I gave my mother a gift certificate to a nice resteraunt for mothers day. She had a family friend doing some handy man work. She paid him cash and then gave him the gift ceft. as an extra payment. She did this right in front of me. I was furrious and went off on her. She told me that the gift was given to her and she can do as she pleased with it and that I should shut my mouth and stop causing trouble.
2006-07-01 17:45:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It was to a place she loves eating at.
2006-07-01 17:58:22 · update #1
Yes it was very rude for her to do that. I know and understand that it was hers to do as she pleased with it, but still that was for HER to spend on herself, not to give it away to someone else. I'm a mom and I would never do something like that ever!! As a matter of fact, with my own mom, what she does if one of us kids gives her something, she writes our name on it so as she will know who it was that gave it to her and then in time she will give it back to the same one that give it to her, it might be 5 or 6 years later when she does this, but she will never give something away that one of us gave her to someone else with out asking us first if we want it back and then let us know that so and so needs this and then it is up to us as to whether she gives it to them.
2006-07-01 18:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Sorry, taking mom's side. The problem here seems to be you. First of all you do not know your mother well enough to give her a gift she would appreciate and cherish. Seems like you gave your mom a gift you liked and your feelings were hurt when you realized she did not care for it as much as you did.
And isn't it better for her to give the gift to someone who will use it, then to let it sit in a drawer and expire or never get used.
2006-07-01 17:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Seeking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a strange situation -- and why on earth would you go out in an ice storm just to grab an impersonal gift to throw at his mother in the middle of an ice storm. You sound like you were angry at having to "prove" yourself to your fiance', so you went to extraordinary measures in order to shut him up. You "struggled up the icy stairs" -- well, you're the idiot that went out into an ice storm. I'm sorry, I don't give you points for that, because you didn't do it out of love -- you did it to prove a point, and to win some weird one-upmanship game with your fiance'. Your MIL was probably totally perplexed at your sudden burst of devotion -- or else she was wondering what in the hell was going on. Look at it from her perspective -- you hardly ever see her, and then, suddenly, on a really rotten night for visiting, you call and say, "Hey, I'm coming by", obviously not wanting to spend any time with her, just long enough to throw a gift at her and satisfy your fiance' that you've "done your duty." Was she rude? You didn't want to stay and visit, there was a freakin' ice storm, and you expected her to stand there and freeze while you continued to make a point? Weird situation all around.
2016-03-27 00:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when my mom did that. I felt so bad that I actually went out and bought her another gift. Then I realized that I wasen't in the wrong that my mom was. And not only once but twice ONE FOR GIVING THE GIFT AWAY AND THE OTHER FOR MAKING ME FEEL BAD
2006-07-01 17:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was very rude of your Mother and just because you are her child does not mean she should treat you with less respect than she would anyone else. She should have ask you if it was ok. When my children give me something it is always so dear to me.
2006-07-01 17:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by lizreganl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you have one of those mothers? sorry for you. maybe she is mad at what you got her, maybe she thought that you would get her something nicer and was disapointed and that was her way of telling you by giving it away in front of you, wich does not by the way make it ok for her to do that. she must not be one of those people who think that the thought is what counts in life. well as far as talking to her about it, if it hurts your feelings, no matter how she says keep your mouth shut, i think she should know at least how it made you feel for her future rudness's she might pull. good luck!
2006-07-01 17:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom was right. It was her gift, and she can do with it as she pleases.
Plus, she is your Mom. Never go off on your Mom, regardless of how jacked up her actions are. And that action was truly jacked up.
Next year, give her clothing in your size.
2006-07-01 17:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very rude, the next mother's day, she would be lucky to get a phone call. I would have been upset also.
2006-07-01 17:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by yugie29 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time she gives U a gift U don't really like, don't say anything and give it to somebody right in front of her asap :) :) then she'll get why U R upset :)
2006-07-01 17:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Celebriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was rude and very hurtful on her part.....I know you love your mom but next year don't get her anything , she doesn't appreciate it and if she asks why just tell her Why should I? You will just give it away !!! Let her know how much she hurt you
2006-07-01 17:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋