men what do you think???????

Question

according to my hubby am a compleate bi***ch, but I am this way becuase he never ask nor does he ever want to have sex soo what is the prolbem??..

i love sex he claims my sex drive it too high. and his is just low and then his other excuse is that i am bitchy but i am that way becuase i need sex...

Answer 1

As long as he is angry at you he will never willingly have sex with you. Perhaps you are a *********? Ever thought you could be the problem?

Answer 2

He may have a sexual dysfunction that he can't talk with you about... especially if you're being a b*tch most the time and too demanding. He may not find your "nature" very appealing and as a real turn-off... whether he's got a 'substitute' or just going without, he'd prefer that to satisfying your dominating manner. You really come across as being a B*tch and I don't even know ya!

Maybe there's been some other change in you that he has a problem with... have you gained 50 lbs' recently'?

Hey, women... check this out, will you? Guys DO NOT always have sex on their mind, it's NOT all they want from a woman! Some women actually are 'guilty' of wanting s-e-x as much or more than many of you complain about us wanting... just thought I'd share that small observance of mine in answer to this "lady".

Don't know what to tell you... try to chill and have an adult, non-threatening conversation with your guy and see if things can be worked out... understand that it might be something of a very embarassing or personal nature and you just might have to be "sensitive about it"... think you can manage to do THAT?

Stop using your hubby as your reason for being a b*tch... my guess is that you're being one, so cool it. Be a woman. Be loving. Care about more than you and your own sex drive. Buy a vibrator or rubber dong, for chrissakes.

Um... hope I helped somehow, somewhere above...

Answer 3

Is there a large age difference between you two? Has something happened recently? Was he always like this, how did he act before your marriage?

Does he have any medical problems? Is he NOT telling you about any medical problems? Has anyone cheated? Any trust issues? Are there kids? Have you always been very sexual?

Also, if you're picture is any indication, I'd say that this man NEEDS therapy. Is he afraid of really beautiful women? Is he intimidated? Do you make him feel inadequate? You two have some communicating to do. In the mean time, I wish I were him.lol

All these questions and more will be asked by a qualified therapist that I suggest you go see.

Answer 4

Most men won't call a woman that unless she gives him a good reason 2. If he's not cheating, I think your hubby has some ill feelings about something u either said 2 him r done 2 him recently r in the past, depending on how long this is been going on. Some men let ill feelings build-up inside over a period of time, instead of addressing the issue when it happens! We aren't always cheating w/another woman, we're angry about something & not sure how 2 xpress our feelings 2 u. I think "REALLY GOOD COMMUNICATION" btween the 2 of u will get to the root of the problem! Since he's acusing u of having this not so pleasant attitude, approach him n a calmer manner n a calm setting like a romantic candle-lit dinner, dress sexy, tell him u feel like there's something seriously bothering him that's effecting his feelings toward u & u would appreciate him opening-up 2 u about it. Even if it's something he just out right don't like about u! & if he really opens up 2 u, don't be surprised @ what he tells ya! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Maybe if you toned the bitchiness down he'd be more interested. From what you written you sound very controlling. Not a great attribute if you are seeking the MORE out of your relationship.

Maybe your husband is turned off by the control factor and your demands.

I can just imagine what it's like in your home when you do the I want when I want when I want it and I want it now!! TURN OFF major big time. You're being a very selfish self-centered female!!

Maybe romance and intimatcy is what is needed and you obviously at this point don't sound like either.

Answer 6

I agree with the other posts, you both need to discuss your problems. There is something else causing tension between you two besides the need for sex. Sit down and try to explain to each other what you can do to come to a common ground. Maybe it is something he wants sexually that is not being provided, and maybe you deserve more emotional support from him, but either way more communication is needed between the two of you. Let it out in the open, holding in all of the feelings in the relationship will make you hate each other.

Answer 7

First you need to sit down and ask him what the problem is.If you are married you should be able to talk about this.It could be as simple as getting bored with the same old thing all the time.Try something different.You are married so you can get as crazy as you want,and have a good laugh at the crazy things you both come up with.Or it could be something much deeper.Either way it's past time to sit down and talk.Better to be embarassed by a deep deep conversation than divorced.Good luck.

Answer 8

***** as in your crabby and mean? or ***** as in the fact that u always want sex? he never wants sex? that could b a few different things. maybe he can't get his lil solider to stand at attention anymore. maybe he's gettin it from someone else. maybe he's gay and is not ready to come outta the closet yet. u don't have to wait on him. there is a little thing called "self-service" so when he turns you down, let him know it's nothing you can't handle yourself!! is there always this tension between u 2 or is just every now and then? if it's a constant thing, seek counseling or leave. sex is too important in a relationship to just cut it out!

Answer 9

There are so many possibilities:
1) He has a low sex drive.
2)You Have a High sex Drive.
3)He could be suffering from anxiety/Depression.
4)Hormone imbalance (either or both)
5)There is no or little sexual attraction. (it happens)

See a sexual therapist/marriage counselor, make sure you bring this topic up.

Answer 10

Could it be that because your sex drive is so high, that could be causing the reason for him not wanting to be with you?
I know that when a woman tries to take control,as well as the man, The mans pride gets hurt and he begins to insult the woman and call her terrible names! Why? I could never understand that! But when the woman wants to be inferior as well as the man his willingness for sex seems to shrivel up, just like his penis does! LOL. I've learned to stay at the same pace with him!!! The more he excites me, the more he wants it!!!!
I get off just as much as he does, with out hurting his pride!!!!

Answer 11

Well, Mrs.T. That was one of the reasons I got divorced. My ex lacked sex drive. She said it was because she had a lot on her mind. There was no affection or sex and it began to effect the entire machine.It finally broke down and here I am. So figure it out now. Its effects will have consequences.