutally honest although Im not in the habit of lying he knows this as we have been bst/f for 10 years. Their engaged now and just last week I found out that surprise surprise shes pregnant. I want to warn him that she is a deceitful liar she has cleverly manipulate him so well I dont he will listen ???
2006-07-01 17:46:46 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok, well you are in a bind.. hmm. Well this is what I would do. First of all--send him a card--that says I miss you on it--like a silly little animal one--like a little puppy with big sad eyes on the front of it. :)
Then,, inside the card--tell him that you are sorry for the misunderstanding and that you did not mean to hurt him and would never hurt him. Then ask him to please call you because you would like to talk to him and to have coffee or dinner--as a good friend so that you can explain and make up for the misunderstanding
next in the card--congratulate him on his engagement and happiness and tell him you want to be a part of that.
Next--leave your number and ask him to please call soon.
Tell him that your friendship means more to you than a silly arguement and that you value him and his decisions. Tell him that it is up to him to contact you now.
Then see if he calls and you set up a time to meet.
When you do meet and if you do see him,, then be friendly and act normal. then let him talk and you listen.
If he is content.. then Please DO NOt say anything mean about his girlfriend--because he will not like that--even though you two have been friends for 10 years. It will hurt him and it will hurt your friendship.
However,, when the conversation leads toward what you supposedly said and what she lied about--that is when you do it--You can say it in a nice way though--tell him that she was really drunk and upset--and tell him that you tried to calm her down, but that she misunderstood what you said--probably because she was drunk.. Tell him that you are sorry about all of this,, but it is not your fault and that you wish you would have not been there with her. wait for him to respond. If he asks you what you think of her. then tell him that you do not want to say what you think of her because it is not good and that you do not want to put him down. Then if he asks you to still tell him, then look down with a troubled look on your face.. then tell him --to remember that you are his friend and that you would never ever lie to him--then tell him the facts of what you know.
That is all you can do. Leave it at that and see what happens. Remember--people change and it is sad and sometimes they see the light and sometimes they remain in darkness and go on their own way. You have self-respect and you must go on with your life either way. And the truth will come out eventually. Good luck. :) And I am sorry for your troubles and pain.
2006-07-01 18:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by just julie 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
If he marrys the lying ***** then he will soon find out for himself and he will need a bestfreind and of course that will be you but before he does marry her just drop a little bomb and tell him he might want a DNA test done to be sure it is his
2006-07-02 00:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur bff isn't ur bff then try explaining it once they break up , if they do
2006-07-02 00:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Pie iz GOOD!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋