How does a man tell his wife he's no longer attracted to her without badly hurting her?

Answer 1

You can't guy... That is one of the biggest problems with getting married..

Chances are, that she already knows and is planning a baddie for you.

Get out while you are still ahead of the curve.

Answer 2

I don't think you can, unless you know some really obscure foreign language. Then you might try taking her out one night, giving her roses and chocolates, and speaking into her ear the sweet nothings that you hope won't hurt her. You probably won't get the message across, though.

I'm wondering what the point is for dropping this bombshell. Are you planning to leave her? Are you attracted to someone else? Are you planning an affair? Or are you wishing that she would trim up a bit, or change her hairstyle, or spend more time with you?

Maybe you need to look deeper into the purpose for this exchange of information. Are you ready to hear her say that she is no longer attracted to you?

Funny thing is, this happens in marriages. It doesn't have to be the end of the romance... unless you push the envelope. Cut her some slack while you decide what your motives are and where you want to head with this information.

God bless you. Sounds like the beginning of a trip down the marital rapids.

Answer 3

There is no way to tell your wife that without hurting her. Maybe you should try to go back and remember what attracted you to her in the beginning and try to rekindle some of that. Look for some romantic ways to put some spice back into your relationship. Are you really not attracted anymore, or are you just bored and in a rut. Think this through really well before you DEVASTATE your wife, because that IS what you will be doing if you tell her you are no longer attracted to her. BOL

Answer 4

if this is a loss of physical attraction because your wife's appearance has changed with time and childbearing, talk to her honestly and gently. If this is a personality loss, seek couple's counseling and be honest with her. BE HONEST. You will hurt her regardless of what you say, but it will hurt less than if you stop treating her with love and respect. This is how cheating starts. That hurts a whole lot more than telling her the truth now would. Please be sure to have this conversation in a comfortable and safe space that is private. Good luck.

Answer 5

I very much doubt it's at all possible to make that known to a woman without badly hurting her. He should probably keep his mouth shut. I am sure she will figure it out eventually, likely from the lack of sexual contact, and hopefully do something about, if there is anything that can be done.

Answer 6

undergo in ideas that line from 'Silence of the Lambs', "What can we covet, Clarice? That which we see each day." One assumes you "taking the first step" meant indicating you wanted to have a courting with this man or woman. And that he did not reply the way you wanted. you've already cheated on your heart. artwork on why you've so little understand on your husband to opt for to take the first step with yet another guy and under no circumstances enable your husband study about it. The disruption of relations existence is precisely what cheaters deserve - for starters.

Answer 7

Chances are, she already knows. Even if she does, it's not going to be easy for her to take no matter what. You can think of the best worded and heart felt speech and it'll still hurt her. I'm guessing there are other problems in the marriage so it's best to approach her with all issues, and include this one in the bunch. Also seek her opinion on what's wrong so she doesn't feel you're attacking her.

Answer 8

This is how it works bro...
Dont talk instead DO!
In the middle of the night get up and go sleep out on the sofa. She will wake up the next morning and see you out there. When wake up( she wont dare wake you up becuz your sleeping) when you wake up sneak into the bedroom if you can when she ain t looking. then pretend liek you where in there the whold time...do the same thing tomorrow she will wake you up this time saying what s wrong with you! Tell her you cant stand looking at her!
She will laugh and you just told her!
Now she will say whats the real reson. Contiune the same sentence then never sleep on the sofa agian!

This is how dan from rosanne would do it! baha

Answer 9

How would you want to be told that you where no longer hot, sexy or interesting? At least the brighter side of things is that she will be able to move on to bigger and better things and you will too.

My humble opinion is: You will always be searching for that so called next best thing relantionship so hopefully you can make number two last cause you ain't getting any younger and no one is going to put up with your sh*t for long.

Answer 10

After considering that the promises made on his wedding day were not conditioned on his being attracted to his wife, the husband begins observing his wife looking for things he appreciates in her and looking for ways he can do and say to bring a litte joy to her. Love is warmed in these ways.

Answer 11

NO WAY IN HELL YOU'LL FIND THE ANSWER TO THAT ONE PAL, BECAUSE THERE IS NONE!!! From a man who has been very happily married to his wife for just over five years, might I remind you of those vows of "better or worse, sickness and health, I promise to love and cherish...." you made on that day you were at the altar, and she was the only one you could think about.