I am a girl, and I have a lot more friends that are guys than girls. My boyfriends have always hated this, and are always convinced that my guy friends are INTERESTED in me in other ways - they claim they "know how guys are". My guy friends don't flirt overtly or make passes at me, and I feel they respect the fact that I am in a relationship. Do guys keep girl friends around "just in case"? Or can they really just be platonic friends with girls? What do you think?
2006-07-01 16:45:53 · 43 answers · asked by whitewolfe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No!
Its quite simple and its called : PHYSICAL attraction.
I can be attracted somewhat to some girls but as soon as they are good looking or if both of us are too drunk it turns into a mess.
Most guys know that.
2006-07-01 16:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is such a thing a a real platonic friendship with the opposite sex. But I think what I would do so that your boyfriend could be more at ease about these other guys that are your friends is let him be a part of your friend ship with them. Don't spend your time with them and not him. Let him know every time that you talk to them and everything. Don't hide anything from him at all. My boyfriend and I had the same problem only it was him that had all the friends and we ended up splitting up cause he was always talking to them behind my back, I would always hear about it from other people and he would do this for the most part while I was at work.
2006-07-01 16:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a really good question. That requires an answer to the question: "What is a friend?"
Well, I believe that a friend is someone who will stick with you, unconditionally, no matter what, and will tell you what you need to know, not what you want to know. A friend always has your best interests in mind. A friend and you are always able to have "silly fun".
However, since the Sexual Revolution in the late 60's, the term "Friend's With Benefits" has come into play. A guy and girl will hook up simply because they are a guy and a girl. This term has muddied up the name Friend.
Still, I'm getting off topic.
Yes, in my experience, they can be. In fact, THEY BETTER BE ABLE TO. Seriously, if a guy can't just be friend with a girl with no sexual interests in mind, then what is he going to do when he decides he wants some real commitment?
Yeah, guys can really be your friends. But be mindful. All guys have penises, and when the blood is there, it is not in our brains, you know what I mean? Lol.
I'm sure some guys keep girls "in storage" for "just in case". But it sounds like your friends are genuine.
2006-07-01 16:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Nate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases guys actually tend to "be friends" with a girl because they find them attractive; thinking that it's the closest thing they can get to be near her. but don't get me wrong too, guys can also be really friendly and nice. Some relationships are just plain platonic.=D Some guys are just more closer to girls, and some girls just find it really comfortable and easy to be near guys too,=D and besides you would definitely know if your guy friend starts to flirt and hit on you. I have several guy friends and my boyfriend also thinks of the same thing, but I tell you what my guy friends and I have are totally different from what my boyfriend and I have. =D I met some of my guy friends at webdate.com same goes for my boyfriend, and even up to now I remained really good friends with those guys. It's really nice to have them around.=D They've been like brothers to me.=D
2006-07-04 21:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by crazyangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy, and I have girls that are friends that are just friends, that is I have no desire to further the relationship in anyway. This takes a pretty mature individual to make this commitment. I would say that when I was in my teens and twenties that it was harder for me to want to keep thing at the friendship level. Some more then others. But I would say that it is possible.
That being said it sounds like your boyfriend might not think so. It should be his opinion that matters more then mine, if he means something to you. Dont take that personally it is just an observation. Good luck.
2006-07-01 16:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by Duane L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, but human nature would tend to have one question the ultimate result of such a relationship, whether or not the persons involved want it. Sex aside, emotional need and closeness over time can have things develop differently than initially intended.
Circumstances between platonic friends can change, and it could be that no one is at fault, unless one obsesses over supposed root causes.
So, for example, you could be home with some male friends and one ists next to you as you geta phone call about something that profoundly effets you. That male's presence might be enough to change his relationship with you in ways you might not have thought of, as you could need him at that point. A closer bond has been formed.
Mind you that I'm not trying to speak for you or say what would happen, just specuating on what could happen. If I've gone too far, my apologies.
2006-07-01 16:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Growing up, I have always had more guy friends then girls, and when a boyfriend could not handle it he was gone, Friends will always be there, boyfriends, they c*m and go. If a guy is really interested,he will have no problem cuz, he will TRUST you and be confident enough not to worry about it. To this day I have 2 guy best friends, I stay at there house, talk to them everyday and my guy gets along with them very well. If a guy can't handle your situation, then you should not want anything to do him, because he is NOT worth it
2006-07-01 17:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends who are guys and respect me when I am in a relationship. Guys truthfully can have a platonic friendship with a girl without being in a romance. Your boyfriend should grow up he is most likely being jealous over nothing.
2006-07-01 16:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by teachermonkeymouse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys always want a back up, and you'd be wise to do the same. A long time ago i guy i know told me this:a girl and a guy can never be just friends, at one point in time they'll both want to be more, it may not be at the same time, but there's no avoiding it... and it's so true, every guy friend or otherwise that i've known since has completely fallen into this pattern..
2006-07-01 16:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by ryrybridget 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I knew these two brothers growing up and I started dating one when I was in Junior high {14yrs old} and was very close with the other one. The guy I was dating became very jealous of the relationship me and his brother had. In the end Me and him broke up but me and his brother are still very close. It is now 8 years later and He's still jealous. His daughter mother doesn't like me because she's saids that we have something going on but in all reality he's the older brother I never had and I'm the sister he always wanted. He actually treats me and tells everyone that I'm his sister. The funny thing is he looks just like my father.
2006-07-01 16:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is this. I rarely make a friend with a girl I am not attracted to in some fashion. Even though they might have a boyfriend, I still like to be friends with them. And I have a wife, and I am a good husband, I would never cheat on my wife, but I like having attractive girls around me at all times. b
2006-07-01 16:50:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋