me and my boy friend's best friend don't go along with each other. they went out of town for a long weekend. i m left alone here.....does he care about me?
2006-07-01 16:46:21 · 6 answers · asked by sweets 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You dont have to get along with him..
All that matters is how you get along with your boyfriend.
You do not need to come in between their time.
Honor that and things may get better between the two of you.
Remember. that best friend was there before you. and if you dont watch it .. he will still be there after you..
2006-07-01 16:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't know a lot about your relatonship from what you have written but some comments can be made.
There are two questions here :
* how do you feel about your bf spending time with his best mate and
* how do you feel in the relationship generally?
Is this a pattern when he goes off to have time with his friend? Or does it happen less often?
Have you told him how you feel about this happening. Its clear that you feel neglected. Did your bf tell you what he was going to do and ask how you felt? Communication is a key part of a relationship.
You do not relate well to his friend. Quite often that is simply personality factors at work. Does the friend do or say something that makes you specifically dislike him?
How do you feel about the relationship generally? I suggest if you need to ask 'does he care about me' that you have some doubts? Listen to your heart, what should you do.
Your bf might have a issue here too. His best mate (male) and his gf (you) do not get along. He may be trying to work this issue out too,
Peter
P.S.
A whole weekend is a long time, specially if you were not told it would happen.
I am married and once every two years I attend a creative arts conference that is held somewhere in my country. I am usually away for ten days around that time.
Even though the dates are known in advance and discussed and 'agreed' i still get complaint from my wife. I can see her view and I can see your bf's view too.
Do you have dedicated time for yourself too? What do you like to do?
2006-07-01 23:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cares about you. If he didn't then he would have probally broken up with you when he realized you and his best friend didn't get along. He didn't though, you are still his gf. He probally just went out of town for guy time. It does not mean he doesn't care. Unless he gave you some indication through careless behavior or words he doesn't care about you then I wouldn't worry about it. I am sorry you were left alone. I hope you have a good weekend. Try to cheer up. I don't believe that this means he doesn't care. I think he does.
2006-07-02 00:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He spends plenty of time with u stop stressing and let him spend some time with his friend thats the problem with relationships just because yall are in one doesnt mean the other cant hang with a friend
2006-07-01 23:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Young boi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably, they need some guy time too. Guys just need to learn to balance their time and not neglect either...
2006-07-01 23:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he does girl. it depends on how long he has known him. he just dont want to lose his friends as well as you
2006-07-01 23:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by HAILEY S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋