How do you guys feel about a guy "mentally" cheating on you while "getting himself off" (if you know what I mean), thinking about other women?
My live-in, long-term boyfriend knows this bothers me, but he does it anyway sometimes.
Do you think that this can lead to bigger problems with us?
2006-07-01 17:42:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the most important thing is that IT BOTHERS YOU.. Even more important, despite your confrontations, he continues.. Is that love? respect? consideration?
As far as leading to 'other things'.. while that may or may not happen, it doesn't matter.. because for you, he already is cheating... you just haven't decided to leave yet.
2006-07-01 17:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by joshua 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have way too much time on your hands if you are seriously considering what you say about mental cheating. Do you really think that mental cheating with a porn star on the tube is cheating. Are you that shallow to encumbre you bf or hubby. What do you do when you actually have real problems that take real solutions. Can your self esteem be so low that you criticize a mans use of porn for masturbation? Are you willing to be with that man every time he has the need to perform a purely heridetary function normal in every way and taking the place of the stimulation and enjoy his company in a sexual way with the frequency he needs? If not how can you criticize his efforts to not demand more frequent attention from you yet you would seek to dominate not only one of his needs but how he fills it when you would not help him with it? Try to rethink it from a mans perspective and if you haven't found Marylinn Chanbers phone number in his pocket why don't you give him a break and take on solving real time, real life problems.
2006-07-02 00:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think mental cheating is when he becomes emotionally involved with someone else. If sometimes he fantasizes about a movie star or over a magazine, this is not cheating. It is normal. It will only lead to other problems if he is obsessed with porn or acts on his fantasies. I mean you probally think other guys are cute or a movie star is cute and wonder about them, right? It is just nature.
2006-07-02 00:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your going to be suprised to learn that watching porn is NORMAL. It isnt going to lead to bigger problems unless you (or he) makes it a bigger issue than it is.
As for it being "mental" cheating, no, I dont think it is. Are you telling me you never once fantized about another man? (doesnt matter if you were getting off or not) Its a normal thing for people, even in a relationship, to think of another person now and then. Its not like he's going to act on his thoughts and go running around.
Maybe watch some with him, you might be suprised to find that you like it.
2006-07-02 00:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Amanda ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutley! It goes beyond just "thinking" about another person. Because If he were satisfied in the relationship with you, it would be YOU he would be thinking about. It's not just as simple as thinking. There is definatley more to it than that. If you already let him know that it bothers you, that's all you can do on your end. If he knows it bothers you and does nothing to correct it, you deserve someone better who will treat you like a princess!!
2006-07-02 00:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by amyiswaykoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes mental cheating can lead to worse things in my opion dont judge all men by whoever has done you like this a real man would never do this to his wife in my opion ?
2006-07-02 05:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya you should be enough for him, he should be able to look at you and have that as his way of having good sex, not mentaly thinking of someone else. when two people realy love eachother they dont need that stuff. find out why he does it so you have a better understanding of how he works and then see if there is a way that you and him can fix it! good luck!
2006-07-02 00:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you get mentally even or better yet have a mental orgy and see how he feels, what are you a mind reader how do you know what he is thinking unless for some reason you know he is not thinking about you, are you overweight or something?
2006-07-02 00:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you are already starting to nag him with "WHAT IF'S"
I am sure you can make a bigger problem of it than he is willing to put up with.
2006-07-02 00:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depend if he is think about some one he has no communications with then "no" But if its a friend, a guy, or someone that he works with then yes.
2006-07-02 00:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋